Tough Love Right Now with Family and Friends; White 12 Dog


I love my family and friends but I am quite different than most of them. In addition, they have treated me poorly out of jealousy and because I won’t fall in line with the sacrificial family relationship paradigm taught to everyone by my grandmother. I disagree with her.

I don’t have a problem being different NOR do I think I’m better just because I have more confidence and courage. All it means is that some of us on the planet are leaders and achievers and some are not. It’s nature. Some seeds grow and become big and strong and others are spindly. So what? I don’t feel the way most people do about most things; politics, religion, the body, the earth, and the opposite sex. I like myself and feel comfortable in my mind and I think that’s all that matters. They don’t agree with me on that either.

Mars goes direct in Aries today and that’s me. For the next six months, Aries is not going to apologize for focusing on the task at hand and achieving it with as much of it as correct and fabulous as possible…for humanity. It’s not for ourselves. That’s not over and above what’s expected, for Aries, that’s the norm. It’s no big deal. We don’t expect accolades for being fabulous. We do it because we want to and we do whatever we want. We don’t need others to validate or like us and it makes us stick out like a sore thumb. Too bad. Everyone on earth can be fabulous if they stop looking for validation and agreement and focus on their task. Most people accuse Aries of being selfish with a small “s” but we are actually selfish with a capital “S”. We are in tune with our Higher Self and hope to teach others to see that in themselves as well so we can improve the planet for everyone.

The mediating planet is Mercury which is retrograde and rules Virgo and Gemini. The Moon is in Virgo all day so focus and getting tasks done should be smooth. The 5GForce is White 2 Dog or stabilizing Love. We can’t control others loving us; we can only control loving ourselves. My ex used to say, “Be your own best friend” and I took that advice.

This all begs the question that we’ve asked a million times, “What is Love?” Today is White 12 Dog which in the Tzolkin system is love, loyalty, the cooperative community at a crystal round table. It sounds like a hippie love-in. Ok. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m tone 13 cosmic so I’ll participate in that for a bit and then I need to get back to my project. I work solo.

Love starts with loving yourself which is taboo in most religions and in our society even though all the spiritual masters said it! It’s only accomplished if you see God in you and in others through God’s eyes. But you have no control over them and they don’t have to accept your love. We have free will. Unconditional love doesn’t mean we are all the same and never disagree but it does mean we won’t lash out or hurt someone on purpose because we feel weak. It doesn’t mean we’ll never get angry when someone you love is nagging or blaming you or looking for energy from you that they can get from themselves.

Love is action that is good. Love is self-respect and boundaries and taking care of yourself no matter what anyone else is doing. Love is reciprocal. If a friend or family reaches out to you you reach back. That is courtesy. Love is sharing from abundance not scarcity. If you have scarcity you better take care of your own situation before you give it all away. On the other hand, some people who have little still FEEL abundant and love to give so they give a lot even though they don’t have a lot. As long as you’re not in trouble with the law I see no problem with that. It does feel better to give than to receive if you’re in alignment.

MOLECULAR LINE-UP

There is an absence of much carbon molecule so there is not much grounding. Glycine is notably missing the Nitrogen-Hydrogen molecule that is normally part of the right side chain. Otherwise, I’d say this themeplex is key pivot point because it contains and start codon (Met) and a stop codon (Yellow Sun).

Intimacy; You’re not necessarily in a relationship just because you have sex.


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What I’m seeing men do is, instead of doing a series of hook-ups, they decide to be monogamous with one woman. Then the assumption is that is a relationship. No, it’s not; not if you don’t have feelings for one another. It’s just an ongoing hookup which is not a relationship.

You’re in a relationship if you have an ongoing friendship, you care about one another, and you hang out and go out, you love talking to one another, you help each other out sometimes and you eat together. That might include sex, it might not. It might be intermittent sex or not. The man or woman’s sexual behavior does not define the parameters of what a relationship is.

It’s time for women to step up and speak up! We need to accept that sexual communication IS a relationship to men and they don’t understand anything much deeper or how to go about it. Women understand emotions and bonding moreso and absolutely need to mix that in with the sex. But we still should not let the man say, “We had sex so you’re my territory.” Maybe you’re just dating. Sex is just part of dating.

Women are territorial sexually as well but my point is, the emotional friendship bond is what really creates an ongoing relationship; not sex. That should be perfectly obvious given how many people have hook-ups and it means nothing. For that matter, sex doesn’t define marriage either.

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There’s a myth I Rumi Water keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I’m attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I’ve listed above, I’ll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and want to put a leash around his neck or start a relationship. No, I don’t and it’s a bit insulting to assume women want or need to be hitched to a man or control him. We don’t. Women who want children are more that way for good reason but not me!

He assumes I will want to control him like a dog trainer. So wrong. So very, very wrong. I have my own life. I only control myself. I’m a cat you see. But if you suggest on a first date, “We can get a room,” Uhhh. No. Sex is not going to be the first date. If that’s what you want then you’ll get a woman that just lets her body and energy be eaten for a price or for free. Good luck with that. It’s chaos and she’s likely emotionally messed up as in “a sex addict.”

I’m starting to think it’s the other way around. If he has told me and continues to express that he likes me also, is attracted to me and also wants to have sex, he might fall in love with me, otherwise, we would meet-up. Why aren’t we meeting each other? He couldn’t hook me for sex with lying and saying he loved me as a friend. He obviously doesn’t. No integrity. He’s a user. I pose too much of a challenge.

At least I assumed it from the beginning. I let him run his game to see what he would do to get another notch on his bedpost. All lies.

Friendship and attraction are the basis of everything lasting. Possession and contracts kill it after you’ve had children. You don’t need it in middle age. Most couples break up after their kids are grown anyway. You get bored with each other as lovers and can just be friends. Sexual usage is jungle level not human level and shows a very low intelligence and low spirituality. No thanks.

The myth is that just because a woman has all of those things going on that I listed above that she’s in love with a guy. Nope. Nada. Huh-uh. Not the case.  Most women I know are very good at controlling their feelings and actually choosing them. We’re kind of expert at it for some reason, especially in middle age when there is no longer the motive of reproduction and the extreme lust that comes with reproductive hormones. Maybe we have a highly developed relationship between our amygdala and frontal cortex after fifty because we’ve learned a thing or two? We want real love and friendship, not just lust games, and personality compatibility, not just sex compatibility. Time to grow up.

I’m done. The karma machine is going to run ragged on this one. Good. I hate it when a man can’t emotionally deal with friendship and sex. It’s totally immature.

 

Heartset; What Is Your Motivation for Being in a Relationship?


Private & Passionate Prose-Cover by Canva jpgI can only speak for myself but maybe you can relate. In order to achieve intimacy, you or I, it takes a bit of self-inventory. The consequences of not doing it are more trouble and heartbreak and none of us needs that. The inventory consists of;

*How am a feeling about a new partner? (positive, negative, cynical or hopeful?)

*What are my habitual thoughts about the matter? Am I fixated on one or two specific people? Have I fixated on a certain type about which I’m fantasizing?

*Am I in it for love and am I trying to rationalize superficial motives because I don’t really believe it’s possible?

I’ll answer my own question. I’m in it for love; friendship and sex with love are my main motivations. But I hate the third question because the truth is, I feel unloveable and unappreciated based on my natural traits because I’m so different and too intimidating for possibly any man. What always occurs for me is a man is attracted to my looks but when they talk to me and get to know me they go away because I’m a free spirit, smart, and won’t be controlled. I’m not defensive about it but calm which is even worse right? So, that’s unloveable on this planet. I’m not capable of being a compliant woman with the social order. I have my own order and it’s creative. I love what I’ve created for my life and it’s my solace.

Friendship includes someone to talk to with whom I can relax. We get each other. It’s not like climbing a mountain to communicate and no one is overdramatic. There may be a bit of contention which is common but overall, you enjoy talking to each other and being together. Sex is just a pleasure and very healthy. That one is easy.

There are all kinds of studies showing that humans who receive no touch or intimacy decline in health. Shallow sex is also bad for the psyche because it lacks emotional bonding that we all need. I’m actually concerned about that for myself. But studies also show that what ages and brings down the health of women the quickest is living with a man! That sounds ironic but…

Obviously, living with the wrong man is what they mean. The wrong man is the one you’re not compatible with during normal hours, not just sex. The right man is your best friend. You’re very fortunate if you find it.

Essay; Friendship First When Dating


man and woman

…or you can be sure she is using you for sex, which is what she assumes is the main thing you want and you both go down together. No one’s life is improving there. If it’s what you both want I guess it’s fine but it’s not what I want. I’ve decided I want the whole deal again.

It’s a good idea right off the bat to be honest about what you’re looking for. There are plenty of women who just want sex and not a relationship also! You can also pay for a woman’s services and they will be professionals, fit, limber, lingerie, come-fuck-me-heels, ready to go for a price! They are the ones who are cynical about men and have given up on love and have no faith in men to be intelligent, relational, human beings.

Every woman has given up on men at some point on a heart level but not all of us can do that to our bodies.  It’s toxic energy but many men are actually at the level and staying at that level. I’m not in denial about it.  I don’t think that will be good sex, but, hey, everyone has their standards. I don’t shame men anymore either. I actually believe it’s men’s natural level to be absolutely shallow about sex and natural for women not to be. The much bigger deal to them is friendship and caring. Sex is easy for men and they’ve been shamed for it, unjustly. Women aren’t shamed for being relational or wanting to have children which all comes naturally to us! We need to stop sex-shaming everyone! So there is absolutely no point of lying and using a good woman who wants friendship, to get to know you as a person, to be with you, and possibly the whole deal.

Prose; My Only Child Turns Eighteen Today


He went from twenty inches long to 70 inches long.  Something or someone pulled him into this big, strapping, broad-shouldered, sweet, brilliant man.

Well, legally he’s a man, but now he needs to launch out into this crazy mess of humans bumping around, unaware of how their thoughts and feelings create their life.  He is a calm, kind soul so he won’t be skinning anyone alive, but he does tend to be honest in a very charitable manner so most people won’t get off scot-free from his observations.

ALEX

The day of your birth, a crisp, cold, crystal day

In my memory, eighteen years ago holds sway

Who do I value most of all?

It’s you my son so big and tall

May your life have adventures that take your breath

May you jump in feet first, unafraid of death

I know that’s odd for a mother to say

But my son has seen death like it’s yesterday

His father is gone, a year ago now

He loved our son dearly at his final bow

I’ve held the ship level as best I can

Mostly alone with some helping hand

The men do die, often you know

The woman on her own in the ice and snow

Remember that sometimes people need help

A hand or two is all when they yelp

Just as we have done in these last two years

Keep your friends close as you move through the tears

But there’s fun to be had, plenty of that

As you move around life from the last place you sat

Run the race strong, keep your head up son

And be a good friend ’til your Earth life is done.