This is the new normal. She’s in the news every day which is no accident. We all know that what makes the news is somewhat scripted from on high. This new normal is two things; we’re being programmed to accept the type of woman that she is and the power she can wield and second, they want to see whether we’ll accept her or not or how we respond given the irrational resistance and scapegoating of Hillary. But be aware of what Hillary was scapegoated for; the sins of white men and their privilege. All white women are. This is a particular irrational bias we get projected onto us compared to other women, as though all white people are the same assholes. We birthed the bastards that do this to the world. “Yeah!” And, did Bill really do her any favor? To a great extent she could never be assessed in her own right because of him. That system of political power sharing for women has failed because of unrealistic patriarchal rules on men’s sexuality. This is a test.
I’m pretty sure she will be treated better. Plus she’s younger. Think about all the unconscious assumptions in there. She’s Hispanic, very smart, single, beautiful, thin, and young. Ok! There isn’t any depth in there yet as far as her record or character. Still, I like her vibe and the work she’s doing. I’m just pointing out how superficial we are about objectifying women so we can check how programmed we are.
Can you think of any other woman who you see every day since she was elected? It’s really unprecedented. What I find extremely refreshing is there is no man attached to her to define her, objectify her, or control her. She’s single (formally). There is no ring on that finger and that is such a good thing. The days are over for women to be a man’s territory or to be possessed by him. The men are going to have to win her heart and mind to share in her sexual energy, not just buy her affections or marry her into your attractive family, then get her pregnant. That is if she’s intelligent and not mired in provincial ritual lacking any imagination whatsoever.
As I’ve mentioned before, I believe she’s being groomed to run for President in 2024. Whoever mandates the grooming does it from their secret club. I don’t think any of us know who these people are. It’s the same people who made Trump President and told Hillary she would not get her chance. Our elections are fake. The electoral college proves that. My intuition tells me that in the next ten years we will have much more public gender equity and power-sharing and less marriage. I think that’s a good thing.
Who gives you permission to be who you are and act as you wish?
The people who live with you? Your boss? Your mate? Your parents?The government? The Church? The Bible or some other religious book?
“We do have laws that come from all of our governments. They are called The State. The two offshoots of The State are THE CHURCH and SCIENCE. Those two dogmas are essentially equal siblings that like to fight for transcendence over THE TRUTH. Neither one of them is going to win but they definitely kiss the parental butt of money and political power bequeathed on them from Big Daddy, The State.”-ME
The State has always worked cooperatively with the Church and Science to keep the masses corralled. Keep that in mind as you watch TV and use social media. Don’t waste your time on reacting to politics. It’s all controlled by the media and whoever is above the President. They are excellent at mind control and crowd control as well as manipulating our feelings. Because of the above fact, in no way can we trust that we’re getting any real disclosure from any institution. So it would be a poor choice to need any permission to be who you are, create what you want and need to create from any of those folks. This is why the preponderance on creative self is so important. They do allow a few outliers as long as they don’t become too powerful and the rest of you view us as freaks. Humans love to see and hear what others create and it’s extremely empowering for all of us to express how we feel, move our bodies, paint, tell stories and engage with one another as co-creators.
State Money and Politics as Power
The worship of money and power stunts all of that and it’s bad for the planet. The healthcare industry is in the VICE GRIP of The State. Just today, I’ve gotten 10 health insurance robocalls from within my area code. That’s harassment to comply with the social order. I refuse to buy health insurance because I’m holistic and choose to spend my money on MYSELF. I’m not supposed to be doing that. I’m supposed to be oppressed, take their pills, get sick and die like everyone else. I’m non-compliant and see a Naturopathic Doctor. I recommend boycott no matter how much they nag and coerce you to spend money on health insurance. They’re not getting squat from me or millions of other holistic folks. Cash is Queen.
Permission to act comes from within you and I promise you, the Universe has your back. I’ve literally experienced it thousands of times. People may help you some but they will never have your back. You have to rely on yourself. We are free to work out the specifics of our destiny in these bodies of ours. You must be methodical and smart about your plan; not dramatic and reactionary. The over-emoting and holding onto the past is going to waste your time on this planet. Just get busy and give yourself permission to be the main actor in your life. The rest is mostly an illusion. Have fun!
I’ve been married and divorced three times and I don’t regret any of it. All three of my husbands were brilliant, adoring men who tend to be what I prefer. I’m not an easy woman to live with because I’m passionate, freedom loving, willful, very physical, and intelligent. I’m pretty much a wild filly although when people see me, they assume I’m a chump or a pushover because I’m full of love, warmth and feminine energy. That’s all true until you cross my line. I’m very patient and will discuss anything and everything until I see you’re immature or not reciprocating. Then I’ll silently walk away.
Two of them actually ended because of death or tragedy. This reason for divorce is beyond our control. It takes a very negative toll on love and you both descend into the black hole of loss. Be sure to get help and climb out of it before you try to be in a relationship again. Otherwise, you’re offloading that grief onto someone else that doesn’t deserve it. You have to heal yourself with professional help.
There aren’t very many reasons to feel guilty about divorce. Life happens and it’s all difficult. Of course, this is my opinion from fifty-six years of observing humans and myself. Most couples do divorce after their kids are grown. And then sometimes they decide they are friends and get back together again. But the basis of any relationship needs to be friendship. Monogamy and marriage are a good idea when you’re reproductive age and having children. Your kids need both parents present if indeed they are present. Of course, the structure won’t work if one parent is busy being a workaholic or some other addiction. Then it’s all fake and harmful for the children. Still, you can try.
The balance of power between women and men outside of monogamy will only work if both are in complete freedom with their body and sex life. No more double standard. Also, the romantic fantasy needs to take a hike. Women are responsible for their feelings and men theirs. We no longer “make each other feel…”. The other day my friend advised, “Don’t be a nurse or a purse.” That can go both ways with a man or a woman! Meaning, seek interdependency, not dependency. When you’re married and monogamous, having a family, you’re dependent on one another. That’s just a reality but will end when the children are grown.
There is no expected possession, dependency or monitoring after monogamy. That’s parental behavior. I like monogamy but it should flow naturally out of what you feel, not rules, and is really only required when there are children involved. It should not be an expectation otherwise. I can’t remember a time when I did not hold this as a value. Even as a child I would express this kind of thing to my mother and she’d just snicker. I just believe in freedom, love, and creativity. If you have some emotional heavies to deal with, seek out a counselor. Don’t offload on family or friends. I think being too heavy or negative can ruin relationships. Everyone is at different levels with this but running more positive and less toxic energy should be at the ratio 85/15. I mean, a minor complaint or little fit is no big deal with a friend or lover but an ongoing heavy emotional habit or dysfunctional addiction is a relationship killer. There is no winning on that one. You must both be taking care of yourselves, yourself or you’re not desirable. That’s a no-brainer.
There is no rational point of marriage or monogamy after you’ve been married and had kids. There is no point of marriage and monogamy if you don’t want children. Every family ends at some point or should if it’s healthy! Otherwise, no one is growing and changing. I notice the women have a stranglehold on the men and the men have become dependent and couldn’t live without the woman. That’s a bad deal for men. Men can learn how to take care of themselves too! What happened to women being empowering for men in return for men being supportive of women? It needs to be a two-way street. Encouraging male dependency is not cool. Coddling a male or doing things for him that he can do for himself is very dysfunctional. I hope, as a culture, we realize that marriage, monogamy and falling in love has a biological function but after that, socially, it doesn’t usually work.
Saturday’s Spin comes from the great jazz singer Carmen McCrae. This song is remarkable. Guitarist Bucky Pizzarelli is on this with her. His son is guitarist John Pizzarelli who I met up at the Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island when my husband at the time, David L. Hay, was gigging with John. It was a Rosemary Clooney concert. Dave was the piano player for the Grand Hotel. We all had little kids. Ah, the memories.
That sometimes sails across the patterns of my mind.
The silence follows me and dreams just disappear
and then I find myself inside a silent tear
to lose the loneliness.
I’m not the laughing kind.
I can’t say anything I really want to say.
I guess I try so hard I stumble on the way.
What is reality and can it be defined?
When you’re a fool like me it’s never really clear
so you have silent dreams inside a silent tear.
What is reality and can it be defined?
When you’re a fool like me it’s never really clear
so you have silent dreams inside a silent tear.
What most people mean when they say I’m sorry is, “I’m sorry you caught me doing something I should not have and it hurt you.” They’re sorry they got caught. If you don’t get caught or no one is bothered by your action, you’re not hurting anyone right?
My first husband used to say, “Just don’t do it again.” Of course, a person is going to do it again. I did. In my case, when I’m mad I tend to say something hurtful. People always do what they feel they need to do, want to do or feel compelled to do no matter what anyone else says.
When a friend or someone I’m close to say they’re sorry, I believe them in that I do believe they don’t want to hurt me. But that doesn’t mean they’ll adjust their behavior “for me” nor should I expect it. Most people won’t. Our first loyalty is to ourselves emotionally and I guess that’s as it should be. Whether or not the person close to them can detach from the things that repeatedly hurt them or not is the question. After all, it’s not that we intentionally hurt others, it’s that others let themselves feel hurt by us. They don’t have to. They can stay detached from certain behaviors and not let themselves be hurt by it. How we feel is in OUR hands, not others. If someone tries to tell you otherwise just ignore them.
Check how you feel in your heart when someone close to you hurts your feelings. That is using your intuition. If you just have a new insight into their personality and don’t judge them or diss them, then you love them. Your intuition just helped you pivot away from letting their personal issue hurt you and you stayed in your own space. Good for you. Self-love is intact and loving them is intact. But you also have a new heads up to their weak point and can detach next time.
When they apologized did you receive their apology and forgive or let it go? Or did it scare you and now you hold a grudge? If you went into fear and resentment that is not loving. You are using your intuition in that situation too. Unless you move the feeling to your intuition you won’t be able to assess the relationship accurately. That’s why it’s important for both men and women to be in touch with how they feel in their body.
There are levels of apology that correlate with Platonic Love relationships. The Platonic Love blog is a few posts back. I feel humans are called to love at all times; Agape, Philia, etc. So even in professional client relationships, it’s important to apologize and forgive. Love at all times will change the world.
In Greek mythology, the word and name Psyche means intuition. It doesn’t mean mind, analysis, rationality, psychology, or psychiatry. The fact is both males and females have intuition but we need to talk about our higher minds as intuition. There is no other purpose for knowing and understanding emotions which manifest in the body unless we’re going to move them up to intuition. Intuition stimulates the higher mind to work in tandem with rationality which is slower. It’s the right and left brains which needs to be equal.
In Greek mythology, Apollo and Dionysus are both sons of Zeus. Apollo is the god of the sun, of rational thinking and order, and appeals to logic, prudence, and purity. Dionysus is the god of wine and dance, of irrationality and chaos, and appeals to emotions and instincts. Both of these characters have become a little problematic for our Psyche or Intuition.
It’s problematic in that we have the degradation of Psyche or Intuition. Even though at the end of her saga which was my last post, Zeus made her immortal. His son Apollo has tried to eclipse her since. In the national divinity of the Greeks, Apollo has been variously recognized as a god of music, truth, and prophecy, healing, the sun and light, plague, poetry, and more. Apollo is the son of Zeus and Leto and has a twin sister, the chaste huntress Artemis.
That sort of explains Apollo’s hyper-masculinity. His twin sister Artemis was the goddess of the hunt and was probably a better shot than him and likely a chaste lesbian. This is just playful conjecture on my part which I feel free to do with myth. Nevertheless, everything in Greek thinking has permeated Western society.
How did Intuition come to be degraded in submission to western, male, rational assessment? Psychology Today explains,
“Intuition is a mental matching game. The brain takes in a situation, does a very quick search of its files, and then finds its best analog among the stored sprawl of memories and knowledge.“
From there, you’re able to listen to intuition and develop a “hunch” about a certain situation.
No. Intuition is not a hunch. It’s the psyche knowing what the truth is. It’s the higher mind, many times connected to Spirit or Source, guiding your path. It’s not just a hunch if you interview professional readers and intuitives. We literally can see the energy, events, and people around someone like a movie and tell the client what they are creating or drawing to them or who or what is still hanging around in their space. Then they can change it if they wish now that they’re aware of it. My clients and millions of others always confirm what we see so we know we’re right. Everyone can do this for themselves if they’d open their minds and allow the connection. But there are so many societal biases and fears that most people don’t. It’s a mistake.
It is very insulting to call it “fortune telling”. You create your life in every aspect and we’re just seeing what you’re creating. There is something to destiny but the details of your destiny are chosen by you. This is very important and very empowering as opposed to a therapist telling you that you can’t change your past. We believe that in a way, you can. You can re-vision it to your liking. They may say, “But that’s denial”. Yes. Deny negative circumstances that you ARE aware of and did happen, that you are not denying happened, to remain in your psyche. Stop talking about it, feeling it, and defining yourself by it! Decide for yourself that you no longer need it in this dimension or the people who perpetrated it. You can cut them off if it was very, very bad and I encourage people to do that as long as you’re really done with it. Create something new for yourself that is balanced with who you are and what you want that includes your intuition and rational planning.
There is no need to go off the deep end with emotions or get dramatic about anything. The way to do that is to take care of the body and nutrition, make sure you are grounded in the body and have some structure to your self-care habits especially if you were not raised to take care of your body yourself. That’s very common so again, no need to complain about it. When it comes to physical care, overstep the emotions and just do it no matter what mood you’re in. That re-wires the brain. That’s where you start and any good fitness coach, medical massage therapist, P.T., or Reiki therapist can help you with the bodywork and the rampage of loving your body. I do that all the time with myself and my patients.
Remember that paying for and seeking help with your new life is money well invested and not a sign of weakness but strength. That said, you still have to do most of the work yourself.
Where does the term platonic love come from?
“It is named after Greek philosopher Plato, though the philosopher never used the term himself. Platonic love as devised by Plato concerns rising through levels of closeness to wisdom and true beauty from carnal attraction to individual bodies to attraction to souls, and eventually, union with the truth.”
He was also a pedophile so there you have seeds of the modern Greco-Roman Church. I also see in that progression the problem males have with the objectification and emotional attachment to the physical and getting a bit dramatic about that. As I’ve said before, women are very matter of fact about everything physical and attracted to a man’s vibe, affection, and generally whatever gets her motor running about him. We’re not particularly focused on his appearance or body parts as it is for men. Meaning, I’ve heard a man will “fall in love with” a woman’s breasts and marry her just for that; or her face; or her legs. I can’t even fathom being that superficial and most women would agree. This is the foundation of Platonic love designations; the way men love.
What did Plato’s mother do to him as a child? The subject is still not talked about in 2019. What’s interesting to me is that when the word “platonic” is used now, Eros platonic love (see below) is left out, usually by a man who has a whore-madonna or hookup-possession, black and white, passive-aggressive view of the role of women. There is a distinct pride many men take in denying women affection and love but not defecation sex. They know that women need and want affection as much as the sex act itself, maybe more. So there is a power play there. Women have check-mated that by going to the arms of other women or just satisfactorily taking care of themselves and being celibate. Thriving is important in the face of love withholding. I can’t say I blame women if they are in the least bit attracted to other women sexually. At least there are all kinds of love there.
I just ran into the word platonic today in an e-mail and now I need to take a shower because it was used in the context of denying Eros simply because I asked for love and affection with sex from this man who has been my friend for two years. We’ve gone from polyamorous hookup suggestion (Ludus platonic), lusty talk and plans with a mutual attraction to my REALISTIC lover and friend suggestion, to THIS.
I’m not doing PlatonicPhilia which is the way he means it. I don’t jump through men’s definition of relationships hoops because my needs are never met. What a disaster.
I looked up the different types of Platonic love and they are;
- Eros is sexual or passionate love or a modern perspective of romantic love.
- Philia is the type of love that is directed towards friendship or goodwill, often is met with mutual benefits *that also can be formed by companionship, dependability, and trust.
- Storge is the type of love that is found between parents and children, and this is often a unilateral love, meaning a one-way street. Parents love the child but the child does not return it and leaves to form his own love relationships outside of the immediate family. It’s actually natural but many cultures won’t allow the child to become independent.
- Agape is the universal love, that can consist of the love for strangers, nature, or god.
- Ludus is a playful and uncommitted love, this is focused for fun and sometimes as a conquest with no strings attached.
- Pragma is the type of love that is founded on duty and reason, and one’s longer-term interests.
- Philautia is self-love and this can be healthy or unhealthy; unhealthy if one places oneself above the gods (to the point of hubris), and healthy if it is used to build self-esteem and confidence.
In my personal life, I am ErosPhilia with a lover or two, if the man is mature enough to tolerate it. I’m finding that they usually aren’t. Men emotionally need possession and territory of a woman (the way his mother adored him). The problem there is I’m not his mother.
I tend naturally toward Agape love in my public and work life, having Venus in Pisces. I love at all times which can be confusing for Americans. Since barely anyone really loves in our society on any level, because of lack of authenticity and loving touch, when they encounter someone who loves them at all, they mistake it for Eros or personal love. It’s not, nor can it be in a professional setting. If you’re not friends or have Philia love and know each other well, there can be no Eros. In the State of Michigan, it’s illegal to be in Eros with your clients as a bodyworker so it doesn’t happen.
They say, “There is no wrath like a woman scorned,” but I think there is no wrath like a son of a mentally ill mother who neglected him and possibly abused him sexually. I believe those wounds go deep in men and are largely untapped in terms of public dialogue. A mother’s love is supposed to be the most sacred love on the planet, yet, most men I’ve talked to don’t speak very respectfully of their mothers. I think it’s a complicated relationship for a man, to be sure; the most complicated of his life, bar none. The women he has relationships with bear the brunt of it.
I haven’t thought about or had a platonic relationship since I was in my twenties! Good, God! This idealized, Philia love with no sex is so…dumb and unrealistic. It’s also highly unnatural. Anyway, it’s a good thing I can unpause Zoosk at any point.
This could be considered a slight move toward lover awareness on his part but the overriding energy of a lover is awesome sex and affection or Eros. It’s not idealized at all! It’s full of Eros, is extremely carnal, meaning body which is all good. Yes! Come on! The body!
The garden still lies fallow. I hate to say it, but this Platonic Philia crap sounds like religion to me. Next thing I know I’ll be hearing about Church and that he’s saved.
There is much talk lately about never sacrificing yourself in an intimate relationship with a lover or a partner. I agree that it never works to lie or to give up so much of your time and what you want and need to do with your body and energy that you become very unhappy.
I’m single, dating, totally getting healthy and feeling my goddess core after having been to hell and back with men and babies dying; four all together. I have a wonderful son who is twenty. He’s a fabulous man and trying to figure it out as we all did at twenty. As I look for a new partner at the age of fifty-six the landscape and reason for mating is completely different and has completely changed. The younger men don’t even hesitate now to let me know of their interest and I actually really like younger men…as lovers and friends. They are far more open-minded and less biased. But as a mate? I’m truly leaning toward someone my age so that we can support and understand one another.
It seems to me that mating is now more about friendship, cooperation, and helping one another for the second half of our lives. The libido is there and there has to be an attraction but in no way is sex the same because I can’t get pregnant. It’s a big deal and huge incentive to stay mobile, hip, and sexy. As you age you really do need more help, more muscle, and a helpmate for different reasons instead of raising children.
However, there is a big difference now between giving something up of my single life habits in middle age and the sacrifice for my family in my youth. You realize this might be your last hurrah with mating love; real love; not love based on societal marriage and children which is based on family norms and proscribed roles. Love in middle age is completely free. No one has to approve of you because you’re going to have children together. You’re not going to merge immediate families necessarily. You can if you want, I suppose just out of habit, but there is no obligation to. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks; at all. There are no expectations on any front because you don’t share DNA with children.
When you value someone’s presence in your life, you let go of a habit or activity and compromise because you want to not because you have to. So there is no more sacrifice. It can be unconditional love. The fact of the matter is, when you have a spouse and children, you HAVE to do certain things. There is no choice whether you like it or not. Honestly, becoming a parent does require sacrifice which is very worth it, is extremely hard but it ends and many people are left alone in their house. Some people hate it. I love it! I really enjoyed having a family but I love my own life too and have been pondering whether I’d want to give up pieces of it for a new mate.
I’d be willing to adjust if I really loved and valued my partner and knew that we were reciprocating. There is no way I’d fall into my old role of jumping when he needed me, jumping when my son needed me, cooking when they’re hungry. Nope. Once in a while, I might but not if I don’t feel like it. There would also be much more space in our togetherness because you really do treasure your alone time after you’ve had a family. The quiet is really priceless.
When you own a car, you have to look at the dashboard once in while and you’ll see there a speedometer, an odometer, a fuel gauge and tachometer that give you readings on what’s going on in only parts of the car. In no way do the gauges control the way you drive, who the driver is, what road you choose or your route. You still absolutely rely on them though for making choices.
In an airplane, there is an airspeed and direction dial, and altimeter, a compass, and directional gyroscope, a rate-or-turn indicator and a clock in addition to countless other dials. The airline pilot has to study for years to become a commercial pilot and they still run into trouble, into situations on the earth that are far beyond their control, the plane crashes, and everyone dies. That is tragic indeed, something everyone fears and it happens even more frequently in a car. The interesting part here is reading the dials aren’t going to really save your life. Paying attention to your intuition will though and many people have testified to that.
We have a body and a physical consciousness that is born and then dies. Similar to any trip you take in a car or an airplane you’re traveling from point A to point B. You are born in City A and you will die in City B. That is a guarantee. Yet, what are our gauges and dials for having a high-quality life? Are there some dials and gauges we can keep an eye on for our Minds? What have humans used for centuries that have proven to be reliable guidance systems for who they are as the traveler in a body? Our body in this case, like a car or a plane, is our four-dimensional space suit and is definitely mortal. Like a car or a plane, it will expire like everything in nature.
But human beings have a disembodied Mind and it’s been proven over and over that it takes us far beyond anything mechanistic. We are not just a mechanized body like a car that goes to a mechanic called a doctor who then fixes us. We’ve all experienced how our attitude, choices, emotions, and habitual thoughts go directly into our cells and affect our health. However, it’s more than that. We made choices as a soul, in cooperation with God, J.C. our spirit guides to use our Earth time to grow as a soul, to be tested by the adversity here in heaping amounts and then in our success, to celebrate with joy. Then we die, but the memory of Earth continues on to the next place and the people we loved here we will see again. It’s no accident that almost the entire planet believes this and it’s written in every religion. Why? Because we have had irrefutable visitation from them that’s been written down and many lightworkers can channel your ancestor that has crossed over pretty easily with astounding accuracy. Our lives can be read in the ethers like a book. There really are no secrets. That said, in no way do I want to know all of it nor do I need to. Nor will I indulge in a soul-wrenching vice and misuse my gift. I use it to make decisions for myself and to help others who ask. Otherwise, I live a normal life.
Most people the world over believe that we are eternal souls, that when our body dies our mind and consciousness lives on. Some quantum physicists even have proof that only a part of our mental life lives here on Earth as a holographic projection. The ancients believed the same thing. Where is the rest of our consciousness? In another dimension, in Spirit, in Source. Religion has tried to dictate it’s dogma on human society in order to control our free will but the double-mindedness of “God is in control” so give yourself to him but “Yes, you have free will” isn’t cutting it. We have free will, God is real, the laws of cause and effect turn, most of us feel loved and watched over by spirit guides or ancestors, we know our lives happen the way they do for a reason but Spiritual people part from religion in that we pound no book and have no desire to control anyone. We really ARE free spirits and we accord the same right to others in love.
We read books but we have an ancient oral tradition and an empirical one that is written down in many books that prove all the Spiritual things we teach in complete respect and cooperation with nature; not worship of it. It’s a VAST library and one many people call esoteric. That includes astrology, numerology, tzolkin cosmology, channeling, energy balancing, and natural care of the body in line with its natural functioning. We are not planes, cars, computers, or androids. We are made of flesh and blood. I assess the situation using all of my skill and knowledge and write it down for you. If it’s very personal, I’ll just tell you and do not write it down. You could do this for yourself but you could fly a plane yourself too! It takes training and work.
There have always been helpers and humans who come to a planet to help the travelers read the dials on what it means to be human and what our potential is. The potential of the human Mind and Heart is really limitless. I can help you read some of the gauges and others can help you turn your Mind ON! What lessons did you specifically come to this planet to learn? What is the biggest challenge you face? What is the dominant personality trait that you need to work with in order to stay alive and thrive on this planet? Who would a proper mate be for you and what personality traits might they have?
There are rational answers and there are intuitive answers but they come from the same Source; your mind and heart that works when it’s hooked up to and in alignment with All That Is in whatever system you feel comfortable in.