Mindset; What does “In Your Face” Mean from a Woman?


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This article is dated May this year. There are a few articles every year to remind us that this Victorian issue is alive and well. Some women just don’t get it and they keep planting seeds of injustice in our minds and then we carry it with us wherever we go in society. I guess we need to set a strong boundary.

Here is the article.

Double Standards That Hold Women Back

Under the top picture, it says,

Women can rarely just be themselves in positions of power.”

This is the first paragraph.

“I suggested she—a rising female attorney at a law firm—be more assertive to make her ideas and opinions heard in meetings. She told me she’s compelled to filter every word lest she is perceived as overly ambitious—or worse, aggressive. She noted that her male counterparts, by comparison, seemed to feel free to say whatever, whenever, without incurring any negative judgment.

She wasn’t wrong—she really did need to choose her words more carefully than the men.”

That’s because Mom said so. Mom knows best. Yeah, no. It’s holding me back with that voice ringing in my head, “Don’t be in your face.”

This next part is just unbelievable and utter crap.

“Women typically rank higher than men on “agreeableness”—they have a reputation for being more nurturing, empathetic, kind, supporting, and accommodating. If you’re a female executive who others consider agreeable, chances are you will be seen as more likable.

But leadership positions require people to command authority. Aggressiveness will do this for you. But for women, the more aggressive they are seen to be, the less likable they are found—by men and women. It’s a double bind.”

There is still a huge chasm between social permission for a man to be assertive and even aggressive and a woman to be the same. This article from Forbes proves that in the year 2019 it’s still alive and kicking despite all of our hope and denouncements. There is also a generational divide here. My mother born in 1940 still projects her values regarding what she was taught about how to behave as a woman onto me because that’s what she is still doing. She’s trying to justify it through me. So do women from my own generation. She still feels free to direct me on what to do as well.

The double standard between women and men being assertive needs to end. The truth is, more women are far more assertive than men and just as competent! I could write about this forever but do read the article and try not to be in denial in your own workplace.

 

 

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Essay; Misconceptions About Strong Women


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Strong women have been broken and usually ripped to shreds and used by family, death, life, employers, and the opposite sex and don’t sink to the bottom, use others cynically or crack up. They remain open, brave, active warriors on this very difficult planet that says “Love” all the time but doesn’t do it. They do it and it bears fruit. They understand that forgiveness is for their good, not the abuser and they don’t feel one bit of guilt about it.

The misconceptions are:

We are independent, not interdependent

We are not usually independent we are interdependent. Interdependent means we depend on others and they depend on us. We count on the people we live and work with to do self-care also so we can depend on them when we need them. We take care of ourselves so they can depend on us when they need us. This creates trust and function. It’s called adult reciprocity.

It’s harder for a man to live or bond to us

It’s impossible for a weak man to even get our attention. We are attracted to strong, self-contained men and there aren’t very many to choose from. What is weak? Poor health, poor looks, poor hygiene, poor social skills, bad teeth, poor finances, wears a baseball cap all the time, wears a suit all the time, wears sunglasses all the time, hides behind religion, cares about his orgasm more than mine, looking for a hook-up, no relationship skills, doesn’t respect women or to spend friendship time with one, believes women have their place, feels women are too controlling.

It’s exceptionally easy for a good, strong, interdependent man to live or bond with a strong woman because she’s trustworthy. Is he? She’s always there for herself and others so she’ll be there for you. You can’t really take advantage or get one over on her and she has no time to control you because she’s busy controlling her own life. Sounds sexy to me.

We need others less than most people

The truth is we really struggle to find women who aren’t jealous or won’t compete with us, who love and like us and care about our struggles and weaknesses and who haven’t sacrificed themselves lock, stock, and barrel to a spouse or family or latched themselves to a partner that defines them. We have fewer friends than most people because we tend to be dissed by most women and men so the truth is, we need people more. We also tend to invest a large amount of energy in our work.

We’re high maintenance

We are high maintenance for ourselves, not for others. Egotistical women are high maintenance. Strong women expect the most from themselves, not from others. We don’t usually expect anything from others unless they love us, understand us or offer. It’s very rare that anyone does. We’re actually the lowest maintenance person because we take care of ourselves…all the time. We actually have no choice given our values of integrity and how broken we’ve been by being kind to those that hate themselves and are looking to get, get, get, and take, not give.

We’re bitches

Strong women are confident, kind and liberal. They are not cruel and controlling. Strong women are the most loving, kind, empathic, considerate people I know and because we’re not centered in ego, others think we’re foolish or chumps. Wrong. Egotistical women are bitches and sit in their woundedness, getting revenge when they can. That’s weak. There is nothing worse on the planet than a cruel, foolish, ignorant woman. Strong women want to empower others and themselves with their work and believe in the gifts of the spirit.

We’re selfish

If you define selfish with a capital “S” then we are always working to be sitting in our Higher Self. We won’t let negativity, resentment, the past, and followers bring us down or dissuade us from our mission. We tend to be leaders and entrepreneurs. Selfish with a small “s” are usually women still stuck in their adolescence developmentally for whatever reason. It’s important for men to think about their previous relationships and decipher whether she was selfish and not project that onto a strong woman.

Strong women spend a lot of time alone because we need to replenish our energy from the joy of giving to others and taking care of ourselves at the same time. Most of us are never lonely and enjoy being single. That is the case for me. We welcome friends or partners that won’t compete, be jealous, try to put their thumb on us or break our backs to make themselves look bigger but we usually do end up alone while everyone climbs the human dog pile to see if they can get to the top and snag the trophy that means nothing to us.

Everyday Spirituality; Confidence or Faith?


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I’ve recently been told I need to show more confidence. ?? Confidence is the ego. There is no rational reason for confidence based on the facts of time and space.

  • Death is imminent as are unjust taxes.
  • Lies you tell and live will always come to light.
  • Nothing “great” you do will be remembered longer than 100 years.
  • Once generations are overturned we are all forgotten and the youth take over.
  • The money you make or accumulate and the things you make or accumulate can’t be taken with you.
  • Only the great and true work you do will be used with your name scratched off once you’re dead. Our entire existence rests on the nameless shoulders of those who have come before and put their shoulder to the wheel at all levels of society.

Over-confidence is what makes our society and social media insufferable for people who live in Spirit and follow their intuition. FAITH is the spiritual version of egoistic confidence, the EVIDENCE of things not seen. Faith is rooted in Love. Faith and Love are rational and real. They are a silent vibe and last for eternity. It’s the only thing that is rational on this planet. My actions and work on this planet are based in faith, not confidence. I’m not confident about anything and believe even less. I follow no one and worship no one. I just respond to Life.

Sorry to disappoint the fame seekers who think people like me are losers and have no problem insulting me and calling me names because I don’t want to be put on a pedestal just to be knocked off of it. I have no time for that nonsense and care about its fruits even less. I love myself no matter what you say, I always have what I need because I work with the Universe, and I don’t need approval or understanding from humans because I rationally know that it won’t be forthcoming because of who I am.

 

Everyday Spirituality; Time is Money…?


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This is a popular phrase. Some also say time is a commodity which is something that can be bought and sold, like human beings, pork bellies, coffee or corn. Another definition is a useful or valuable thing, such as water or time. On our planet that is accurate. It’s also true that money can buy time; it’s called a job. Your employer pays you either a salary or an hourly wage for the time that you give the company. Their money does buy your time so in that sense, money does buy time. It is oppressive on the planet and to the environment.

But I contend that time is just energy, like light and not a commodity because I’m not a materialist scientifically. Abstemious, mental, spiritual, thrifty, ungreedy which are materialism antonyms all describe me. I know it’s very anti-social and hardly anyone can relate to me. I equate being in control of my own time as power. That is not only anti-social but cause for jealousy. Yes, well, I paid the price of making the step by step choices to achieve it and I’m not looking for approval. That and daily, the Universe has my back. I have just what I need and never fear when my checking account gets low. Then all of a sudden, money pours in. It happens all the time for me. The Universe is much more reliable than people when it comes to security.

It’s a type of prostitution to say “time is money” for busy men usually who place a high, power value on their mental focus and time to achieve the power and accolades their ego so deeply craves. Women are not so much this way, but some are. Money is highly prized on Earth, maybe more than time, but personally, I prize my time to create, write, and be an artist much, much more than I do money. Money is just a tool for me to enable me to use my time in any way I wish. I don’t really like money as far as “things” go because it mostly stimulates negative, vice-filled feelings in humans and makes the planet a worse place to live. I refuse to contribute to that.

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Let’s do the math. Time = Money so Money = Time.

Let’s say Time = 2 and Money = 2

2 = 2 That’s a true statement.

But the placard above says they aren’t equal. That would be a false equivalency. It basically says, “Time is money but money isn’t time”. That’s double-mindedness and thus they cancel each other out. The only way to make the above statement correct is to redefine Time which I would like to do scientifically since it’s more accurate.

In truth, the scientific definition of time is that it’s a dimension of Mind brought about by the rotation of the Earth around our Sun. When light hits our eyes our minds change. That is proven scientifically. Time is an astronomical reality, not a physical reality. But that’s like saying that light is not a physical reality. Time and light live in the same dimension but those higher dimensions control the holographic illusion that is Earth, our bodies, and life on our planet.

In order for the holographic projection to be visible, laser light has to be shown through it, according to quantum physics. So time and light make the illusion of density (money and our bodies) possible. It’s sounding like our Sun has cause to charge us for the existence of our lives! We could at least be grateful for our Sun.

Neither time nor light is a commodity to be bought and sold like stocks though. It’s part of nature, like air. Time and light are endless and limitless so they can never be squandered. What can be squandered is the time in THIS body, in THIS time period, on THIS planet because the lesson of Earth is unique.

Nevertheless, because eternity or timelessness is real, spiritual lessons always get more than one chance. Don’t worry. No one can really buy you or take away your chance to get something right. The human mind is not for sale no matter how much people try. The Universe is rather vigilant at answering your “prayer” or intention when you ask for freedom to be who you are and do what you want to do. It’s all about empowerment. You just have to ask and line your Mind up with the Universe, go within and focus, not listen to others too much. The only antonym for time is the word “ending” and the truth is time goes to timelessness in the upper dimensions but it doesn’t “end”. There will always be time in the lower dimensions because there is always a sun for every planet in the Grand Universe.

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Re-Program; Process or Product? Materialism


What is more important to you; the learning process, enjoying the moment, the movement, the relationship, experiencing the event itself…OR seeing and feeling the manifested product from your choices and actions?

Anything manifested in physical is fleeting, temporary, like a cloud that will eventually evaporate like your body at the end of your life.  We all really need to think about this when we start coveting something.  Do you really have to have it or do you need something else that’s inside you?

The other side of the coin is the experiences we have, what we learn about others and ourselves.  Now, in this scenario, there are no mistakes.  Everything we go through has a learning curve or we are doing it for the adventure, to see what it feels like.  There is the possibility that we will feel things emotionally or physically that we have never experienced before.  The experience is not fleeting because it affects your spirit.  It doesn’t matter if the experiences feel good or bad because both are temporary.  This too shall pass!

If you believe in the soul and eternity, then you’ll want to go in this direction.  No one can take your memories and experiences away from you.  While it’s vital for everyone on the planet to have food, water, air, and a roof over their head, what we need most beyond that is human companionship, adventures, and learning.

It would be a mistake to size up your success based on “stuff”, tangible this and that for it will evaporate and mean little to nothing in the end.