Heartset; Real Dating Strikes the Fear of God in Men


That's why so many men want to go to sex right away. They don't want to show their lack of people skills, expressing emotion, or relationship skills to a woman. Dating is a gray area with no fences, rules or customs that change with passing time. Men thrive with boundaries and go down the tubes …

Heartset; “I care about you too but…”


I've heard this line from the last five men I've dated. I think it's a MINIMUM expression of emotional involvement, fake or not to try to get sex. Meaning, he's not going to have any feelings for you UNLESS he has sex with you. I'm not judging that. It's very male. That's how feelings come …

Heartset; We Can Get a Room…


Most women suck it up even though they don't want to right away. What if you haven't met him yet? What if you've just talked long distance for a long time? I have to get a vibe in person with a guy. I freakin' don't get why guys don't care about that! They should. I …

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There's a myth I keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I'm attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I've listed above, I'll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and …

Prose; Wanting to Be Right


Why do we want to be right all the time? Why do I want to be right most of the time? Why do I glee over saying, "See, I was right!" Because we doubt ourselves too much so we are reassuring ourselves by saying it. Because others who doubt themselves doubt us and say it! …

Essay; Intimacy and Intuition


Intimacy means feelings and bonding with sex. It's true friendship, not territory, ownership, or marriage necessarily.  I have a feeling men would say sex is intimacy because that's as far as most of them go. Sex IS their feeling like hunger IS their feeling and for them, it is deep and significant. Anything physical is very emotional …

Essay; The Honest Middle Ground


My last post, I made the point that I'm not interested in fawning adoration that leads to possessive marriage. Every woman I know is at a different point with this but it has to do with emotional maturity and financial independence. Most women don't prefer marriage, from what I've gathered, unless they're getting some type …

Prose; Oblivion


Digital Artist Sandra Bauser Time fades into oblivion One memory, one vision of you and I feel whole again. I remember your voice, your smell, the feel of you next to me. In time, it was so long ago, yet to my mind, it was yesterday. My love for you is as natural as my …

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