The sex sense – an alien perspective on love and reductionism


I took an Excedrin for the morning’s headache, got back in bed and did some Wim Hof Migraine Breathing. Three cheers for our pal, Mr. Hof!!! The pain vanished, and the caffeine took me back to the words of my dear mother, God rest her soul. “We live in a sex cult.” Yeah, right out …

I Haven’t Written about Intimacy in Awhile


...because a panicdemic isn't exactly an inspiration to intimacy. IT'S A DIFFERENT WORLD SINCE I LAST REALLY POSTED ANYTHING! I'm just going to say it. If you're well and have faith in your immune system, know that you make antibodies as everyone does and feel like you can walk above the Fear Fray, HAVE SEX! …

Intimacy; Gray Area Between Relationship and Hookup?


I have to admit, if I'm not looking for a committed relationship with a man I don't pay much attention to personality. I'm looking for attraction for sex or a lover. Men are no different with women. Having touch and sex is a health issue. We all need it! I'm not throwing guilt in there …

Intimacy; Hip to Be a Ho?


It's all socially permissible and fine for women and men to be promiscuous now. Everything has changed in the last few years. I include men in the Ho category. In fact they seem to feel privileged to be so detatched. I find that doubtful. Women my age are as hot as ever and the younger …

Intimacy; You’re not necessarily in a relationship just because you have sex.


  What I'm seeing men do is, instead of doing a series of hook-ups, they decide to be monogamous with one woman. Then the assumption is that is a relationship. No, it's not; not if you don't have feelings for one another. It's just an ongoing hookup which is not a relationship. You're in a …

Heartset; Men Blame Women for Giving in to Sex if the Man Really Wants Connection


How are we supposed to know off the bat that a man is truly interested  in us? He'll behave like a gentleman and not a horny dog in the alley. He'll dress nice and take us on a date. The same could be true of a woman. She wants to know who you are not …

Heartset; Three Types of Heterosexual Relationships


The only one of these that is a real relationship is #3. The first two are sexual objectification. But by most people's standards, #1 is a real relationship and is considered prison by many men but socially increases his status. Really, any man who prefers #2 will say he doesn't want a relationship with a …

Heartset; Real Dating Strikes the Fear of God in Men


That's why so many men want to go to sex right away. They don't want to show their lack of people skills, expressing emotion, or relationship skills to a woman. Dating is a gray area with no fences, rules or customs that change with passing time. Men thrive with boundaries and go down the tubes …

Heartset; “I care about you too but…”


I've heard this line from the last five men I've dated. I think it's a MINIMUM expression of emotional involvement, fake or not to try to get sex. Meaning, he's not going to have any feelings for you UNLESS he has sex with you. I'm not judging that. It's very male. That's how feelings come …

Heartset; If You Don’t Give Him Sex When He Suggests It, You May as Well Not Exist.


Use your intuition on this one. Keep in mind the men are double-minded on this issue and may not even be aware that they are. Meaning, you'll hear gender equity pronouncements and exhortations to be direct, honest, and yourself in public and on social media and another thing in private one-on-one. In private, if they …

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