It’s Biology, Not Socialization
“At the time, it seemed clear to me that any between-sex differences in thinking abilities were due to socialization practices, artifacts, and mistakes in the research, and bias and prejudice. … After reviewing a pile of journal articles that stood several feet high and numerous books and book chapters that dwarfed the stack of journal articles … I changed my mind.”
Why? There was too much data pointing to the biological basis of sex-based cognitive differences to ignore, Halpern says.”
“Halpern and others have cataloged plenty of human behavioral differences. “These findings have all been replicated,” she says. Women excel in several measures of verbal ability — pretty much all of them, except for verbal analogies. Women’s reading comprehension and writing ability consistently exceed that of men, on average. They outperform men in tests of fine-motor coordination and perceptual speed. They’re more adept at retrieving information from long-term memory.”
I am a female and all of that is the case for me. Is it for you? In this area particularly, we need to be patient with each other as men and women. Men are seriously behind us in communication and verbalization skills which women need SO much with a partner. We need to be able to talk to each other. Men can’t take it after a while. They just need our bodies, is what I’ve noticed. That can be hard on women who need talking, bonding, and emotion to be turned on. Men only need that some. Some don’t need it at all which is a real problem. But curiously, I’ve heard more men say, when looking for a partner, “I just need to be able to talk to her.” That’s a good thing.
“Men, on average, can more easily juggle items in working memory. They have superior visual-spatial skills: They’re better at visualizing what happens when a complicated two- or three-dimensional shape is rotated in space, at correctly determining angles from the horizontal, at tracking moving objects and at aiming projectiles.
Well, of course, they’re better at aiming projectiles, come on!
Navigation studies in both humans and rats show that females of both species tend to rely on landmarks, while males more typically rely on “dead reckoning”: calculating one’s position by estimating the direction and distance traveled rather than using landmarks.”
It’s Important for Women to NOT Expect Men to Be Like Women. It’s Important for Men to NOT Expect Women to Be Like Men.
“New technologies have generated a growing pile of evidence that there are inherent differences in how men’s and women’s brains are wired and how they work.”
So, here’s to peace and bonding.
Please read this short article.
“Some of the scientists who study the brain (neuroscientists, behavioral psychologists, etc.) believe the vagus nerve or spindle neurons that connect the prefrontal cortex (new brain) to the insula (old brain) may be the communication superhighway that links the conscious (new brain) to the subconscious (old brain). The subconscious brain may be using this very superhighway to communicate intuition, gut feelings and insight (aha moments) to the conscious brain.”-Thomas C. Corley
The latest neuroscience is investigating and talking about the “new brain” or the “conscious brain”. Humanity has been sitting in and using the subconscious mind for most of our existence (1 million years). The subconscious mind comes from parents, family, town, local provincial environment. It has totally helped us survive in a tribal world that expects certain behaviors. All of our institutions have grown up around it. It’s a sponge, defines our local reality, and is subjective. There is nothing objective or conscious of the subconscious mind! It pretty much defines brainwashing and most people’s reality on earth! But in the case of the evolving brain, that’s a good thing. You have to understand and be able to get on with the locals to survive. Consciousness doesn’t happen overnight.
But, as we can see by how pluralistic and expressive all people the world over are becoming and boundaries morphing, we see symptoms of humanity moving into the new brain or the conscious mind. It is just now occurring. Technology linking everyone is sort of the “leg up” here. We are starting to have unity of mind. That will morph too as our reality moves into the conscious mind and we express ourselves as individuals who are inter-dependent.
Many that have been working in the holistic, spirituality, or paradigm shift movement have predicted this change since the 1970s, and have been experiencing events that are indicative of moving INTUITION in particular from the subconscious mind to living and manifesting in the conscious mind. The hippies started it. Most of my adult life (35 years from ages 20-54) has been defined by using my intuition IN my conscious mind and pushing my subconscious mind to the background. That is not usual but that’s what I did. The proof is in my new book “Healer”. There is no way I would have been able to overstep subconsciously created, “reality-based” events that were foisted on me if I was not residing in my conscious mind. The Universe had my back and I was cared for.
While it may be true that all thoughts originate in the provincial subconscious mind, those of us that have not accepted our upbringing as the totality of reality, didn’t like or agree with our upbringing, or felt our upbringing fell far short of real love, want to move quickly into our conscious brain, or “new brain” because we’re happier and feel more in charge of setting our destiny.
Written 9/7/17 I remember writing this. It was a tough one. I was so tired of feeling used.
Dissolve people from my space that do not take care of themselves. I’m not your healer. I’m healing myself from victims and off-loaders. You heal yourself, I don’t heal you. That’s not my head trip, that’s yours.
Dissolve people from my space that think I should be on a saint pedestal just because I have integrity and do good in the world. I’m just a human being that refuses to tolerate certain energy just like everyone else. I’m SO happy to disappoint them when they compete with me when there is nothing to compete with. Everyone is different. Don’t compete with me. Read my book, then compete with the death and suffering that I never hold onto and know how to release. Dare you! No pity. That’s ego too. Compassion is all that’s called for; for me and yourself.
Dissolve people from my space that expect me to lead them into the light and refuse to do it for themselves. I’m not God nor do I want to be. Walk into your own light after I show you how!
Dissolve people from my space that say they care and then try to put me under their boot when they don’t know what they’re talking about.
Dissolve relationship with family members that don’t know how to let go of negative emotion and want me to be as dependent as they are. No. I don’t need to be.
Dissolve ties to people who walk late into a meeting they set up with me and immediately say, even before we begin, that they want nothing to do with me ever again after this meeting. REALLY!? Grow up. There is not going to be a meeting because you want to dominate, not discourse. I don’t work with people who want to dominate. I work with people who respect me enough to be my equal.
You want your power back?… I just handed it back to you because you erroneously gave it OVER to me when I never fucking asked for it!
Dissolve those who are always up to something, say they support you, then they vampire energy from you because they don’t take care of themselves.
Done. Dissolved. Happy to be just human. Happy to never, ever, ever want anyone to put me on a fucking pedestal just so they can try to knock me off to prove something to themselves.
You’re jealous of my strength and achievement? Then be jealous of the death, loss, vampiric sucking, hate, and jealous family to whom I courageously flip the bird to in order to get to this point. I know I deserve to be happy and abundant and not be surrounded by people that want to either worship me or destroy me for their selfish ego purposes.
I’m just a human being with friends doing the work I love.
Once the sun comes up, the sun in my eyes charges my brain like a battery.
The position of the shadows on the wall meanders aimlessly to new places like a squirrel trying to find a home for his peanut.
The refraction off of the green leaves will meet its demise when the colors change and drop like so many ancestors on our family tree. Into the ground, they go.
We’re all soiled phantoms, you know.
One day full of light and life, and soon, the Earth reclaims us.
Do you know there hasn’t been one, single human body to escape this transformation?
What happens to our light and life, like that green leaf?
The light changes.
“Healer” is also Still Available on Amazon. Just search on Lisa K. Townsend
Healers work hard to heal themselves with some help from others or through meditation; they don’t heal others. I am a therapist that can get you aligned and educate you about what you can do for yourself but I never encourage dependency because you can heal yourself.
Healers are authentic, living examples of how we can step out of our subconscious imprinting from parents, family, society, and provincial upbringing to create our conscious mind and live a truly free life of our choosing. Free Will is Universal Law and the foundation of our government in the U.S.
We also know how to access the information in our unconscious mind through the dream state. The unconscious mind transcends the intellect, brings forward intuition and allows it to MANIFEST in physical! The information in the dream state, where there is no thinking, is available to everyone.
My first book is available through the Kindle Store. The direct link to purchase it is:
“Our families mean a lot to most of us, but they can also attempt to block or control our choices. Many times, we don’t talk about that part because we feel they provide us with a measure of emotional and social security we wouldn’t have otherwise.
We now know that the subconscious mind is programmed by our parents in utero and through the first few years of life. How can we overstep that programming and move into our conscious mind where we make our own choices as adults?
Seventeen years of hands-on clinical experience with patients taught Lisa many ways to achieve it. She learned how to reclaim power over her life and teach it to her patients using holistic medicine and holistic values, Reiki, and Tzolkin Cosmology.
Synchronicity, not coincidence starts to figure into events. Everything happens for a reason. Once the lesson is learned, it can be released.”
The paperback will be available for sale in early September, also on Amazon Kindle Store. Enjoy!
I want the music a little louder,
for our kiss to last longer,
to breathe a little deeper and drink more coffee.
I want more swing to the jazz and a louder backbeat and
to dance a bit longer and sing with our friends,
Let’s finish that bottle of wine and stay together
because tomorrow is not promised
and I have to look at your face as much as possible.
What is more important to you; the learning process, enjoying the moment, the movement, the relationship, experiencing the event itself…OR seeing and feeling the manifested product from your choices and actions?
Anything manifested in physical is fleeting, temporary, like a cloud that will eventually evaporate like your body at the end of your life. We all really need to think about this when we start coveting something. Do you really have to have it or do you need something else that’s inside you?
The other side of the coin is the experiences we have, what we learn about others and ourselves. Now, in this scenario, there are no mistakes. Everything we go through has a learning curve or we are doing it for the adventure, to see what it feels like. There is the possibility that we will feel things emotionally or physically that we have never experienced before. The experience is not fleeting because it affects your spirit. It doesn’t matter if the experiences feel good or bad because both are temporary. This too shall pass!
If you believe in the soul and eternity, then you’ll want to go in this direction. No one can take your memories and experiences away from you. While it’s vital for everyone on the planet to have food, water, air, and a roof over their head, what we need most beyond that is human companionship, adventures, and learning.
It would be a mistake to size up your success based on “stuff”, tangible this and that for it will evaporate and mean little to nothing in the end.
I was looking straight ahead, as usual, driving my car.
I very rarely look at the car behind me in my rearview mirror.
For some reason, this time I did.
She was alone in her car with sunglasses on. I tried not to stare because somehow, I could tell she was upset.
I must have had my empathic radar on again because she looked normal for ten seconds.
I kept glancing back though.
Ok, now she was crying very hard.
I could tell by the shape of her lips as she was trying to control herself and wiping under her eyes beneath the sunglasses.
So many questions and pictures went through my mind.
Did she just get a call from the hospital that her son had gotten into a car accident?
Did one of her parents just die?
Then she started hitting the passenger seat and crying while we sat at the red light.
Being the kind of person I am, I wished I could let her know I wanted to reach out to her somehow.
When she got angry and hit the seat, that caused me to think her husband either asked for a divorce, she caught him with another woman, or her boyfriend text broke up with her.
Then the light turned green.
I wondered all of that, seeing something I’ve never seen before all in a space of forty-five seconds.
I hope she’s ok but I’ll never know.