I don’t think anyone knows they exist. Yet that’s the only type of man I’ve ever partnered with and in addition, they are super intelligent. Talk about freaks and geeks. They are right up my alley and this planet is very stressful and nye on impossible for these men.
This has hit my consciousness because my good friend is building an empathogenic center in Costa Rica. Empathogens are;
- Psilocybin mushrooms
- MDMA (Ecstasy)
Some only consider MDMA and drugs similar to it to be empathogens but he listed all of these. Why is it mostly men that need empathogens? Because women are naturally or societally sanctioned to feel their feelings? Women don’t need them. I certainly don’t. But we know for a fact that men and women both have feelings. It’s just that women are encouraged to express them and men aren’t. In addition, some women are extremely mean and even abusive to sensitive men. This is a taboo subject and many men won’t speak up. But I do know that women can be just as cruel as men.
No man I’ve ever been with has used these drugs and neither have I. The men I’ve been with have only used the legal, awful stuff; cigarettes and alcohol and consequently died from both of those. Those two are worse for you than any of the ones above. Another friend was basically raised to use weed constantly and in his twenties, he’s already impotent. People say pot can’t hurt you but men who become estrogen dominant because of cannabis and lose their testosterone levels are definitely hurt if they lose their sex drive.
Artistic men express their feelings through music, acting, or art and more. Mystic, healer and sensitive men do. My son does and he is struggling to find a mentor as his elder with which to find affinity. His father, who was a savant musician died three years ago so he no longer has him. He hears music in his mind constantly; complicated harmonies which need orchestration. He needs to make a decision about whether to learn to orchestrate or not and whether or not to accept the type of brain he has. The therapists want to call him schizoaffective but I believe he’s just a channel and needs to get it out. Is he really going to take pills or could he use the natural substances listed above? The jury is still out on it. He might not need it since he is already empathic. Duplicating it would not be good for his brain. There is no substitute for a conscious, informed choice in these circumstances.
Have you ever known anyone who has used these natural hallucinogens? Please leave a comment if you have.
Sometimes, when you know another person who is more conscious, better at loving and taking care of themselves, has achieved independence or interdependence and has the money they need, you think that by trying to align as an equal you’ll gain an advantage for yourself. After all, they must have plenty to spare since they’re so abundant?
No. You’re in a vampiric mindset. Instead, be grateful that you have a teacher and listen to what they have to say. Someone who is more together than you is due your respect, not your usage. They’re not a guru or due homage; just respect. Don’t try to use them as though they are your friend or you will have more karma on your head. If they are awake, they’ll be able to tell what you’re doing and not allow it. Use your intuition.
Everyone makes different choices and comes to the planet for different lessons. In essence, we are mostly students and teachers for one another but once in a while, you find someone at your same level of awakening who can be your friend; someone with whom you can share your heartbreak and fears who you can trust won’t stab you in the back while you’re down. That’s what lightworkers have to watch out for. Even other lightworkers will do it not understanding that they haven’t taken full responsibility for their bad choices nor apologized to people they should apologize to because of their ego. We all still have some ego but it should wane as we mature.
Many people carry unconscious, “I’m a victim” energy, especially from their families that they haven’t overstepped. In that case, the usage of others is so normal that they don’t think a thing about it. Their energy is gimme, gimme, gimme and their motivation for giving something to you is to get something in return that they need. They don’t care about you. They assume you know how to give yourself everything you need and don’t need others. That’s never the case. In fact, it is believed in spiritual circles that even God needs us for the company. That may be the motivation for creating worlds. Everyone has needs.
We are most vulnerable with family members who wrongly make the assumption that just because you share DNA, not necessarily RNA, you’ll freely give them your ideas and energy to use for themselves. Don’t do it. Family members are notorious for using each other instead of taking care of themselves. Our whole culture supports the dysfunctional cycle and many are not aware that they are still in it. One look at their health picture/body will tell you the truth.
Sharing is important but be discerning about with whom you share yourself, your ideas, and your feelings. Sometimes the person you think you can trust the most is the one you should trust the least. I’m learning from Twin Flame right now as an equal but that’s been ongoing for three years. We continually learn from one another. It’s all good.
The desire for privacy is vastly different than wanting to keep secrets. Intelligent people can feel whether you’re authentic or not. If you keep secrets, it’s a lie and manipulative. Spinning an image is politics and greed.
Privacy is for mystics and artists who need silence to hear their muses and manifest truth that comes out of their feelings and body. Privacy is needed to channel the intuition and bring forth Love.
This one floored me when I saw it. What do you think?
The first question I asked myself was “Why is this true?” The quote is attributed to Graham Greene. There are several to be found online and I’m not sure which one he is but those listed are all artists of some type.
I personally agree that we cannot love without intuition because intuition has its source in the unconscious mind, the Id, sex, chaos, passion, wild emotion, dreams and so forth. When we really love someone it’s a powerful draw, magnetic, a longing. In my case, it’s possible destiny. Sometimes the person shows up in our dreams. This is a psychic event as in psyche and not simply lust. I have experienced this. Have you? I want to know if you have. Tell me about it.
There is no rational reason why you are so drawn to this person. But many times there are synchronicities. I’ve blogged on here about my twin flame which was highly surrounded in synchronicity and still is. We’re still in touch, talked a lot last week, and he is being a little warm but nothing major. And another man is in my psychic space that I haven’t fleshed out yet. We haven’t met but I’d like to meet him. I’m not in love with him though as I am with my Twin Flame. Both of them have been in my dreams and are not just issues of lust so I know they are hooked to my psyche.
The Id, which is below the subconscious ego is also basically the lower body, below the navel. From a man’s perspective, of course, you cannot love without intuition because, for them, they cannot love without sex. That begs the question, “Is sex the seat of a man’s intuition?” Holy crap!!!! I never thought of that but it makes sense. Let me know if you think that’s the case. Women will be floored if that’s true. I need the men to let me know if sex is intuitive for you. I better stop there. As a woman, sex is not intuitive for me. The seat of my intuition is chakras 6, 5, and 4 (third eye, throat, and heart)
I hope I hear from you.
I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am. There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.
But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal. The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting. Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with. Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.
How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going. It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.
It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it. Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.
I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not? The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it. I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild. It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.
It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface, there is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore. Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.
Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild. Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.
We live on a four-dimensional planet. The four dimensions are;
Each one of those dimensions is inclusive of the one before it.
~Being fully aware of the physical 5 senses awakens your life.
~Being fully aware of the levels of mind or psychic senses awakens the 5 physical senses and your life and your mind. At this point you know you have 12 senses unless you’ve opened chakra 8 above the crown then it would be 13.
~Once all 13 are humming you are fully aware of the movement of time in true time which moves you from subconscious programming (family and society) to conscious choice. Many lightworkers, writers, muses and musicians are humming with the 13 senses.
Society makes fun of us because we don’t have alot of money but we have a high quality of time. I think if we all charged $50.00 for our book of brilliant writing instead of $5.00 we could shoot to the top.
Life perception is 1D. Most people live here. All they see is their own life on this planet and that’s all they believe is real because that’s all their mindset will tell them is real. Within 1D are the five physical life senses whether people use them or not. For the most part, civilization cuts humans off from their natural five senses functioning at their highest level. Thus we find ourselves in the place we’re in now; aware of mostly 1D and oblivious to our effect on the earth and others. About 50% of people are here.
The five natural life senses are;
Those senses or at least one of those senses delivers something that is a reality to most people such as money, car sounds, gasoline smell, their steering wheel, and their McDouble cheeseburger. The natural sense that incorporates all 5 senses is sex which is why 1 and 2D people are easily addicted to the sex act and not interested in relating to a human being spiritually or philosophically.
2D is the sense dimension and some people highly incorporate their natural senses into their analysis of what’s happening. They are very aware of their body and want their body to deliver as much real information to them via the natural senses as possible. These folks tend to be earthy, active, holistic, andenvironmentalist and they care about the quality of information of things entering their body and how much money they make, meaning, their quality of day to day life and how they use their time is not as important as their income or the stuff they have. They are still only in 2D. My intuition tells me about 40% of the planet is here.
3D is the Mind. That includes being mindful and grateful for your own life sense (1D) and your 2D (all of your senses and your body). That puts you in the mindful, 3D camp and what happens is your brain starts humming. You start to THINK about your own life in a self-reflective manner and everything you sense. I would guess that’s only about 10% of the planet that actually thinks about things and has a high intellect worth reading or listening to if they communicate about it. The challenge here is that same 10% is your audience. No one else can relate.
In 3D there are 7 Mind Senses to add to the 5 Life Senses bringing the total to twelve. They are:
- 1st chakra or Etheric body
- 2nd chakra or Emotional body
- 3rd chakra or Mental body
- 4th chakra or Astral body
- 5th chakra or Etheric template
- 6th chakra or Celestial body
- 7th chakra or Ketheric template causal body
Once you incorporate awareness and experience of all of your Mind senses or psychic (means mind) senses, you will be using your whole brain. This is when you are ready to exert a Mindset that will change the subconscious habit and not before. Otherwise, what you’re teaching or focusing on will not be high-level intelligence and you’ll be at a faulty setting. Once your whole brain is humming you’ll be in 4D and realize that your Mind is the source of Time travel. When you move your whole Mind or FOCUS, your body and attitude changes and you are moving in Time or time traveling. First, you move your mind, then your body moves. Kindness and Love are attractive to you as well as the natural sensory experiences. These are spiritual virtues, not religious ones. The higher heart awareness happens in 4D.
4D is the odd one. These are the people who live with a physical awareness that we exist in time, not space. Quantum physics has proven that every cell of our body is 99% empty space but I believe that further research will show that it’s time. We are made of spinning Time, not space. We are about 0.2% of people on the planet who are aware of it as we move about in the body. Reiki, tai chi, tai chi chuan, chi kung, and many other meditative techniques put you directly in touch with the flow of qi in your body. Then you can regulate it yourself. Telepathy becomes normal. Meaning, when someone you know, love, or have met keeps entering your mind like a telephone call, you’re picking up their soul signal and likely they are thinking about you as well. Maybe they need to see you or talk to you for some reason. Humans are naturally very telepathic. It’s part of the higher brain. Don’t question this when it happens. It’s normal.
Time has been proven to exist at these Earth dimensions. Someone said to me the other day, “Time isn’t real.” Well, I want to qualify that and say Time is all there is at Earth level.
“All we really have is time and the only thing we can take with us when we leave is the experience.”
Time projects a hologram from infinity and it appears to be space (the visible world) but it is not real. When you get up to the very high dimensions time ceases to exist and we have a new state called Timelessness or Eternity. It’s all good.
(I wrote this 2 years ago and I’ve come a long way since then realizing what the issues are. I believe the societal programming of men, expecting them to “man up” and be inhumane is hurting them and our whole society. It’s patriarchy and it’s oppressive for men too. The woman he’s with has to give him permission to express them or he won’t. Some women are very hard ass. Harder than men! )
There are too many on the roster for me to ignore this. I read a lot too, so it’s not as though I’m ignorant. Well, seriously…I know men have feelings. That’s very obvious and I’m good with that, unlike many women. It’s just as obvious as the fact that women have feelings. And I am sensitive to men’s feelings, as different than women’s and have a ton of experience with men expressing their feelings with me. I’m safe to do that with. That’s sort of the problem…maybe.
The Jekyll and Hyde thing, the fear of getting too close, or relying on a woman as your friend, or letting her help you with something she is strong in and you have no idea about; she does the same with you. Why can’t men rely on women the same way? Why is that so emotionally vulnerable for you but it’s not for us? Maybe you didn’t have a good sister? That’s how you pattern it in your brain?
As a woman, who has talked to a lot of women, if we get a red flag about a dude, we break it off, let it go, and have a fairly practical attitude about the lack of emotional affinity so we don’t usually cling, push away, cling, push away, kick and punch. That induces no sense of emotional security in a woman at all. And I’ve seen it way too much with men. I don’t see this behavior in women maybe because there’s no way a guy would tolerate that from a woman. I see and hear her making her mind up. She has a subjective sense of “the feel” of the guy and their emotions and the sexual affinity so her radar is on baby! If all that isn’t flowing, we’re not interested and don’t need to analyze it. Our body told us and that counts the most.
Now the objective part. Males tend to value or be, more objective to their everlasting detriment. You’re missing half of the picture. You thought you drank the whole glass, the other half is in there. You thought you took a full breath, you didn’t exhale. I’ll stop. The objective picture, which women can fully, competently, always, always, see, is just dumb to us. It’s never just that way. You can’t gain any accurate information in life or in relationships by only being objective any more than you can know what sex feels like by just standing outside of it and watching it.
Subjective means you are the subject, you’re in it, you’re living it, your senses, feelers, intuition, BODY (such a big truth for women) are in the situation and we’re talking UPLOAD of information into the computer. It computes, along with the easy, objective stuff. We know what’s going on when we’re next to our man but we will never, ever, understand why guys are so irrational and comatose when you’re next to a woman, or her breasts, that you love or care for. Just why?
The rational way to analyze and proceed in a relationship is to dip your toe in the water, smell each other, listen to each other’s voices, socialize, get your instincts going, eat together…and this only takes maybe a couple weeks or the total of five dates to have enough data to make the decision. Do I want to have sex with this guy and allow some emotional bonding or not? Whether women admit it or not, our brains are programmed to emotionally bond otherwise, I don’t think we can orgasm. It’s kind of obvious.
It is forever lost on me why men can’t be more rational about their feelings. Women have evolved to be objective and subjective. We tend to be balanced for the sake of our children. There are plenty of brilliant women that can do the math, science, tech, blah, blah, blah, blah, like it’s such a big deal. No…it’s not. It’s pretty easy for us. Dealing with you guys and not having to have our defenses up when you freak out over how you feel is what is not easy for us. Living with you is not easy for us. I don’t think I can do it anymore.
Please try to be more subjective, more empathic, more understanding of other people and women who are different than you. We are not men nor do we want to be nor do we need to follow you around doing guy stuff. We can balance being objective with being subjective and we ask the same of you.
I was inspired by Cristian Mihai’s blog about being alone. I shared the link above. Please read it if you have not. I actually just blogged on “I’m Alone Now” because my nineteen-year-old son left home.
I told Cristian that I related exactly to about eighty-percent of how he feels and I’m guessing many writers on here are introverts and love to be alone. But for me, it’s very positive. I never feel lonely. In fact, I wish I had longer streams of time, undisturbed alone to read, think and write. I’m still very busy in my home and have a small holistic business here so people are in and out. That may be part of it, I’m not sure.
I paused when Cristian wrote, “You can’t change how you feel”. Long pause. “Hmmm.” “No, he’s right.” I thought. “Feelings are organic. They just come up.” We all know that and it’s part of what makes us writers. But I have a physical process I go through that I want to share that turns my tears, worry, anxiety, sadness, the concern that comes up organically into feeling better.
I observe my breath. In and out. It is MY breath in MY body. I have complete control over how my breathing feels and how I allow my breath to reach my organs. I envision my blood pulsing through me. It feels very warm and loving. I relax my feet and make sure they are planted on the ground. I relax my legs. As a writer, I find immense joy and gratitude in feeling my brain and eyes process like a computer, my thoughts and then how my hands type. Then I stop and observe my breathing again. I am alive. I knew once and can remember what it felt like when I was almost dead in 1996 the day before my birthday when I had an ectopic pregnancy. I have this day, this time to keep learning and processing my journey in my body that no one else can control. I have control over this process and this moment.
So, I guess my technique is grounding. Think of a two-pronged plug that you put into a grounded wall socket. The two prongs are your legs and the electrical outlet is the ground; the Earth. When you inhabit and are mindful of your physical process, the chaotic, mean, death-riddled, unloving world can swirl around you unhindered. You have no control over any of them or their events. But you do have total, unequivocal control over tuning into YOUR BODY, plugging it in and turning it on and observing how each part of your body feels, not just the thoughts and emotions you tend to be running that day based on events, either theirs or yours.
I love my body so much for having its own balanced process that literally guides me and grounds me each day. Of course, I honor my heart, which has its organic emotional flow, but it…is…fickle. The heart is fickle!! At least mine is. Of course, I honor my thought processes. The brain/mind is amazing in its ability to digest and process information but the eyes only see what is visible, right in front of it in the light and believe only what it sees. The eyes only see ILLUSION and then your mind tells you it’s real. It’s a pretty good magic trick. The heart only feels immediate feelings and tell you they are real.
The body doesn’t lie. Your breath doesn’t lie. Just as sure as the trees know exactly how deep to push their roots, reach up with their branches, leaf out, drop their leaves and blow in a storm, so your body also has billions of years of DNA in evolution and it knows exactly…what to do. The same is true for all of nature from season to season. Nature is the truth and life itself.
Our health care system, our society, our media, and our civilization would take that grounding, the Earth life force, Gaia in all of her eternal ways and consciousness and tell her who she is and when to do it, as though she were a little girl. They would control that vital physical knowledge for themselves, hijack it from you and tell the daughters and sons of the Earth that they know your body better. They don’t. It’s your body, your truth, your power and your reason for being on the planet. Let the wisdom and rhythm of your body guide your heart and mind and you will be in a safe harbor while you live no matter what your heart and mind “see”.
Our bodies are ancient and universal and intimately tied to everything on the planet. We are gods and goddesses in all different forms dancing our way through time and eternity just for the sheer experience of it. Our in-breath and out-breath prove it.
Freedom Bound by Sculptor Paige Bradley, http://paigebradley.com