Possession in a Relationship is a Double Standard

This issue has always befuddled me as I observe myself and others bonding with a partner for as long as I can remember. It’s the double standard regarding monogamy for women and men. No one is telling the truth.

Men portray a desire for novelty, a polyamorous lifestyle but they are the most territorial and jealous when they find a woman they really want to latch on to or as they call it, “fall in love”. They will marry and swear monogamy but they don’t usually mean it. Any woman with a brain in her head knows that. They may mean to try which is admirable but they aren’t wired for it. So, the possession thing works really well for them to attempt to control it. If they can possess and dominate their wives, that’s a turn on and maybe he won’t have to stray. He’s got what he needs at home. She’s his love slave or so he thinks. She lets him think that.

Women portray a desire for bonding, family, reproduction, monogamy, and love and they are much more territorial about their children, making sure they have a father than they are the man himself. I’m not sure guys know that, but it’s the mother love dominating the situation. He has a role to play in her home and it’s for her children. Men have a use and it’s to give us babies and be a present father. That’s not always the best thing for a man as a soul and I’ll be the first to say it! Men need love too but those babies usually win. Being possessed does not work so well for women nor do women really want the extra work of possessing a man. She possesses her children and now women are possessing themselves.

Now as I look at this, it seems like men are the ones not receiving the love they need. I used to think it was women. Actually, it’s both women and men because of reproduction. The children are getting all the love and there’s nothing left for the partners. This is a near-universal issue and after the children are grown, most parents divorce. Some even divorce while the children are young and that is not ideal at all.

So what is the motivation for possession post-reproduction in middle age? If either person has had a line of failed marriages or partners, maybe they need to prove something to themselves; that they can love and remain bonded to a partner. It’s sort of a rite of passage for all souls I think. Love and affinity is a universal desire whether it’s with a soulmate, a friend, or twin flames. I hope we all find it.

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Body Image and Beaches in California; It Can Be Brutal

 

“Here’s to Michigan untanned, man-from-Glad skin, chubby bodies that keep us warm in the winter, and loving our neighbor as ourselves.”

I’m home, back from a mini-vacation in San Francisco, California. I had a good time but I hated my body while I was there. I was trying to use my intuition to figure it out while I was in the situation. Was I picking up the vibe from my friend who I was with? He was physically very confident, perfectly tanned, toned, and thin. But he wasn’t very healthy really. He just appeared that way. That’s Hollywood. Was it temporary insanity caused by all the flowers blooming in October? Maybe their intoxicating fragrance went to my head. My readers probably know that overall, I love and accept my body no matter what it’s going through at the moment. Feeling that way about myself, it is part of my acceptance and liberality with others. I accord them the same freedom from judgment in my office and in my life. But the projection from the dominant culture out there was so strong that I felt overwhelmed.

I just used the word liberality and I live in Michigan. We are liberal here as it relates to authentic nature. In our culture, a person is not only free to be themselves, but it’s also a social expectation that you will tell the truth about who you are and get to know your neighbor. None of that is the case in California. Nobody cares and hardly anyone looks at you and smiles. The state culture feels like one giant movie set to me where appearances and image are more important than talking to a friend when you need one or making sure you’re getting enough sleep and not abandoning your guest because of your own issues. Here in the northeast, we still have the old-fashioned value of taking care of one another, a reward for hard work and making sure our communities are liveable.

There is something to be said for basic human decency. If California is so liberal, why are there mounds of trash and graffiti on the freeway right next to million dollar houses? That’s a prison of true ugliness, not liberalism. Your neighbors are suffering, obviously. How can you live right next to them and ignore their need? How can you throw a banana peel out the window but legislate the protection of trees that are on someone else’s property? How can you act so happy and have so many mental health issues such as alcoholism, an eating disorder, and family enmeshment yet there’s hardly anywhere to get help? Why is the fake movie industry more important than human truth in a so-called democratically-held state?

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I’m happy to live in Michigan and be from the East. I’ve decided the so-called fake democracy of the West Coast is no longer for me. My area is very pluralistic and we manage to be kind to one another just fine and pick up after ourselves no matter where we were born.

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Not Caring is Ok Too

I see so much admonition and platitude doodling on FB and Twitter. Posts saying, “Be this way, not this way”, “Act this way, not this way” “Be your best, not your worst” and on and on.  I think it’s getting old. Human beings always just do what comes naturally to them. Most of us just behave in a way that we always behave or whatever is our habit.

It’s authentic, for good or bad. Frankly, just being yourself, grumpy, naked or clothed, dancing crazily around the house or sleeping a lot is what it is. Some people drink too much. Others eat too much. Some people are high all the time. All of that are emotions that haven’t come forward. But let’s face it; it’s not easy for any of us to admit when we feel angry, impatient, guilty, or selfish.

Still, it’s the truth and the truth is good. So honestly, I think most human beings just prefer that others around them just be themselves. Just be who you are in the moment and don’t try to be something else. It gets on my nerves when people act contrived and ambitious. I wonder what they’re hiding.

I don’t care how others act too much. If it really bothers me, I’ll find an exit. If I really like it, I’ll go towards it and I think most people do that. You don’t have to complain too much or try to change anything. Sometimes it’s best to relax and not care.

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Earthly Security is Counterintuitive

When I look at those first two words together I see a paradox. Take Hawaii for instance; right now havoc is being wrecked by Kilauea. There are hundreds of examples all over the world every year and more lately that prove that our Earth is anything but secure. It’s constantly changing, just as our bodies are changing due to evolution; either through enlightenment which lifts it up or depression which drags it down. Both are choices left up to us.

Planning for entropy and dissolution may be realistic since that’s what we see all around us right? I only half believe what I just typed because of mass hypnosis. Group thoughtforms travel around the globe and become manifest realities in this hologram of time that we live in. I generally channel and watch them but never accept them. It feels a bit like being an eagle but I’m definitely not a predator. The gift of sight is there though and I often see things coming ahead of time. Anyone can do it if you’re willing to let your mind leave earth confines sometimes.

My intuition tells me that the way we experience aging, death, and disease is not in the least bit necessary. Being holistic for the last twenty years, I have facts backing that up. The problem here is barely anyone does what is called for to transform their consciousness in order to make the dream a reality. Most human beings follow each other, their upbringing and their friends to feel secure. I get that. I love feeling secure too until it hits me that it’s a dream made clear by events. There are no winners here under that paradigm. Like lemmings to the shore, we all go in and drown. That is counterintuitive as well when there are facts that can be transformed into knowledge.

We can transform our intuition about the Earth and our own emotional needs into knowing and accepting the facts on this one. There is no Earth security and we are deluding ourselves to believe in any form of it whatsoever.  A lot of people make a lot of money off of selling you delusional security. Sure, we all have all the insurance policies that come in handy, but when you’re on your deathbed and need to say goodbye, the bill that comes due says “How did you spend your time?” Did you spend it pleasing others and doing what they thought you should do or did you know and love yourself deeply enough to follow your passion and not need anyone’s permission to have a go-around doing whatever flipped your light switch?

Security doesn’t come from money, insurance policies, a good job, a thousand friends, or making sure you have permission to be who others expect you to be. It comes from knowing your own soul, your body, and giving yourself permission to be authentic. That is true power. You don’t lose any of that when you die because it’s not material.
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Body Intuition

Passionate feelings can make you sick or motivate you to be as well as you can be. It depends on the feelings. But for sure, you choose them and thus whether you will go one way or the other. No one else can control your feelings unless you allow it.

We have 100% choice in every situation. If you don’t know how you feel, just ask your body. Lay down, close your eyes and start with a body scan. How does each part feel? Whose mind and heart is in charge of your body?  How did it get this way? You don’t need anyone else to understand your process or feel what you feel.

Part of becoming mindful and tuned in as a conscious actor is to claim responsibility for the connection between your Mind and Heart and your body.  You run your body.  No one else owns you unless you’ve let them. That is what you need to figure out.  If you’ve let someone else set your agenda, that will make you sick because YOUR SOUL, YOUR MIND needs to set its own course; not family, friends, society, or the church.

The challenge here is that our society has taught us to give our selves and our power OVER to outside forces and others and allow ourselves to be used. That’s how power is hoarded by the few. We give it to them. That is materialism and it’s full of lies. Allowing yourself to be a victim will make you sick and you can stop it by becoming in tune with YOUR feelings and then deciding how you want to feel. Your body will literally tell you the truth directly or you’ll receive the information any number of ways.

Our bodies’ DNA (in its current human form) is a million years old so it knows what to do. In a sense, it does have a mind of its own that we need to respect. It does love you or it would have left you by now via death. It really can’t do that without your permission and is here to serve your intentions, mission, and consciousness. Do you love it back? Our bodies need us to listen so it can make us whole and joyful.

Synchronicity: the Vision of Jose Arguelles

I found the Dreamspell right as it came out in 1991, living in Sedona, AZ at the time. The mathematical precision and alignment of time hit me as great truth back then, even a memory that I already knew this information. I’ve been using and tracking every day of my life since 1991 using the 13 moons. I feel it in my body and experience sychronicity every day. The fourth dimensional codes are real.

The third dimension is space and the fourth dimension is time. This article shows you that when you follow a 12-month religious calendar put in place by Pope Gregory (Gregorian calendar) and the 60 minute hour, you’re using space to track time and it keeps you stuck in the third dimension forever. That’s why events keep repeating themselves, war continues, and time is money instead of time being creative and free. The Church and the State want it that way. Whoever controls your time controls your mind.

José Arguelles may not have been right or true about every last bit and he has his detractors, but without his work, we’d have nothing to detract from. I honor him as my teacher and I’m a grateful student. It is wise to glean all the details so that your refutation at least shows that you did your homework.

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Resonant Moon 15, Kin 246 (January 24, 2018) marks the 79th birthday of Jose Arguelles/Valum Votan.  His original Vision stands true today and his work deserves to be well studied. Here is an excerpt from Time, Synchronicity and Calendar Change: the Visionary Life and Work of Jose Arguelles in honor of his solar return. Awakening to the Synchronic Order

Virtual reality shows that we are starved for release into a parallel world, an imaginal realm that is not just a rejection of our worst nightmares, but of our highest most sublime aspirations.
—José Argüelles

There will come a time when the birds will fall from the trees, the rivers will be poisoned and the wolves will die in the forests. But then the warriors of the rainbow will appear and save the world.
—Prophecy of the Cree Indians

One time is ending, but another is just beginning, an entirely new…

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Silent Night-Gorgeous Arrangement

 

I don’t know if I feel immense joy or the tail end of some small grief when I listen to this.  Sometimes it’s the same thing in this life. What I do know is that Nature and its turnings are so beautiful and heal everything. In its ice and frigid wind, in the heat of the sun and dry sand, the eruption of inner volcanoes and burning fires, it always changes like our hearts, like our children, like our lives.  What a ride. Enjoy!

Romance of the Opiate Receptor

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As I move through this book, reading it, I’ll blog about it and share some of what I’m reading. Synchronistically she starts off this section, called “Romance of the Opiate Receptor” with the title “Destiny”.  Destiny is what the Tzolkin theme plexes are all about as I post those on here daily as well.  Please check them out. It will help set your day on the beam.

The first thing she relays is being on her back in the hospital after falling off of a horse and being put on Talwin, a morphine derivative and loving the euphoric state it put her in. I sure didn’t after my ectopic pregnancy surgery in 1996 that saved my life. I was on a morphine pump and all it did was cut the pain a bit, but it was my birthday, after all, the day I had to get out of the hospital bed and walk. Three days later after I’d gotten home the pain was almost gone. Still, I did not have a great opioid trip. Drugs have never affected me in a beneficial way as an HSP (highly sensitive person).  Laughter, hugs, friends, and sex affect my receptors.

As I read, she is happily in a lab in John Hopkins University under the exciting tutelage of Solomon H. Snyder who was on the leading edge of experimentation in neuropharmacology.  The philosophy in the lab had everything to do with instinct;

Do not accept the conventional wisdom, do not accept the idea that something can’t be accomplished because the scientific literature says it can’t. Trust your instincts. Allow yourself a wide latitude in your speculations. Don’t depend on the literature-it could be right or it could be completely wrong. Spread all your hunches out before you, and go with the ones that you think are most probable. Select the one that you can test easily and quickly. Don’t assume it has to be overly complicated to be of value since often the simplest experiment yields the most unequivocal result. Just do the experiment! And if you can keep it to a one-day experiment, so much the better.”

To be continued…