I hesitate to post this, but there is a big difference between a woman loyal to earth and nature and one who patterns herself after patriarchal oppression or manipulates it to get one over or power over.
I was setting a reasonable boundary with a male patient a month ago because he’s married and keeps trying to ask me on a date and makes inappropriate comments. He said, “I didn’t come here to be abused.” God, that was ridiculous. I set an appropriate boundary for someone who has none. That is good. I’m doing good and he is bad.
For cripe sake, I am never mean to patients, but they are disrespectful to me, which is bad, no matter how many boundaries I set because I’m a woman with authority. It is really something that people just have to hammer at that to prove something to themselves because they are weak and misbehaved. Out!
He said that because he’s not getting HIS WAY per HIS AGENDA with me in MY OFFICE. This happens all the time for me with men. Their egos delude and blind them. It doesn’t help that he’s a millionaire. More ego and delusion. I don’t care. It’s my office and my house, and things are my way or the highway.
I’m just doing epic treatment. That is all I am here for on the planet, yet people try everything else per their agenda to get what they want. FOCUS. I’ve helped this man with his tragic neck mega big time, and he refers people to me, so for him to say this was uncalled for. This is boundary setting vs. abuse.
If you weren’t parented properly, anyone setting a healthy boundary with you in a normal tone of voice feels like abuse as an adult. *sigh*. Being a therapist isn’t all that great when a 75-year-old adult acts like a 5-year-old.
The mean woman or the b…. is acceptable and pretty hip in our modern society. She is all over the place and uses her body to control men and feels perfectly justified in doing so. She is all over media, famous, and superficial. I think they look PLASTIC like Barbie.
She is a matriarchal feminist who controls as much and as many as she can and makes as much money as she can. The loving, strong, intelligent woman with boundaries and a brain but is not materialist is absolutely unacceptable in our modern society because she shoots a hole through patriarchy that oppresses men and women alike as well as all cultures! She is about empowerment and taking care of herself, and being happy. “What does she have to be happy about if she’s not hot, rich, and serviced by a man?” say the superficial materialists. Blind.
Most men don’t know the difference between these two women because they are both independent and assertive, although one is aggressive like a junkyard dog and will control a man in the home, in a relationship or in the workplace. If the man has been wounded in their youth by their mother or another older woman, they may be blinded by lust or love. Older women hurt young boys emotionally and physically all the time, and no one talks about it. It’s a taboo subject. In our society, men are supposed to “man up,” but women aren’t expected to “woman up.” That keeps women in a lower box and the genders unequal as well as the power structure. And so, older abusive women keep patriarchy in place by abusing young males.
Women conceive, form, and birth men from our bodies! We make them! The woman is the source of man, and we wonder why they are scared of us? Women are powerful creatures and really get one over by acting like a doormat to a beta man or giving away sex with no love. If all women the world over took their power and admitted their power, the entire planet would change.
The matriarchal feminists don’t take care of themselves and believe in dominating everyone, not just men. Many blame men for most things, and they can be monstrous, worse than any man. Others are repressed and have lingered in patriarchal marriages with mentally ill beta men who have also been wounded by our patriarchal system.
Even after divorce, they stay somewhat emotionally attached to them so they can procrastinate on facing their own subconscious wounds. It’s a type of deflection and projection. I have patients like this, but these clients are everywhere in every profession. Are you seeing now how patriarchy needs the compliance of both female and male to function as a slave holder and mind programmer?
We don’t currently live in a society where women and men are taught to love one another in freedom. It’s all a type of territory, and slavery put on a fake romantic pedestal of marriage, but that seems to be ending with the younger generation… maybe. If they can figure out gender equity and mixing lust with love, more power to them. But they must still each take care of themselves and be kind or nothing counts.
I think I’ve stayed in lust mode in my brain because I’ve lost too many people I’ve loved. It’s like a car idling. My life isn’t idling but my feelings about bonding in a relationship are definitely idling. Maybe I’m stuck in lust gear because it’s emotionally safer. There is no risk of having your heart ripped out and stomped on the floor by death and life itself if you don’t go into love gear and really start driving.
He’s acting more like a human being than a dog in heat now through my gentle instruction. I’m teaching him how to treat me which I think all men need. Yes it makes them high maintenance but some of them are so dang cute, I do bother with it. Still, this guy is a live wire. Good thing I guess because I tend to be too. For my young readers, we’re in our late 50’s and sex gets hotter not less hot, just for the record. There is plenty of libidos there. I’ve been through this too many times with men not to know what’s going on.
Professional sex workers are as important to men as professional therapists, counselors, and psychologists are to women. If relationships mean the world to most women, and they do, then they like therapists who help them navigate the choppy waters. Women are more complex than men. We are also given more freedom to express our emotions in society.
