Prose; Adoration Be Damned


Here is some of my prose from last year. Have a great weekend! I’m stalking a case for spring in the autumn of my middle age. My assembled energy is diametrically opposite that of needing the validation of an amassed group of imposters pretending to agree so they can drink together later. It’s not that …

I Haven’t Written about Intimacy in Awhile


...because a panicdemic isn't exactly an inspiration to intimacy. IT'S A DIFFERENT WORLD SINCE I LAST REALLY POSTED ANYTHING! I'm just going to say it. If you're well and have faith in your immune system, know that you make antibodies as everyone does and feel like you can walk above the Fear Fray, HAVE SEX! …

Intimacy; How Do We Move From Lust to Love?


Do you know the difference between lust and love? I'll go with the hard one first; Love. Love is when you want to take time to really know someone, to care about how they feel, what they need and what makes them tick. You want to be their friend. Friendship is the basis of all …

Heartset; Wounded Men and the Women Who Take Control of Them Instead of Empowering Them


  I guess I thought I might be getting into a rut, defining myself by my work and my private practice but I'm now thinking it's FAR more important that I focus on that than finding a new mate. I'm not lonely. I love sleeping alone and don't wax nostalgic over a man stomping up …

Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


  I've been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we're fine, happy with ourselves, like …

Heartset; We Can Get a Room…


Most women suck it up even though they don't want to right away. What if you haven't met him yet? What if you've just talked long distance for a long time? I have to get a vibe in person with a guy. I freakin' don't get why guys don't care about that! They should. I …

Heartset; Can She Be a Human Being?


She is either the big, bad, controlling monster because she's a strong, intelligent woman or little Cinderella princess needing the glass slipper put on her foot? Too many men are passive-aggressive about women I suppose because they don't understand us. We're neither of those two ends on a linear spectrum. I wonder if men are …

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There's a myth I keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I'm attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I've listed above, I'll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and …

Everyday Intuition; Competition at Home


I remember feeling viscerally competitive on different levels with my previous mates with whom I lived. A lot of that is caused by sex. It gets you all riled up and thus the testosterone levels go up, especially for women which is not the best hormone to have in big supply. We need to relax. …

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