Tough Love Right Now with Family and Friends; White 12 Dog


I love my family and friends but I am quite different than most of them. In addition, they have treated me poorly out of jealousy and because I won't fall in line with the sacrificial family relationship paradigm taught to everyone by my grandmother. I disagree with her. I don't have a problem being different …

Intimacy; You’re not necessarily in a relationship just because you have sex.


  What I'm seeing men do is, instead of doing a series of hook-ups, they decide to be monogamous with one woman. Then the assumption is that is a relationship. No, it's not; not if you don't have feelings for one another. It's just an ongoing hookup which is not a relationship. You're in a …

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There's a myth I keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I'm attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I've listed above, I'll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and …

Heartset; What Is Your Motivation for Being in a Relationship?


I can only speak for myself but maybe you can relate. In order to achieve intimacy, you or I, it takes a bit of self-inventory. The consequences of not doing it are more trouble and heartbreak and none of us needs that. The inventory consists of; *How am a feeling about a new partner? (positive, …

Essay; Friendship First When Dating


...or you can be sure she is using you for sex, which is what she assumes is the main thing you want and you both go down together. No one's life is improving there. If it's what you both want I guess it's fine but it's not what I want. I've decided I want the …

Prose; My Only Child Turns Eighteen Today


He went from twenty inches long to 70 inches long.  Something or someone pulled him into this big, strapping, broad-shouldered, sweet, brilliant man. Well, legally he's a man, but now he needs to launch out into this crazy mess of humans bumping around, unaware of how their thoughts and feelings create their life.  He is …

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