There is Pressure on Women to Hold Ourselves in Higher Esteem


“Women, love and honor yourself even if by the societal view you are a freak, brilliant, ugly or super beautiful, fit or not fit. If you’re not average, other women will be jealous and you’ll need to live with that.”

zooskThe reason being, in truth, every woman is a goddess. Some women feel and know this and many more don’t and are very dependent as opposed to being interdependent. That’s where the jealousy and the trouble come in for men. Men long for us to know how beautiful we are and some get very co-dependent with low self-esteem women trying to convince them that they need to love themselves. Women are love on the planet but if a woman doesn’t claim that it becomes hell on earth. Men are mere mortals wishing to be superheroes! Men that think they’re gods already are gay or bi-sexual and have incorporated the female principle into themselves to try to bring balance. And how do they act? Like a woman! Fine, but they are still males and can’t make a human being in their body. There’s that. A male truly becomes a god when he joins with a female and they have a child together. That is a powerful creation and males and females get credit for that. If it’s only one child, that may be more responsible in my view.  Society should never denigrate procreation. It’s our main biological mandate on the planet and would completely throw us off as a species if we no longer valued children.

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“Men feel and view our bodies as heaven, paradise, light, love, sex, food, everything they want and need and they want and need to lose themselves in us.”

That is pressure on women. I am hearing that in every single modern day pop song sung by men. Women who watch it say, “ALL they want is SEX.”. To men, that’s the pinnacle on earth. That’s all there is or needs to be. That’s as happy as they can get. Like Bruno Mars sings, “Your sex takes me to paradise”. They mean it. Just because women are not that way doesn’t mean EVERYONE should be that way. To the extent to which society, Church, State, and women deny them the greatest heaven they can have is the degree to which they are frustrated, pissed, feeling upset and victimized and die early of heart disease. This issue has got to be seen and accepted by society about men and balanced with women taking care of themselves and making money.

They can’t be any different nor should they. Sex is love to them. What’s wrong with that? Nature IS love. The Earth IS love. The natural world IS love. I’m holistic so resisting that is what drives us nuts. It’s the reason our healthcare system, our planet, and our society are falling apart is the DENIAL OF THE BODY which MEN LOVE more than anything. So what is patriarchy but men trying NOT TO BE DENIED THEIR MANHOOD by every single institution in existence? I’m just guessing. Don’t send me hate mail, please. What are we saying to them and about ourselves when we tell them to stop wanting sex so much? You may as well ask them to stop breathing or the sun to stop shining. Well, that IS what we’re doing to the planet right now.

Like Rajesh said to Penny on “Big Bang Theory”, “You can’t ruin a friendship with sex. That’s like ruining a chocolate cupcake with sprinkles!” My god, I love that line. It epitomizes the difference between how men and women think. I think if men had their way, they’d have sex with anyone, anytime just to show their love. It’s analogous to women showing their love by hugging and talking! We do that all the time and think it’s fine. But you say, “You can’t get pregnant hugging someone.” There is the crux of the issue and the problem for men. So use birth control and have as much sex as you want. The other crux; women’s feelings.

This is unfathomable for people to believe, but it is only recently in human history that people realized that it takes the male sperm to cause conception and make a human being. Up until that time, early humans thought it was magic, we had matriarchy where men were just having sex with anyone they wanted with any woman and going from place to place spreading their sperm around. No one knew who the fathers were, the children didn’t know their fathers and there was no marriage. That was matriarchy and women dominated and raised the children in groups of women and children. The men were off separate with one another.

I’m not saying I personally like the polyamorous nature of most men. I’m a female with high self-esteem so I believe I have plenty, just me alone, for a man who truly adores me. I just don’t expect it from most men. A man who prefers bitches and whores with no emotional bonding or love is one himself! When a man I’m with lets me know those are his values then I think, “Ok, then you aren’t going to get me. You’re only going to get a weak woman with no self-esteem and don’t whine about it. You get what you are!” Men with high self-esteem are attracted to women with high self-esteem and he’s done being polyamorous. That’s another level of nature. Men at the lower level, don’t even try to tell me that monogamous men who adore women who are fully in tune with their bodies and feelings don’t exist. We do! I can provide a man with great, varied sex, great conversation, loyal love and more. Can you take being loved?

Patriarchy changed all of that and territory, The state, The Church, and the institution of the family were born. Now we call it civilization. Have we decided if this is good or bad yet? We know now that when a man and woman live together and fight, which they always do, it is very psychologically damaging to the child. So how great is it really for the father to live with the mother and the child or children in just the family unit? Statistics show men tend to be violent toward the women and children too (domestic violence). So, I don’t know if patriarchy is working. Add to that the men’s testosterone loves war, blowing stuff up, rape, and what have you and I’m not sure women’s paradise has civilized them nor should it. Besides, we deny it to them most of the time and just think they should work and make money. That’s not fair to men.

We need a new way where the nature of men and the nature of woman is balanced. We just don’t know what that is yet while keeping the planet in one piece.

 

 

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The Attraction Has Set In


 

zooskTwo days after our date, on Sunday, the attraction and longing set in for both of us, at the same time. This is very common I know. I’ve been physically and emotionally attracted to a few men, not a bunch. It’s still this amazing mind trance. I worked really hard to observe myself this time and noticed that it’s no different than when I was sixteen and super attracted to my first boyfriend. What has changed over the years is “my type”.

I’ve also noted that who I rationally think I’m attracted to based on upbringing or social bias that I’m not completely conscious of is not who I end up being smitten by. This fella is white again. I have a definite bias against my own culture as you may see from my posts on here. In my value system, I adore the black culture, values, and its communities and arts and also find Hispanic men to be super foxy and value the same thing there. My last lover was a black man and I enjoyed his company very much. He went into the Marines.

But now, here I am, very turned on by a fiery, strong, smart, nice white man. I honestly would not have guessed. It feels like my body is doing it and as you know, I follow my body. So that caught me off guard. What we have happening now is “out of sight, out of mind” on his part, it seems. I could be wrong.

We both wanted to see each other last night; second date. I could not sleep and texted him, “I can’t sleep.” and he asked why. I did not say because I want you. I said, “I’m not sure.” We got into a chat and then he said, “Come to my house up here,” so he said it first! I said, “I want to.” But we both had to work the next day and it was too late at night and he was away up north some miles. Still, mutual desire and longing were confirmed. When I said, “No, I can wait. I have to work tomorrow and it’s late,” it went silent and I have not heard from him no matter what I say in a text. I call that the male drama. He’s suffering? Or…he’s back on Zoosk looking for temporary solace with someone else? He “has” to see me. Ok-what is THAT? Guys get like that. Women don’t. I don’t! I’m not emotionally needy of a man. I just feel his PULL SO strong and want to give him what he needs which is my body and physical presence because it makes me feel better too.

It reminds me of my son when he was little and he’d have to be ON MY BODY while I was talking on the phone. As a  mother, it made me feel better to let him. It feels like it’s pulling from my soul like we already know each other. I can put a stop to it though now that I’m older. The men pulling on us is really something! We usually give in because we know you need our energy. It’s when you start to get demanding or take it for granted that makes me irate. I haven’t felt that toward a man in a long while and I won’t again.

I’ve got this figured out about guys. They need the physical merge to seal the deal, to prove the haps, to make their feelings known, to circle their wagons, to make sure you know they dig you and so you can prove you dig them by giving them your sexual energy, as a woman. I absolutely know this. It is NOT the case for us as women. Nothing physical seals anything for us except maybe a ring, as Beyonce says. I hate this video. hahaha. Rings are fine for women who are reproducing.

Our radar or guydar, our inner voice, our male GPS says, “Go THIS way,” very strong and then we go. LOL. Our feelings seal the deal for us. And then our feelings turn into heart knowing and that turns into rational assessment so we are analyzing the whole deal from the beginning with men because we VERY strongly know which of you males we want to share our sexual energy with and who we do not. You need to respect this aspect of women. Most of us if not all of us are this way and usually we can’t explain it.

The mysterious thing for us is how certain men can steer us to them and “want us” and certain men are SO easy to ignore even though they pull on us. It must be their eyes and pheromones. With that, sure enough, he resembles my son’s father who I successfully reproduced with. He was Scottish-English and he died in 2015. But there might be something in my DNA, thus my brain that told me, “Go to him.” And now I totally want to go to him and likely I will. He’s not like my ex at all in terms of personality but there is something overwhelmingly familiar about him and super attractive. We’ll see.

Maybe what we receive from males is the opportunity to give our love, which we have so much of, to someone that truly needs it and wants it. Women really do have a lot to give and most of us need to love someone or something but that needs to include ourselves. It seems like they are the object of our attention (not women) and we’re the subject of everything.

This is A Big Deal


Storm and Peace

This issue of a storm and peace is pivotal. First of all, don’t pull anyone anywhere for any reason. You are who you are and feel what you feel and they are who they are and feel what they feel. Either that meshes and flows or it doesn’t. You may have to go your own ways.

My intuition and yours also can tell what the deal is especially between men and women.

Men are a storm because of their testosterone and they should NOT be expected to change when that is the way their bodies are. Women are peace because of estrogen and they should not be expected to change when that is the way our bodies are. Aggressive women these days have become that way because they’ve been expected to “fit in with the guys” in order to survive patriarchy when we don’t have the apparatus or hormones! This issue has really affected my health living with men that I loved dearly including my son. All the studies back me up. Women’s health declines living with a man and man’s health improves. It’s completely unlevel.

You guys are stressful because of your testosterone! And then you act like we should have more testosterone to be more like you! Some women are up to the task of becoming bitches and fighting and whipping ya’ll and each other and many do but I’m not. In no way am I called to fight, wrangle, and collar a man, control him, boss him, and expend all my energy on his high maintenance dramatic self. I literally don’t have it in my body and it’s not my calling on the planet. That’s why I’ve never wanted to be married. I took one look at how men operate as a young girl and I’m like, “Ummm, no. Why would any kindly, intelligent woman want to live with a man?”

I’ve said this before, it’s not that I don’t adore men and I am very attracted to them. I adore men as species and I’ve loved a few but I knew I couldn’t live with a man in my youth. Young men, fertile age, with a woman, fertile age, is like hell to me. Now that I’m older, I see men’s testosterone drop which is SUPER FINE for a female like me. They are calmer, don’t stomp around or want to eat and have sex all the time. Oh, thank god. I’m actually hoping maybe I can live with a man now that I’m older.

This placard could read, “Women, don’t let men pull you into their testosterone storm. Men, don’t let women pull you into their estrogen peace. (or kill your manhood)” A woman will read that and say, “Are you crazy? They need to calm down.” Sorry girlfriend, I don’t want a gay man or one that’s too domesticated. I like a man with plenty of testosterone. That doesn’t mean I can live with him though.

I had a Zoosk Date


 

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I guess I’ll just see how many people read this to see if I should continue. I could even add my psychic impressions although that’s pretty personal for the other person.

It’s Saturday night and I’ve already gotten 49 views and messages combined on Zoosk that I don’t want because I already met someone I like. I’m proving that there are dating and libido after 50. I’m 55. That’s sunk in now. I’ve finally got it figured out that most of the men are waiting for the woman to show a real interest in them. She needs to perk up and show some sincere “something” or they won’t really chat you up. However, my fella did! Yes, I found someone I like after looking through hundreds of pics and reading profiles. It’s exhausting. No, no, no, no, no, as you click through. Cute, but no. Nice, but no. Hmmm, sexy, but no. Confident!, but no.

Luckily, I didn’t have to figure that out or act on it today because YESTERDAY, a really hot guy with fire in his eyes chatted me up and initiated. OMG. So, there again, I really noted it in my brain how his face made me feel. I was very attracted to his strength with a big heart that I could see in his eyes, and…a bit of grief. None of the other men had that in their eyes the way he did. They had other things in their eyes but nothing I was very interested in. Women understand. Even if a man is very fit, handsome, blah, blah, blah, he has to have that something that a woman can’t put their finger on that makes us sit up and say, “Who is he? Oh my.” And then, I couldn’t stop staring at his face. THEN, he was very emotionally brave, again that’s so hot, and said he wanted to get together and meet me tonight, had time, where did I want to go, and complimented the bejeebers out of me. Again, so hot. For all I know he’s acting. I hear guys do that. Well, he had it down.

I’m a little like a guy in that I don’t like talking or talking about myself, I’m not a typical girl that just speaks right up about what she wants and gets assertive. I’m not bitchy either. When I’m with a man I want him to lead because in every other aspect of my life I’m in charge, the opposite of fertile women who are paying the piper. I’m paid up.

I’m very soft. I am assertive in my own life on behalf of things that affect me. But chasing a guy? No way no how. I have no clue what to say to a guy. I’m realizing that could have hung me up all these years. I never wanted to chase a guy because I’ve never wanted to be married. Not at all. Is my Twin Flame in the back of my mind at this point? Yes. He’s always there and not talking to me. My intuition tells me he’s seeing someone else too. It’s like I don’t exist. So…I’m dating also. What’s good for the gander is good for the goose.

Well, he took care of that and initiated. Thank God! He was confident too and had his own business just like me. We met at a hip joint for a drink, it was very cool, close to my house and was a blast. When he saw me in the window from outside he sort of jumped and came right in and we had a big hug. We are about the same height but he is very trim and fit and younger than me. Still, I think all that was good. I felt like I knew him already. That’s a good sign. We talked and laughed, asked each other questions for two hours and then he had to go. He was headed up north to work on the house he’s building on 40 acres. We had another big hug goodnight and then I texted and thanked him for buying me a drink and he said he really enjoyed himself. We laughed really hard together. It was a riot. I think I may hear from him but who knows. Of course, being a brainwashed girl by our society the first thing I think is, “Maybe I’m too fat for him.” Every girl thinks that when she meets a guy. It’s nauseating. I actually really like my body now for the first time in a long time so I sort of doubt that.

The girl at the hostess stand came up to me after my date left and says, “Sooooo, how’d it go?” Girls do that with each other even if we’re strangers. lol. I said, “You saw how cute he was and how much we were laughing!” “Good job.” Oh my god. I actually had a date. I have no idea about the future nor am I worried. Que Cera, Cera. There are many fish in the sea and I’m fishing, even if I throw them back in. Yeah for me.

Just Because Someone Desires You Doesn’t Mean They Value You


zooskThis is especially true for women and men doing the dating game. Just because a man desires you, which is the easiest thing in the world for men, to simply want to f* a woman, take her sex energy from chakras 3, 2, and 1 (stomach/power, abdomen/feelings, and reproductive area/sexual energy down to the feet/grounding) and nothing else, doesn’t mean he values you or ever will.  If he valued you or wanted to he would care about who you were in chakras 4, 5, 6, 7 (and above if you’re a lightworker). That is your heart and feelings/4, how you express yourself and your creativity/5, your visions and dreams/6, and your beliefs and spirituality/7 and above. (see image at the bottom)

just because someone desires you.

A young woman has to find out what the status is there because he might be a father to her children which means he has to stick around for 10-15 years which is generally as long as a family lasts. Then most parent’s divorce. Women have to be the ones who decide. Anyone who suggests that you can “feel” all the vibe you need on the phone or text and tell by their voice whether they “check your boxes” is factually incorrect. If a woman says that to a man, she’s kissing his ass to try to get laid. She’s wrong and unethical.

Most men are very turned on when a woman is attracted to them or wants them sexually because that means she may very well give him that sexual love. Again, that is love for men. However, men don’t really “give love” when they have sex, they take which is nature really. They give sperm but not the energy “of love”. Women need to give their sexual energy actually and love a man by opening up her sexual energy, not just her nether regions. I think a lot of women actually take a man’s manhood just to have an orgasm and she doesn’t focus on opening her whole self during sex.

I actually put this post in the trash because of the next section. I had a reader ask me to restore it so I’m here to help. I trashed it because I have hard feelings about all of this and Spirit has been getting to me lately to wake up an issue for everyone. I’m about to post on it.

Men give us energy from heart, voice, being intuitive and tuned in. They really do show love for us when they listen to how we feel, communicate and pay attention. And they actually need to give that for them to grow as people and women need to receive it. Valuing another person sexually and emotionally takes time. If you need the immediate gratification of sex, the valuing will never happen. There is no possibility of hooking all those chakras so that you actually know the other person as a human being. Women understand that human, physical bond far more than men do which is why sex affects us emotionally whereas, for most men, it can just be a type of release of even defecation. I find that repugnant and being aware of this is why I trashed this. It makes me very, very sad about men to know this. Why would you treat an act that can create a human life like defecation? Because you feel like your own life is shit? Life is a gift and time is precious.

There is no skirting around the fact that if a woman allows a man to draw out her sexual energy (3, 2, and 1) before he has shown that he values her as a human being, you’re using each other. If you give a man an inch, he’ll take a mile when it comes to a woman’s energy. Men need our physical energy far more than we need theirs. What does that tell you? Women are more powerful than men and it’s time for women to OWN IT and be accountable instead of playing the victim. We don’t need men as much as they need us and that makes them very vulnerable.

Personally, I’m at a point where I just want to be trustworthy with myself. I’m not at all sure a vulnerable man should trust me and they can probably feel it. I’m not willing to give my emotions and sex energy to a man who I don’t believe is capable of loving me (which is most of them) in which case, I won’t be turned on, in which case there is no point of sex. Women give away their feelings and sex energy all the time and get nothing in return that really matters.  I can’t do that. I’m smart enough to see the real deal and it’s not an even playing field at all.

It’s starting to feel like my back is against a wall with my Twin Flame. It’s either him or no one and the thought of living the last half of my life alone is not something I can accept. As usual, the Universe via my intuition is going to need to guide me. I’m a human being like everyone else and have needs and desires. Unfortunately, I can’t indulge in it like everyone else and get away unscathed. It completely screws up my Qi to be out of my integrity with Spirit, though sometimes I still try to see what will happen.

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Traditionally;

Crown is 7th chakra, Third Eye is 6th, Throat is 5, Heart is 4, Solar Plexus or stomach is 3, Sacral is 2 and Root is 1.

The navel is the Dantien area or ancestral Qi that attaches through your mother at birth. Chakras activated above the crown are done through meditation and below the root, or Earth Star may be for people training in shamanistic healing. If you’re doing shamanistic training you really can’t mess around with sex that is not heart connected, in my opinion.

I’m on Zoosk, God help me.


 

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I had to do something other than a bar scene to get back out there. Its real purpose is just to be social. I’m not looking for a mate because I’m in touch with my Twin Flame. But he is on the west coast. Besides, a little competition on that front can’t hurt.

My intuition tells me that nothing will come of it but I knew that. It’s more of a social experiment to see how the dating game has changed since I was in my thirties. Now it’s about sexting. Some of the men don’t actually want to meet you. They’re probably married so it would be a secret way to cheat on their wife or spice up their sex life, men needing novelty of course. Also, if they met you in person it would make you too human and when it comes to women, most men can’t have that. It’s too intimidating for a woman to be a real human. Then they’d have to talk to you and treat you with respect instead of acting like a dog in the alley ready to take any b…. ready to go. There’s that.

This whole issue is making me like my Twin Flame all that much more. Not only was he willing to meet me in person, but he also offered to fly to Grand Rapids first and I decided it would be better if I went there first. Then I did. He was the real deal and still is, even though it got very Twilight Zone once I was out there. That still had to be the weirdest experience of my life. Still, he was a badass and treated me like a queen even though we had our normal spats. He’s a real man, super intelligent and on my beam. I miss him all that much more. I’ve apologized for how insecure I got (he did too), he’s accepted and I’ve invited him to come here in May or around that time. We are absolutely peaceful and warm now; no tension. Here’s to hoping he comes! Maybe we won’t freak out this time.

So, because of that testosterone effect, I’ve concluded that guys that are not good looking shoot for very good-looking women and guys that ARE good looking shoot for very hot women. It’s still all about looks online and the men look at women as enhancements to their ego and status.

My intuition tells me to keep taking care of myself and focus into my heart and mind on my twin flame. There is just no comparison at all. When you’ve met the best, nobody else will do. This is very apparent now. Maybe that’s why I did the month trial.

Mic Drop


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I’m checking in with my intuition tonight and I think my rational brain did a wedgie on my intuition again. That happens sometimes with all of us. Your intuition is correct much more of the time than the rational mind. Just sayin’.

I feel it may be truer to say that two people who really like each other and are attracted to each other both have very strong emotions and strong sex drive to one another. It’s just a bit rare. Right? It’s what we all dream about. It’s not something that can be predicted or measured.

The one-way street where only one person has feelings is a drag and accounts for my other blogs on this issue. It happens all the time. So I may not be off on that part. I’ve known plenty of emotional men that find it easy to cry and to talk. And I’m actually the type of woman that says, “I don’t want to talk about it”, go in my office and shut the door. Most of the men I’ve known have been more open than me! I have direct access to my feelings and always know how I feel. I just don’t always want others to know. At the moment I’m very private. Maybe that will change soon. I don’t know. I’m letting nature take its course.

I just had to drop that.

 

The “No Relationship Agreement”, Like a Pre-Nup only it’s a Pre-Sex


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This is the antonym of “The Relationship Agreement” first suggested on the show “The Big Bang Theory” by Sheldon Cooper. At this point, it’s just an idea but it would make me feel better if men knew my boundaries before I date and agreed to them. I’m interested in Sex and Love but not being a man’s territory for his status ambitions.

They also can’t power trip and insult me like I’m an emotional, needy girl that falls in love when I have sex with a man. I don’t. That’s younger girls, not older women. Nor do I care what previous women have expected of him. I control myself. I have zero time or interest in dog-collaring a man.

It can be widely observed that women are treated like “capital”, territory, objects to be owned or sold like a slave as in sex-trafficking, married for status under the guise of love that usually only lasts for ten years, and possessed by a man like a house or a car. Or, used for sex and thrown to the curb with no feelings whatsoever. That is factual in our society. I strongly feel this agreement is appropriate for women and men over 50 since it is not ideal that either of them reproduces. The main purpose of marriage is protective reproduction. After 50, there is no point of marriage and most professionals agree.

Females function socially and biologically under the values of Love and Freedom, that have a spiritual foundation, not ownership because we make humans in our bodies which is sacred. Our sex energy is stronger and more important than the male because everything in our body automatically makes a human being. We hold the species in our hearts. We don’t need to dink around with A.I. or technology or cross-dressing to fantasize about being a woman; we live it. It’s true that the egg and the sperm are equal in needing to conceive but the fact that the woman alone does the rest means that the sexual energy we share with a man is a BIG PROFIT to him. It gives him some of eternity whether he realizes it or not.

They take our sex energy and more and don’t give much back because maybe they don’t have as much to give as women do. Males and thus patriarchy are cashing in on women who don’t realize what big sexual energy we have that rivals males and men don’t understand why we give it away. Like Bruno Mars sings, “Your sex takes me to Paradise.” If he’s not having sex, he feels like he’s been locked out of heaven! That song says it all as do many other songs with men expressing their deep feelings about how dependent they are on our bodies for happiness. Swimming in our bodies is apparently something spiritual. Women just shake their heads because to us it’s just normal and men get dramatic about it!

Most women love giving their sex energy but not to the point of bankruptcy. It’s getting to the bankrupt point on this planet and it’s up to women to stop the hemorrhage.

If you think about a woman’s body like a bank account, women are letting men rob the bank. Prostitution starts to make men pay for a loan but only scratches the surface. Men need to start to pay their own way on the Earth in the form of Love so this agreement is my idea to start in that direction. I don’t know if it’s possible. Maybe it’s like trying to get blood from a turnip.

Please note that I’m not suggesting a “No Love”, “No intimacy” agreement. In fact, women are the opposite. The “No-relationship” agreement is a first step to legally and socially protect a woman from becoming the territory of a man and her energy being owned only by herself, thus guarding her sexual energy for future generations of humans and possibly saving the species. Women are being abused, used, trafficked, raped and denigrated everywhere on the planet and it’s gotta stop. Male, patriarchal institutions are trying to kill the species. That’s the opposite of everything women are about.

The No-Relationship Agreement

This must be initialed by both parties (herein called the fucker and the fuckee whose roles can swap) before having sex. Sex is never an obligatory act once enacted. We are still both totally free. Human beings don’t possess one another; we bond through love. ___________

  1. You agree not to ask me to be your girl/boyfriend._________
  2. You agree not to ask me to marry you._________
  3. You agree that if we discuss it at length, after some time, and agree, we can be monogamous lovers but still not be in a formal relationship that suggests territory. Once initialed, we agree that neither of us will bring another sexual partner into our home if we live together and agree to be monogamous lovers. ________
  4. If one changes their mind and doesn’t want to be monogamous lovers there is no obligation or punishment forthwith. We are both free agents and will go our own way.__________
  5. Under no circumstances does one ever tell the other one what to do. We can ask but never command.____________
  6. We both have and control our own money.__________
  7. Either of us can ask for a 3-way but never expect it.__________
  8. We both agree that digital sex is only occasional or just goofing around. Neither one of us engages in it with anyone as a predominant mode of sex. We agree that sex without a body is unhealthy and dumb.__________
  9. If we want to go out together just ask the other one. There is no obligation and we can ask someone else to go with us, female or male._________
  10. Public designation without #3 is “friends”.____________
  11. Public designation with #3 is “partner”._____________
  12. If one falls in love with the other because they’ve lost their mind, the other one has permission to bolt. We agree not to call the police or missing person.__________

It’s an idea. When a man I date actually initials it I’ll let you know. It would mean his intent is to love and give something back and not use my sexual energy.

Robert Kraft and Massage Therapy


Patriots Owner Robert Kraft Charged with Soliciting Prostitution

Robert Kraft

“Is human touch and healthcare going to continue to be a patriarchal predatory game physically and financially or is it going to become holistic, legal and gender balanced?-Lisa Townsend, LMT, B.A., Reiki Master

What happens in the massage therapy profession is going to be the harbinger of the future of healthcare in America and the future of gender equity because it’s the public service of touch, healing, and care and how we define that for human beings; for men, women, and children. Healthcare CAN feel good and it’s called holistic healthcare, but it doesn’t include public sex but plenty of intimacy in private sex. It’s time to pivot this.

Touch therapy is potentially bringing down Patriots owner Robert Kraft. It was a spa massage he was getting but it’s still touch. They have no education or a different education and offer sex massage. I have 4 years of education and offer medical massage. We both touch the body and help humans feel better. Human touch is powerful medicine.

I guess Kraft has a great reputation as a good person but has changed significantly since the death of his wife he was married to for almost 50 years. I’m widowed also so I understand. It really is a deep emotional trauma you don’t just shake off. There may be a lot of cynicism around monogamous marriage and partnerships but women and men do tend to become best friends and rely on one another when they live together. That’s love folks, and when you lose your best friend, part of you dies too. Sex and money is hollow succor for friendship with a woman no matter what men say or do. Women feel the same way about friendship with men by the way.

The first thing everyone associates massage therapy with is prostitution, sex trafficking of women and pornography because that is the only way the media portrays us. It’s awful. It affects everyone on all levels of my profession and it’s not a good thing. All of those activities, like militarism, are the direct consequence of patriarchy, its denial of humanity and feelings to men, or, in other words, sexual bonding to women as opposed to objectified sex, and violence due to excessive testosterone and greed. Even within my profession, there is confusion among practitioners as to whether sex is ok or not. There is no confusion legally. The state licenses make it illegal and that is the right thing to do. If you are a massage therapist, you have to have a state health care license.

In patriarchy, men are blamed for all of that illegal activity and grab all the money and institutional power as well; corporate, church, state, and government, so while they’re being blamed they’re being rewarded for the behavior. It creates psychopaths. Women are on distinct shelves based on body type, height, culture, age, health, education, and economic status. You can see the projection of prostitution phantasms all over that.

Objectification and lack of loving touch create depression and psychosis in human beings because we’re souls, not just a body, and massage therapists know it. It makes us completely different than all other health care professionals. Bodyworkers can feel the body’s Qi or consciousness. It’s very normal for us to be tuned in to that and many of us run Reiki.

So now our society is full of psychopaths and depressives because of patriarchy which thrives on the objectification of women through sex and uses massage therapy to do it. Massage therapists innocently step in, and have stepped in, in a very esoteric manner for 10,000 years and helped humanity feel better through touch. It started with mothers massaging their infants. 98% of massage therapists are trained, state-licensed professionals who have been subjected to testing, background checks and fingerprinting just as all healthcare practitioners have to. The vast majority of us are not sex trafficked victims. The vast majority of us know what we’re doing but the education standards are slowly coming up and need to.

Sex trafficking and prostitution don’t hit nursing, P.T.’s and doctors. It hones right in on licensed massage therapists like a laser. Why? Because if massage therapy is done right, it makes you feel better, not worse, which is not the case with modern healthcare and dentistry. No one looks forward to going to the doctor, P.T. or dentist but they do to a massage therapist. That causes them to feel guilty and to connect it in their minds to sex and love because it’s physical and it feels good. The public can’t possibly connect anything that feels good to healthcare. Then the men step in and try to turn it into sex or pornography. It needs to stop! It’s NOT sex and will not be. Sex isn’t love to women but to men it is.  There is the disconnect.

Medical massage is redefining massage therapy and healthcare. It goes like this;

  1. Massage therapy is all about touch, moving the blood with the human hand and feeling better.
  2. Massage therapy is proven, effective healthcare and doctors and P.T.’s recommend massage therapy all the time.
  3. Massage therapy is also used by criminals for a sex crime because of patriarchy and short circuits the powerful healing aspects.

Medical massage therapists say that massage therapy is:

  1. Holistic. It treats the whole person; mind, body, and spirit which are ONE and the same. Neither gender controls the meaning of it. It is both female and male. It affects all 7-12 chakras, not just 1 and 2 which is just sex energy.
  2. The sex act has NO BUSINESS whatsoever in our offices (the states agree and make it illegal) but is essential to intimacy in our society. Partner or couples massage in private is definitely called for. So is energy awareness and not objectification within our families; men toward women, women toward men and parents toward children.
  3. Human touch is essential to real healthcare but it has to be done properly with boundaries. Medical Massage therapists can teach it to other healthcare workers.
  4. The body is made mostly of flesh that contracts and shortens because of emotional and mental stress. Therefore, Soft Tissue Doctors or Naprapaths (D.N.’s) need to be on the front line of ALL healthcare. If health insurance doesn’t cover us, it doesn’t need to exist at all. It’s a bad product without us. Period. The health insurance industry is absolutely unacceptable in every way possible, including as a business model at this moment in time because it refuses to cover licensed holistic health services.

Every massage therapist and holistic practitioner I know care deeply about the physical thriving and survival of life as we know it on this planet. We are at a critical juncture where body balance, gender balance, and cultural balance have to be in place or we are concerned that we aren’t going to make it. Holistic medicine has something vital to say about that. It’s time that the American Federal Government and Americans started to listen. You’re supposed to love yourself and your body and mostly take care of it yourself through basic daily choices. If emotions and habits are hanging you up, massage therapy and Reiki can help move all of that.

Healing Toxic Masculinity


hungry manI continue to be very impressed with Cassidy Cayne’s blogs on Twin Flame 11:11 when she shares with all of us what she is receiving directly from Spirit. It keeps happening that I open up her writing, and it’s exactly what I’ve heard from Spirit as well on the same issue with my Twin Flame, so it fabulous confirmation from week to week. It’s part of being an Intuitive.

Twin Flames 11:11 This weeks post

It has been on my heart of late that indeed, there is a collective karmic community of male energy that men as a whole on the planet are processing. I know the women seem to be getting all the attention and all the votes publicly which is fabulous, and I absolutely believe it’s time for women to lead. But it’s also time for men to be supported and free to heal from all the defending, emotional repression, expectations, pressure and harm that they’ve been programmed to act on over millennia.

Their hearts are hurt and they carry loads of guilt and trauma from societies expectation on them to the point of severe depression, alcoholism, and anxiety. I believe men suffer more from that than women do.  I’ve blogged on this before but men have feelings too. They’re set up biologically different than women but it doesn’t make them mostly divergent from us. All told, we are very similar as human beings.

In the article found at the link above, she talks about how common it is for men to pull away or to run because they believe they hurt women and may even say that. In order to protect us, who they deem as better or purer than them, they run away as though they are some troll from a Disney movie. I’ve known most men to do this and I’ve never understood the insecurity until now. The reason I haven’t understood it is that I find most men adorable and while they have no problem looking and talking to me lustily, they’re not very warm or kind. That’s when my shields go up.

My question has always been, “Why can’t you just be humane and treat me like a normal human being instead of a chicken sandwich to eat when you’re hungry?” I believe it’s because they’re programmed to be inhumane. They’re expected to be that way the same way women are programmed to be critical of our bodies and other women’s bodies, to compete with other women on every score, and to look as pretty as we can and smile. We’re NONE of that and many of us are getting damn sick of feeling the pressure to objectify ourselves so men can prey on us. We don’t exist for men to consume and many of us don’t need coupling!

Anyway, the genders are shifting quickly. I’m trying to keep up and hopefully, my Twin Flame is keeping up inside of himself as well. I highly recommend you check out the article!