How I Hook Up To Source Energy


Well, first off, as it is on Earth for most people, the losses, traumas, and deaths pile up to the point where you might not want to be here anymore. I m just being honest.  Sometimes we all feel like it’s ridiculous, like this last election cycle.  WTH?  Then I check in with myself and say, “Nope, I m still having fun, enjoy my body, sex, food, friends, my son, my work, the seasons, music, you name it.”

My question in the midst of it is, “How can I make sense of this suffering I witness most others going through and my own?”  The first thing I do is realize were all in this together. No one, anywhere, is immune from the soul lessons here. I don’t believe in fortunate or unfortunate, lucky or unlucky. Don’t ya think we make our own fortune by our choices?  Its a big well we can dip into with our mind and heart. When I dip into that well, that’s how I connect to Source.

It’s universal to want to connect emotionally and physically to others. I feel that is an inclination from Source and I let my body feel it. Making art together, cooperating, joining together for a just cause. All of that connects us to Source because Source is in us.

I don’t recommend feeling sorry for yourself for too long or you won’t get the wisest use out of your limited time in the body. Everyone goes through the dark night of the soul. You could use that experience to grow. Feel the depth of it, go into those emotions and what other people think of your “negativity” be damned while you’re figuring it out.  I did it by myself and called on my friends. I didn’t use a counselor, although you could.  I journal and I wrote a book.

I’ve been hooking to Source energy every day for about 25 years now in all of those varied ways.  I make sure I live in a peaceful, non-violent environment. I eat well and exercise so I like my body and can feel its rhythms. In this way I can watch my breath as I close my eyes and drop my mental focus. Now I pay attention to every body part starting at the head and going down. I have a body balancing technique I use that includes color and Reiki.

I affirm to Spirit/God that I m here to serve and love all life. I affirm that I promise to love myself as best I can in order to do that.  I give myself permission to detach from people that are not loving or loving to me or don’t like me, then do something called “bless and release” instead of cursing or hating them. If I focus/pray about one person, a flood of intuitions come in about that person because I am in receive mode from Source. I see people and events unfold like a movie and it’s been happening all of my life. I note all of that in my memory.

I wish well for everything in front of me no matter what state it’s in. I ask for revelation on specific issues on which I have a question and always listen for the answer. The universe knows I listen and respect them💜. They impart information to those that believe and listen.

So, love and take care of yourself, join with others doing something creative that you love, accept that everyone goes through dark night of the soul and you’re not alone, have as much freaking sex with whoever you want to stay healthy, and follow your intuition.  Don’t hesitate to walk away from people who don’t get you or don’t like you.  You’ll know because you’ll feel bad around them.

You can rampage it on this planet and be free. It’s not worth it to follow, obey, or sit it out because it’s going to be over before long anyway.

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Marriage is Prison for Some Women


One of the main comments I’ve heard from women patients  in my office is, “I want to be alone, not married. I wish I was free and single like you.”  Many women feel like prisoners in their marriage and their physical ailments and stress level are consequently very high.

I bet many married men say it to single guy friends too, but I wonder. I’ve heard men benefit far more from marriage than women do and suffer more in divorce.  Most women thrive after divorce.

What are we looking at here?

Marriage is an institution where you’re seeking the sanction of church or state with a license and/or a ceremony but what are your true motivations for doing it?  Maybe the institutions function like an agricultural stockade where animals are inspected, traded and sold. You’ve heard of animal husbandry. Well, when a woman gets married her mate is called her husband which makes her a reproductive animal in society’s  view. So maybe marriage is primarily suited for only young women in their reproductive years who want to have children.

Maybe what we’re looking at here is farming and breeding. I don’t see farm animals having an opinion, going to college and typing on a laptop the way women do these days. And many young women who get married don’t necessarily  want children. Then maybe they shouldn’t get married.

I think it’s time to retire these outmoded ideas regarding a woman’s relationship with her mate. Marriage isn’t always necessary. Balance of power between woman and man needs to be discussed and kissed about.  We can be monogamous with each other because we want to be, not because somebody said we should. It’s nobody’s business but the couple and is becoming outdated due to woman’s empowerment. It’s a good thing.

Do you know about your own body?


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Everyone walks around in their body 24/7 yet know very little or think it’s too complicated to figure out. I’m supposed to know something about my car, my house, the grocery store, my money and food, drugs, how to drive, the highway system, office politics, and the holidays, but knowledge about my body, or the care of it? That is someone else’s job; the physician.

Isn’t that a little suspicious?

I am in my body and Mind 24/7…but someone else knows more than me about how I work? I’m an individual.  No one is exactly like me.  Everyone is unique.  A doctor, a shrink, a counselor…knows MORE than you?  Because…they’re smarter?

Do you know your own house, clothes closet, car, and garage pretty well?  But you’re not in those 24/7.

Do you know your own kids pretty well?  But you’re not with them 24/7.

Do you know your way to work?  But you don’t make that trip 24/7.

Where is your liver in your body?  Where are your kidneys?  Where is your pancreas?

Where is your underwear drawer?  Where are your kids?  Where is your bank?

What’s in your blood?  Where is blood made in the body?  What vitamins and minerals are essential to the function of your brain?

Take ownership.  You own a car, maybe a home, things, a bank account-all superficial. The most important thing you have is a body and thus a Mind.  No doctor, pastor, priest, or teacher knows more about you than you do.  I feel it’s just as important for small children to learn basic anatomy and all the functions of the body along with reading and writing. They need to understand early on how the cells of their body work, what’s in them and what’s not in them.  It’s not that hard and it’s essential to understand your own nature so you can be empowered to heal yourself as your grow.  You learn to brush your teeth, get dressed, walk, read, write, speak, and take care of your own body.  You know how to balance your bank account, pay bills, do chores, and heal!

If anyone is more interested in basic anatomy or even what you can do to deal with viruses and colds with herbs, meditation, etc., let me know.  I may start a little educational series on here.  As a Reiki master and Master Herbalist, I don’t approach the body the way Prevention Magazine or WebMD does.  I promise you that.

A Healers Day Dream


membrane bound carriersMy only dream when I was kid was to become a doctor.  Yes, I’m trained in licensed in healthcare according to Earth rules, but now I’ve taken that a step up and I’m a Healer.  I make a living doing this.  It’s real and grounded.  I align with all healers and all healing energy on Earth.  Let it be so.

I daydream a lot.  I day dream about human bodies healing as naturally as the trees grow and about my body healing naturally as well.  It needs release and Love.  I dream of the day when our minds can finally feel and comprehend that physical suffering is not necessary and is not natural. Change is natural but suffering and pain is not.  That is the old way. Resistant, habitual thoughts cause pain and then the energy manifests directly into the body.  I dream of a day when that can be observed and quantified so we understand it better.  This is beyond intuition.  The natural state of the body is one of alignment and well-being.  It is no different than a certain flower just being what it is.

I am ready for my heart to stop breaking at the suffering I empathically see and feel on this Planet.  There is too much un-necessary suffering, intolerance, and unkindness.  But is not the healers job to fix that.  It is each person’s job to fix themselves and ask for help or find help.  The Universe will respond.  I will be firm in guarding my serenity but I will not apologize or defend myself for preferring it to chaos and struggle.

My gratitude for what I feel in my own body is immense as I work with patients.  I have Immense gratitude for the understanding and loyalty of certain friends and family.  I am done with those that are not in affinity, do not want to help, do not want to heal themselves, and believe in nothing but cynicism, revenge, drugging, meaness, drunkeness, abuse, and violence.  None of that is real and I’m done resenting  it or being angry that it exists on this planet.  I know different. Let it be what it is.  To each his own.  I will not see it or spend time acknowledging it or observing it.  Nature is too vast and too powerful.  The human body and mind is too complex and awesome to miss one heartbeat.  Life is eternal.  The planet will go on and so will we. Bless all life as we come into peace and wholeness on this fractured world.

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The Feminine Word Equivalent to the Masculine Word,”Emasculate”


It’s time for this conversation.  So the first emotional, resistant response from blogger “Anonymous”: on here was this;

Was hoping to find an answer to an interesting quirk of language, but instead found a rambling, borderline nonsensical Feminist rant about gender roles.

I’ll do you a favor; TL; Dr. Is there a female equivalent to the word ’emasculate’? Answer, No.”

 

He says he’s doing me a favor with this hateful reply.  What do you think? So, here we have one confirmation of a male who cannot fathom being equal with a good woman. At least he put some emotion into it, but he made quite a few spelling mistakes.

The word emasculates, as we all know, means to deprive a man of his male role or identity.  Strong, justice-oriented women who have self-esteem and know their power are ridiculed for doing this to men, no matter what the men have done to women.  They can do whatever they want to women and she’s supposed to take it and not ask for respect?  Sounds like a Christian, Republican, Trump voter. Most men, I don’t believe, are like this, but many are.

What would be the word for depriving a woman of her female role or identity?  Below, the word “defeminate” is suggested but I don’t believe it’s caught on.  It doesn’t really roll off the tongue, no sexual suggestion intended.  This word actually sounds similar to defemate.

Dr. Mary Stopes described here in Margaret Jackson’s The Real Facts of Life: Feminism and the Politics of Sexuality, c1850-1940:

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What about “efeminate”?  This word is more of a direct correlation with the word “emasculate”.

Well, we can banter about “defeminate” or “efeminate” or take a poll. The real work will be to define what it means to deprive a woman of her female role?  My visceral response to this, which I feel is realistic, is that women don’t have “a role”.  Women have advanced so far, because of our choices and willingness to work for it, that it is common knowledge that we can be whatever we want to be and do whatever we want to do, or not do!  Every woman’s personality is different as well, so how she expresses her femininity is unique.

There is very little social pressure on women anymore to be married or to be mothers. That said, I see that the instinct is still there in our bodies which can cause a lot of conflict with our minds.  It is entirely socially acceptable for a woman to have her own property, money, job and no family.  Maybe she just has a job and friends and has casual sexual relations with men and women!  No one cares anymore.  It’s just important to honor yourself and be healthy and happy.

Feminism and women’s liberation has brought us to this point.  If a woman has her life organized and has money, she can hire a handy male or female to do whatever work she needs to be done around her house; yard work, snow blowing, construction, painting, you name it.  If she’s intelligent, why would she waste her time doing work that she can pay someone else to do who is good at it!  She has her own work to do in her quiet, clean house that does not have a man stomping around, causing a ruckus, watching sports, and being noisy and disrespectful.  She is no one’s territory. She belongs to herself and her spiritual life.

The way I see it is, men with their polyamorous proclivities, innately wired into their brains to sleep with as many women as they can and get an ego brush from making as many women scream as they can, have whored themselves for millennia now.  They don’t seem to be interested in Love or Bonding which has secured life for women and children for millennia as well.  Love and Bonding are our bedrock.  Many men can’t feel it nor do they operate that way.  Sure, the man may feign loyalty, get married, put a ring on the fourth finger and become a father, but most women believe that it is in his nature to fuck as many women or men as he can before he dies.  It’s not his mandate to love as many women as he can before he dies or love one woman as much as he can before he dies. There are enlightened men in the minority, but it’s not the norm.  This is despite his religious or spiritual beliefs.  Nature always trumps belief folks.  If ya gotta go, ya gotta go.  Sex is no different for men.

It is different for women.  The sexes are not equal yet.  Women understand heart and relationship, children and home, business and money, assertiveness and organization, and leadership, we are the dominant species on the planet.  Love trumps hate and usage. Love trumps whoring your body for shallow, nonbonded sex.  Love trumps patriarchal objectification of women.  Love and bonding trump superficial sex just for an orgasm. Friendship is the highest bond there is.  Spirituality with Love, during sex, trumps giving it away with no bonding.  When most men find out that a woman loves herself this much, and they can’t measure up, they’re out the door for the next porn flick or booty call because they’re not willing to be a good student and eventually love in reciprocation.

If a user male somehow manipulates that love from us, there will be righteous indignation completely justified. Our bodies and our souls embody Love.  This is a huge planetary reality that weaves throughout nature.  Women’s bodies are synced with the Earth, Moon, and stars.  We can be no other way.  If a man wants to learn the way of all flesh on Earth, he will listen to and follow the woman and attempt to raise himself up to be her equal.  Women have raised their minds up, why can’t men raise their bodies up?  In return, she will love him with loyalty and adoration.  That’s the best thing he’ll ever be able to achieve in this life.  I know it’s just an ideal.  It’s not really happening.

The day men help us instead of hinder us caused by making more mess and noise on the planet is the day there is more peace on earth.  But they don’t like peace.  They like to blow stuff up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Independent Woman


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This article kicks ass.  You might say, everyone needs someone. Well, a truly independent woman only needs a few close people at most.  She absolutely does not rely on what others think of her for success.  In fact, it’s the opposite.

Here is the link:

http://elitedaily.com/women/afraid-independent-woman/1100327/

 

Middle Age Dating


I’m fifty three.  My seventeen year old son says, “Mom, you’re such a hippie”.  Well, sort of .  The birth years for hippies are 1945-1965 so I was born at the tail end; in 1963.

Now, if you sat in the middle west in a christian church, surrounded by white people and Republicans, you didn’t get the hippie memos about loving each other.  You only got the memos about marrying a nice girl or guy, only having sex if you’re married, only having sex to breed children, sex is generally sin because the body is sinful, anal sex is sinful, earn money, wives be submissive to your husband, and obey your parents.  I’m sorry, but you’re not hippie material.

I never thought I was a big hippie but here I am, totally holistic, spiritual, having set aside my Christian upbringing, healthy, happy, into free jazz, educated, mouthy, empowered, and I want to have sex every day and enjoy it!  All that happiness and freedom-yes, I guess I am a late stage hippie.  I know all about responsibility.  I have a mortgage and bills, a child, and work.  That’s all a joy to me because I’ve created a life I love.  And-I’ve always been monogamous.  I can barely juggle one man let alone several!

So, what is the emotional hang up of men my age that want to get married?  Why would you get married in middle age when you are no longer going to have children?  For men; status.  It’s a measure of success that you’ve been happily married and have well-adjusted kids.  The point of marriage is for the woman to corral a good man to be the father of her children in her child-bearing years.  Otherwise, there is no good reason to be married. Love is not a reason for marriage.  Marriage is only a legal contract.  If love was the reason for marriage the divorce rate would not be so high.  Millions of people are in loving, monogamous (or not), relationships and love each other.  Marriage functions for security of the child bearing woman in a patriarchal system and that’s it.

Men who want to get married a second time “to fix” the failures they think they made as a husband and father are barking up the wrong tree. First of all, it’s not all your fault.  It takes two to tango.  Second, you need to let the past go.  You can’t fix it, you can only learn from it. Third, your time is better spent learning how to love.  No doubt, part of the reason your marriage failed is because you did not love your mate or yourself.  Do you know what real love is?

Real love is attentiveness, kind tone of voice, affection, patience, communication, expressing how you feel, nurture, empowerment and freedom to be yourself.  Not because the Bible tells you to do it but because Life shows you that.  It’s IN you.  Mates are supposed to learn from one another and be good students to one another!  That’s one of the main reasons for the bond.

I don’t plan on getting married again.  Middle age women usually don’t.  If you want to get a good woman’s attention, take care of yourself, express your feelings, be willing to learn how to heart bond, and prepare yourself for a lot of happy sex because there is no chance of pregnancy for the woman.  We are finally free!

 

Men Have Feelings During Sex


WHAT?  Seriously?

I read this article two days ago because I’m trying to figure something out.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/david-wygant/sex-reveals-his-true-feel_b_7905412.html.

My jaw was dropping open as I read it.  I’m not sure I believe it but it is from “The Huffington Post” and the fellow sounded sincere.  Then I discussed it with some women. They concur, they do believe men have actual “feelings” about their woman’s body that can be poetic, dramatic, and deep.  The women don’t understand it or necessarily believe it either, but they do believe men have feelings too.  But during sex?  Because of our bodies?

My mind is blown.  No man I’ve ever been with has expressed himself in a poetic way to me about my body.  I’m not saying they haven’t conjectured it or that I’m not hot enough to have been with hot guys.  I have!  But they have not expressed themselves to me about how they feel.  Why? I’ve gotten compliments about certain parts and of course the lusty chasing after me and wanting intimacy which a woman assumes means, the man is into her.

We call some of this lustiness from men objectification of women.  It’s not really fair is it.  If we’re straight, we love a man to love us.  We need a man to take care of business.  But why is feeling emotional and lusting after a woman’s body objectification when it’s nature?  The men probably call it art…or love, or passion.  If they do not feel passionate about a woman’s body, then what?  Maybe they are gay or just not that into her, or have a different kind of brain that changes their libido…like high functioning autistic men.

It’s called objectification if the guy doesn’t care what you think or how you feel.  I care more about how a man thinks and feels (and acts) than how he looks.  In fact, his mind is what absolutely turns me on, far more than his body.  I don’t know how many women are like me.  His tone of voice and the timbre of his voice is the other turn on.  I do believe most women are like that regarding a man’s voice.  I think our brains are helping us pick the right man to be the father of our children when we’re young.  After 50, that all changes.  But continuing on about men’s feelings.

The author writes, “When a man is having sex, there’s a rush of emotions. When he sees a beautiful woman underneath him, or a beautiful woman on top of him, he gets lost in his sensations.”

WHAT?

I didn’t get the memo.  I really didn’t.

He goes on to say, “Most of the time, the minute he’s released he realizes what he’s said. Then he thinks, “Oh my god, what did I say? I can’t believe I said all those things. I don’t really feel those things. I can’t believe I told her how much I love her, and how much I want to be with her!”

WHAT?  Now, your fellow didn’t actually say this, but his “way” and his thoughts did, is what this author is saying.  Well, how about that.  I am certainly in a dark forest here guys.  I wonder how many other women are?

The author finally says, “Our real feelings come out after the sex. I want you to remember that. I’d like you to pass along this blog to every single woman you know out there. Call it ‘dating insurance’. Make sure he has feelings for you after sex — before you commit your heart.”

WHAT?

I mean…where does it end?  Is this guy high or is this true to the men out there?  The mystery of it all.

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Growth


It’s not very sexy is it…that word.  It sounds very serious to me.  It doesn’t matter how it sounds though because it’s an inevitable part of life.

Most of us like to have fun.  Life is fraught with enough negative media, break-ups, death, grovelling for money and head banging over college exams and getting along with professors.  It’s important to take breaks, go for walks, have some tea, dance, listen to music that makes you happy and want to move.  I do all of those things to be happy in the midst of challenges, which will frankly, never end until we’re done with this life.

But there is another kind of growth.  The kind where your heart is involved, reasonably so, but your mind assesses the situation and there is doubt.  We make a very big deal in our culture about agreement, affinity, and a meeting of the minds.  We’ve all been in enough relationships to know that you are never going to agree 100% on everything when you are mated or in a close friendship.  This is one of the biggest challenges in life and the one that precipitates the most growth for my soul.  It also causes the most angst.  I think that is sexy but that’s because I’m a soulful woman.

Destiny plays a hand here.  What lessons did you come to learn as a soul?  What do you need to push through?  Can you feel that certain people are good for you to be around and others are not?  That is the case.  “That’s NOT the kind of person I need to learn anything from!”  If you can say that right away about someone, there ya have it!  But with others, it’s not so simple.  You might not agree with them many times but you love them and you have no idea why.  I think it’s a gift.

If you’ve ever loved someone who is very different from you or at a very different place in their life, it feels mysterious.  I wonder why I’m drawn to that person.  I really don’t have a lot in common but just some.  Maybe we have things in common that we don’t even know about yet.  But what is superficial?; Political party, the past, and how much money we make as long as it’s enough to live or thrive as the case may be, style, culture.  So don’t discuss the superficial things then.

What is important is whether or not our hearts are open and we care for people. Do we have faith in something eternal or at least something bigger than ourselves? Do we take care of and love our bodies (health)? Do we abide by the law?  Do we want to improve our minds? I would say these are foundation issues in friendship and love.

I have lost all of the mates I’ve had so much in common with; either through divorce or death equally.  That’s not what keeps people together.  I believe it’s destiny and love that is the glue.  Then I just have to roll with it because everyone has a choice in these matters.fall leaves

 

Our Veneer


The veneer on a piece of furniture can appear many ways.  It can be layers of paint, different stains, all of it peeling off maybe.  There can even be gashes and dent to the wood underneath.

What the wood is underneath is the truth and it’s rarely seen.  It’s the heart of the matter.  It’s how the piece of furniture looked at it’s founding; it’s construction done by the carpenters hand.  I love watching that progress and how the wood smells.

When I look at any piece of furniture that has been stained or painted, I always wonder what the grain of the wood looks like underneath and what type of wood it is.  Then I wonder who built it and in what year and for whom they may have built it.

All of our social media; facebook, twitter, instagram, on and on, are veneer of humans.  We are all projecting a public image that we want others to think is true of us.  It’s the image that we are comfortable with others seeing.  It is the truth regarding how we express ourselves but it’s partial.  It serves to protect our deepest emotions and events of our lives from being too visible, too vulnerable.  Maybe we are aligning with a group that “fixes” all that was wrong with our mother or father instead of aligning with our true selves in group settings.

I actually accept that about others.  The reason being…underneath we are all innocent children that have had to learn to cope in certain family dynamics and fundamental societal expectations where most of the time, no one asked us what we wanted or how we felt.  They just told us what we should do.  Knowing and obeying those parameters helped us survive, kept us alive even.  So we view that compromise as fundamentally good.  But it is surviving, not thriving.  That’s how the veneer starts.  Most of the veneer comes from religion, state schools, and our family.

It’s something to keep in mind when you communicate on social media.  There is no way you’re getting an authentic picture of a person on any of those sites.  We all cling to religions and political parties that we feel emotionally comfortable with culturally.  That doesn’t mean that a person who is opposite of you doesn’t have a good heart or a stable mind.  It’s amazing how convinced we can be of how right we are when we surround ourselves with people who agree with us.

It’s not about a group being right or wrong.  It’s about caring to know who people really are underneath, listening, and being authentic ourselves.  We’re called to love-not to judge…anyone…ever…for any reason.

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