Re-Program; There’s a Big Difference Between a Mean Woman and an Assertive Woman with Boundaries

I hesitate to post this, but there is a big difference between a woman loyal to earth and nature and one who patterns herself after patriarchal oppression or manipulates it to get one over or power over.

Anima and animus. We are all both.

I was setting a reasonable boundary with a male patient a month ago because he’s married and keeps trying to ask me on a date and makes inappropriate comments. He said, “I didn’t come here to be abused.” God, that was ridiculous. I set an appropriate boundary for someone who has none. That is good. I’m doing good and he is bad.

For cripe sake, I am never mean to patients, but they are disrespectful to me, which is bad, no matter how many boundaries I set because I’m a woman with authority. It is really something that people just have to hammer at that to prove something to themselves because they are weak and misbehaved. Out!

He said that because he’s not getting HIS WAY per HIS AGENDA with me in MY OFFICE. This happens all the time for me with men. Their egos delude and blind them. It doesn’t help that he’s a millionaire. More ego and delusion. I don’t care. It’s my office and my house, and things are my way or the highway.

I’m just doing epic treatment. That is all I am here for on the planet, yet people try everything else per their agenda to get what they want. FOCUS. I’ve helped this man with his tragic neck mega big time, and he refers people to me, so for him to say this was uncalled for. This is boundary setting vs. abuse.

If you weren’t parented properly, anyone setting a healthy boundary with you in a normal tone of voice feels like abuse as an adult. *sigh*. Being a therapist isn’t all that great when a 75-year-old adult acts like a 5-year-old.

The mean woman or the b…. is acceptable and pretty hip in our modern society. She is all over the place and uses her body to control men and feels perfectly justified in doing so. She is all over media, famous, and superficial. I think they look PLASTIC like Barbie.

She is a matriarchal feminist who controls as much and as many as she can and makes as much money as she can. The loving, strong, intelligent woman with boundaries and a brain but is not materialist is absolutely unacceptable in our modern society because she shoots a hole through patriarchy that oppresses men and women alike as well as all cultures! She is about empowerment and taking care of herself, and being happy. “What does she have to be happy about if she’s not hot, rich, and serviced by a man?” say the superficial materialists. Blind.

Most men don’t know the difference between these two women because they are both independent and assertive, although one is aggressive like a junkyard dog and will control a man in the home, in a relationship or in the workplace. If the man has been wounded in their youth by their mother or another older woman, they may be blinded by lust or love. Older women hurt young boys emotionally and physically all the time, and no one talks about it. It’s a taboo subject. In our society, men are supposed to “man up,” but women aren’t expected to “woman up.” That keeps women in a lower box and the genders unequal as well as the power structure. And so, older abusive women keep patriarchy in place by abusing young males.

Women conceive, form, and birth men from our bodies! We make them! The woman is the source of man, and we wonder why they are scared of us? Women are powerful creatures and really get one over by acting like a doormat to a beta man or giving away sex with no love. If all women the world over took their power and admitted their power, the entire planet would change.

The matriarchal feminists don’t take care of themselves and believe in dominating everyone, not just men. Many blame men for most things, and they can be monstrous, worse than any man. Others are repressed and have lingered in patriarchal marriages with mentally ill beta men who have also been wounded by our patriarchal system.

Even after divorce, they stay somewhat emotionally attached to them so they can procrastinate on facing their own subconscious wounds. It’s a type of deflection and projection. I have patients like this, but these clients are everywhere in every profession. Are you seeing now how patriarchy needs the compliance of both female and male to function as a slave holder and mind programmer?

We don’t currently live in a society where women and men are taught to love one another in freedom. It’s all a type of territory, and slavery put on a fake romantic pedestal of marriage, but that seems to be ending with the younger generation… maybe. If they can figure out gender equity and mixing lust with love, more power to them. But they must still each take care of themselves and be kind or nothing counts.

Essay; …and that’s why there is no attachment

rsz_1sex_workerProfessional sex workers are as important to men as professional therapists, counselors, and psychologists are to women. If relationships mean the world to most women, and they do, then they like therapists who help them navigate the choppy waters. Women are more complex than men. We are also given more freedom to express our emotions in society.

The same goes for men with professional prostitutes. Men are simple. Prostitutes are likely the top women on his list because they’re willing to do whatever he wants and needs to please him with no relationship so he can continue being dedicated to his work and money. Today, at this moment, that could be considered toxic masculinity. I’m really not sure. I’m observing the issue. That’s love and that’s heaven for him, just as relationships are for women.

Yet think about the fact that in American society, sex is not considered loving, is degraded, is ultra-natural and is considered to be far below bonding, relationships, and love. Two men, I’ve spoken with absolutely agree that sex can be like defecation to them and that’s fine with them. Anything physical to men is far more novel than it is to women. No woman I’ve talked to would view sex that way in a million years. Sex is spiritual and emotional for us and it really is toxic for a man to ask us to be any other way. Women that agree to that hate men.

But men are supposed to submit to female values which are widely considered to be superior. Are they? Or are these values biased? Are women’s sex values ever toxic? Like, only marrying a man for the child she can give him, the father role he can play, and the money he can provide while she does that? Isn’t she using him?

I have no position on this yet but I am examining the issue because I have very intelligent males friends (more than one), who believe it’s perfectly fine for women to be professional sex workers and treat me like they wish I was one, free of charge, no emotions. I’m not. I’m a human being, a woman with a warm heart, and a professional therapist. But the men that come into my office treat me like I should be a sex worker, unrelenting. The events in our society seem to be making men even more aggressive than before on that score!

What’s a good woman with a good heart to do who likes bonding and love? We live in a fallow garden. Our children grow up and move on with their lives. We have to cultivate doing what we love, have our own money and work and our own homes. It is a mistake to trust men or to rely on them for anything if you’re a good-hearted woman.

Above all, take care of your health. You’re the only one really keeping an eye on things. That’s the reality, only no one wants to admit it.

 

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