Intimacy; Gray Area Between Relationship and Hookup?

I have to admit, if I’m not looking for a committed relationship with a man I don’t pay much attention to personality. I’m looking for an attraction for sex or a lover. Men are no different from women.

Having touch and sex is a health issue. We all need it! I’m not throwing guilt in there but I do notice that the emotional detachment with a man turns me off no matter how hot he is. I appreciate the beauty of a man though just as much as men do with women. Yet, it’s not even close to being like love.

Things get tricky when a man is your friend and you have things in common and have known each other for a while. If he has a disposable hookup habit with women who are not friends how will he handle sex with a friend? Another notch only meaner? He gets double points for disposing of a female friend? Ultimately, she’s only a woman and nothing stops him from devouring as much as he can for free.

Being women, we do have the ability to make a man fall in love with us by loving him from the heart, talking to him, and being irresistibly sexy even while we’re free spirits and have no intention of having him on a hook. Personally, I have no desire for a man around just as I have no pet in the house. I’m busy with the work I love. But I’m not sure I want the burden of a man in love with me to weigh me down.

I think you have to be ready to lose the friendship on the sex altar. It happens on the attraction and flirting altar too. That just ended one of my friendships. We didn’t even have sex but we may as well have because the energy and affection were there…then it left. It was his doing because he decided to hook up with someone else much easier to handle, blonder, and more tattooed likely with piercings in all the gross places. Lol. She was his level.

There is a gray area in there somewhere. I just haven’t found the sweet spot. Que sera sera.

 

 

 

 

Everyday Spirituality; What is Your Lilith Placement?

This is actually pretty interesting. I woke up obsessed with the Lilith point position in my solar chart. I must have dreamt about it.

Our solar charts are limited with regard to our destiny and personality because they only take into account 3D solar positions of where we are each positioned on earth. When I do intuitive readings for people, I only glance, not study their solar natal chart and their Tzolkonic line-up in the Mayan multidimensional alignments as well. Those are destiny patterns.

The context of what I see intuitively for the individual is in a universal context.
I’ve been working this way for years, and it’s not hard to work up a chart. It does take time, though, and I offer it as a service. That said, there STILL is NO CONTROL or overstep by those alignments over your free will, your mindset, and your heart set. So when I look at a person intuitively, I literally see what they’re creating right now, what could be coming pretty soon and a bit further down the line. However, that can change if you change yourself in a big way.

The thing is, most of us don’t change in a big way as we go through life. It’s all usually gradual. That is the healthy way to be because of our brain and body like equilibrium. Every health care practitioner will tell you that. Consequently people who are drawn to extreme swings of behavior or health regimens are usually judged handily. That’s not fair. Sure, they may die sooner than the rest of us, but if that’s fun for them and makes life worth living, let them be. However, don’t follow their lead! It’s not for everyone.

Personally, I’m better SAFE than SORRY!
Now we get to what I’ve been blogging on. Men and relationships, dating and sex boundaries. In walks Lilith, the dark of the moon who is often envisioned as a dangerous demon of the night, who is sexually wanton, and who steals babies in the darkness. Lilith may be linked in part to a historically earlier class of female demons in ancient Mesopotamian religion, found in cuneiform texts of Sumer, the Akkadian Empire, Assyria, and Babylonia.

She was mythologically Adam’s first wife made of clay, just like him, not from his rib as Eve was. Again, this is all fictional, a character likely made up by the Jewish priests who needed a twist on Eve. Her name really means Night.

I think she’s a little Hollywood Blvd. or everyone dressed in black in Greenwich Village in New York. It’s kind of immature, but there are many women who are into this. I personally wouldn’t mess with this energy. That said, one interpretation of my chart says I need to face my inner night, my lack of balance, that is, my Lilith in Libra.

There is another whitewashed version of her that is a little Victorian. But many women take to this one as well. I can’t relate to this one either. I know many women who can and do, though. My family takes after this one.

The Lilith placement in the solar chart is about your resistance in this life. What are you ashamed of, what do you struggle with, and what do you need to rampage? Have confidence in yourself? Taking care of your body? We all know that we need to struggle to grow, like a seed germinating in its pod underground. There has to be some adversity, a freeze, to stimulate its DNA to push up out of the dark soil toward the sun. The human soul is exactly the same way.

To that end, google “Calculate my Lilith in my natal chart” to find out. Then, there are many sites that interpret it. As you might guess, my Lilith in Libra has everything to do with the balance of power with men, and it is a huge issue for me. Apparently, the blindfold on the goddess Justice is idealistic. It doesn’t exactly work that way on Earth.

I am a lightworker, but in what ways do I need to see my dark pieces? It’s a valid question because we all have vices amidst our virtues. I prefer the picture below as it indicates the wisdom and animal totem of owl, birds, nighttime, and the full moon. Those things are all good and evoke the womb, the second chakra, goddess energy, and what the men truly crave from women in balance during sex.

I believe the balance between women and men begins with each woman truly honoring the power of her body, her light pieces, and her dark pieces. Men (and women) can help us see what those might be, but we should never give others control over them.

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