Collective Evolution post Today on Blue 8 Galactic Night


Future events are time; specifically the AC aboriginal continuity, future to present timeline. In my book I contend that the future timeline is one strand of the double helix. This article is saying that MINDSET focused on future time affects the heart and brain whose cells are 100%full of cellular specific DNA.

Time, future time IS DNA.

Study Shows The Heart & Brain Responding To Future Events Before They Happen

Arjun Walia

BYARJUN WALIAJULY 4, 20214 MINUTE READImage: 123RF

IN BRIEF

  • The Facts: Multiple experiments have shown strong evidence for precognition in several different ways. One of them comes in the form of activity within the heart and the brain, responding to events before they even happen. (DNA is even the source of pre…cognition.
  • Reflect On: Do we have extra human capacities we are unaware of? How might this change the way we view the question of ‘who we are?’

Is precognition real?

There are many examples suggesting that yes, it is. The remote viewing program conducted by the CIA in conjunction with Stanford University was a good example of that.  After its declassification in 1995, or at least partial declassification, the Department of Defense and those involved revealed an exceptionally high success rate:

To summarize, over the years, the back-and-forth criticism of protocols, refinement of methods, and successful replication of this type of remote viewing in independent laboratories has yielded considerable scientific evidence for the reality of the (remote viewing) phenomenon. Adding to the strength of these results was the discovery that a growing number of individuals could be found to demonstrate high-quality remote viewing, often to their own surprise… The development of this capability at SRI has evolved to the point where visiting CIA personnel with no previous exposure to such concepts have performed well under controlled laboratory conditions. (source)

The kicker? Part of remote viewing involves peering into future events as well as events that happened in the past.

It’s not only within the Department of Defense that we find this stuff, but a lot of science is emerging on this subject as well.

For example, a study (meta analysis) published in the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience titled “Predicting the unpredictable: critical analysis and practical implications of predictive anticipatory activity” examined a number of experiments regarding this phenomenon that were conducted by several different laboratories. These experiments indicate that the human body can actually detect randomly delivered stimuli that occur 1-10 seconds in advance. In other words, the human body seems to know of an event and reacts to it before it has occurred. What occurs in the human body before these events are physiological changes that are measured regarding the cardiopulmonary, the skin, and the nervous system.

A few years ago, the chief scientist at the Institute of Noetic Sciences, Dr. Dean Radin, visited the scientists over at HearthMath Institute and shared the results of one of his studies. Radin is also one of multiple scientists who authored the paper above. These studies, as mentioned above, tracked the autonomic nervous system, physiological changes, and more.

Scientists at HeartMath Institute (HMI) added more protocols, which included measuring participants’ brain waves (EEG), their hearts’ electrical activity (ECG), and their heart rate variability (HRV).

As HMI explains:

Twenty-six adults experienced in using HeartMath techniques and who could sustain a heart-coherent state completed two rounds of study protocols approximately two weeks apart. Half of the participants completed the protocols after they intentionally achieved a heart-coherent state for 10 minutes. The other half completed the same procedures without first achieving heart coherence. Then they reversed the process for the second round of monitoring, with the first group not becoming heart-coherent before completing the protocols and the second group becoming heart-coherent before. The point was to test whether heart coherence affected the results of the experiment.

Participants were told the study’s purpose was to test stress reactions and were unaware of its actual purpose. (This practice meets institutional-review-board standards.) Each participant sat at a computer and was instructed to click a mouse when ready to begin.

The screen stayed blank for six seconds. The participant’s physiological data was recorded by a special software program, and then, one by one, a series of 45 pictures was displayed on the screen. Each picture, displayed for 3 seconds, evoked either a strong emotional reaction or a calm state. After each picture, the screen went blank for 10 seconds. Participants repeated this process for all 45 pictures, 30 of which were known to evoke a calm response and 15 a strong emotional response.

The Results

The results of the experiment were fascinating to say the least. The participants’ brains and hearts responded to information about the emotional quality of the pictures before the computer flashed them (random selection). This means that the heart and brain were both responding to future events. The results indicated that the responses happened, on average, 4.8 seconds before the computer selected the pictures.

How mind-altering is that?

Even more profound, perhaps, was data showing the heart received information before the brain. “It is first registered from the heart,” Rollin McCraty Ph.D. explained, “then up to the brain (emotional and pre-frontal cortex), where we can logically relate what we are intuiting, then finally down to the gut (or where something stirs).”

Another significant study (meta-analysis) that was published in Journal of Parapsychology by Charles Honorton and Diane C. Ferrari in 1989 examined a number of studies that were published between 1935 and 1987. The studies involved individuals’ attempts to predict “the identity of target stimuli selected randomly over intervals ranging from several hundred million seconds to one year following the individuals responses.” These authors investigated over 300 studies conducted by over 60 authors, using approximately 2 million individual trials by more than 50,000 people.

Their analysis of precognition experiments,

“confirms the existence of a small but highly significant precognition effect. The effect appears to be repeatable; significant outcomes are reported by 40 investigators using a variety of methodological paradigms and subject populations.”

The precognition effect is not merely an unexplained departure from a theoretical chance baseline, but rather is an effect that covaries with factors known to influence more familiar aspects of human performance.

The Takeaway

“There seems to be a deep concern that the whole field will be tarnished by studying a phenomenon that is tainted by its association with superstition, spiritualism and magic. Protecting against this possibility sometimes seems more important than encouraging scientific exploration or protecting academic freedom. But this may be changing.”
 Cassandra Vieten, PhD and President/CEO at the Institute of Noetic Sciences (source)

We are living in a day and age where new information and evidence are constantly emerging, challenging what we once thought about the nature of reality and ourselves as human beings.  Perhaps there are aspects of ourselves and our consciousness that have yet to be discovered. Perhaps if we learn and grow from these studies, they can help us better ourselves and others, and perhaps create a shift in the overal human story that drives our society.

The Two Timeline Choices Simplified


https://www.history.com/news/prehistoric-ages-timeline

They were better artists than us.

780,000 years ago was the last pole shift, during the Stone Age. In that time period, sentient humans evolved and burgeoned the planet. We stood up on two legs and our brains turned on so that we could make choices, at least most of us. It’s called Free Will and it is High Frequency Universal Law. We are not called to be slaves or prisoners in someone else’s drama whether it’s 3D or a holonomic simulation controlled by A.I. But if we don’t speak up and exercise our freedom to choose, by default, we’re in THEIR game.

780,000 years on the C.A. timeline of 12:60 are 65, 12,000 year cycles which is why those that believe 12:60 is THE REALITY are now in synchronicity with the 12:60 sprockets. 13:20 coordinate controls the 65 harmonic Tzolkin. That synchronicity is giving them a temporary lens into other dimensions so they can get a glimpse of the choice they have. Thus the E.T. are around A LOT.

780,000 years on the A.C. timeline of 13:20 are 60, 13,000 year cycles which is why those of us following the 13:20 coordinate are saying it’s not fair, we need more time, the kids aren’t mature enough yet, the universe actors who made mistakes need to admit it and give us some slack, meaning, give us the other 5 cycles left in the HAAB sprocket where 12:60 sprockets with 13:20. That would give earth 10,000 more years to achieve inter-frequential synchronicity with our E.T. ancestors who are already on the Universal Circuit and lessen the loss of humans, or genetic diversity that they have worked so hard to achieve on this genetic library planet.

Before the pole shift 10,000 years from now, we would be absent the Deep State, the Cabal and the elite bad actors who should be exiled to a different planet. Humans need to be in charge now. It would give us time to;

  • Learn to meditate daily and love ourselves
  • Wake up our pineal gland and get into daytime Delta Brain Waves for wakeful dreaming
  • Learn how to change our DNA and completely change our bodies ourselves.
  • End our belief in illness and physical death
  • Evolve so that we’re not so reliant on food for energy
  • Learn more about biology and our incredible bodies and immune systems so that we approach our body as a WHOLE, not in pieces.
  • Learn about the 12 other energy bodies we have and how to get them aligned
  • Full Disclosure, terra form the planet, apply zero point energy and anti-gravity, no more fossil fuels and more.

OUR ENERGY and mindset are ONE with the planet. As millions have the chance and time to raise their consciousness frequency so will Earth. Then the cataclysm can be checked and happen gradually. I choose 13 root time cycle. It also incorporates equal power of the female with the male. That has to happen for the earth to balance whether you like it or not. Every other planet in our local universe shares power equally with the female. If a capable and smart female leader steps forward, stop knocking her down and show some respect for her Mind, not just her body.

Intuition is High Intelligence


Some of my followers may remember when I posted on this blog about intuition. The posts are still on here. You just have to go back about a year. I’ll see if I can find the date.

I also have a short book I put together on the subject under my books tab.

Sunday; Yellow 5 Overtone Human or Glutamic Acid



I Empower in order to influence,

Commanding Wisdom, I seal the process of Free Will with the Overtone tone of Radiance.

I am guided by the power of Universal Fire.

The attributes of Yellow Human are Influence, Wisdom (some), and Free-Will (some). The humans that don’t like or believe in wisdom and free will are separating out from the rest and will stick with authoritarian, parental control while it exists on the planet. It won’t last. We are evolving upward. Humans are a vessel of Higher Power for those that want to acknowledge and exercise that power.

Just as a Note*; The Yellow Human GAP kin are 7Human, 8Human, 9Human and 10 Human. It is no doubt very significant that these particular molecules ACTIVATE, I’m just not sure why yet. 2 Yellow Human is of course right in HF33 which has no 3D governance so that is INTENTION set for EARTH by Galactic Center. It has manifested in dualistic thinking and dualistic bodies; 2 arms, 2 legs, 2 ears, 2 brains, 2 feet,

The analog support is Blue 5 Overtone Hand or Isoleucine. Know, healing, accomplishment, generous, peaceful, grasper, cooperative and artistic.

The Guide Power until Noon is Yellow 5 Sun as a Stop Codon so we have a collective Mind upload through the Sun to Galactic Center today. This is enlightenment, Life, and Universal-Fire.

The antipode challenge until dusk is White 5 Overtone Wind or Glycine. This is empowering communication, breath and spirit.

The Hidden Wisdom is Red 9 Solar Moon or Solar Methinonine which is the START CODON. Notice again that the stop codon and start codon are in the same themeplex.

The 5th dimensional Galactic Force Group brings Yellow 9 Solar Star to bear on the evolution in this themeplex. That is solar art, beauty, and harmony as long as your focus and attention goes that way.

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Planting Seeds on the New Moon and Solar Eclipse


Today is both a solar eclipse when the earth passes directly in alignment with the sun to block it’s light and a new moon where the position of the earth is in direct alignment with the moon so that the light from the sun that usually hits the moon, allowing us to see it, it also blocked from our vantage point on earth.

One could conjecture that much solar and lunar energy is blocked but really it’s a very powerful, DIRECT alignment of the EARTH with the sun and the moon at the same time. It’s a reset point INSIDE of us, much like a seed that is in the dark of the soil, has it’s DNA packet and is getting ready to sprout. Humans are doing the same thing. The DNA/RNA SEED PACKETS for humans are the VIRUSES that humans have always been exposed to for a million years. Running from a virus seed packet that is helping us evolve forward is like being afraid of seeds you put in the ground!!! No one said it would be easy. It’s not easy for the little seeds we plant to sprout and expand either. Everything on earth tends to be struggle, for the animals and the plants too! Why do humans think it should be easy for us?

The purpose of this particular virus is to open our pineal gland and change our brains. Thus, if you’re relaxed, most of the symptoms will be in your head, eyes, sinus, and ears. That’s how it was for me. And it’s not exactly a simple procedure to clean out the pineal gland, (the 3rd eye) because of the toxins on our planet and calcification. It’s important to relax with this thing and let it change you. It is a novel virus but that’s because we’re in a paradigm shift. Our brains have to become more telepathic, enlightened, conscious, psychic, ability to focus and meditate; all the things that are actually normal for humans.

The media narrative of this thing is one more psychopathic hatred for the earth and humanity from our sick care system that has taught us our whole lives that our bodies are weak and bad and need HELP from drugs and vaccines. No they don’t. We only need the earth and an aligned mind and heart. Every natural thing that we are and are exposed to they cast as a monster so they can possibly bring Artificial Intelligence to the planet and hijack the beauty of the human race. It’s all a big profit to them as well. That’s a long story but they aren’t going to get away with it. Hopefully, pretty soon here, our sick care system will be done. It’s all lies.

This is solar system lineup but as we know, we live in multidimensional universe of True Time. Today is Yellow 6 Seed or VALINE, mediated by Jupiter. Yesterday was the Summer Solstice, the longest LIGHT of the year and it is a time of planting seeds. Not only 3D seeds but mental, emotional, and spiritual seeds.

  • Theme: Yellow 6 Seed; ordered, rhythmic growth targeting awareness
  • Analog: Blue 6 Eagle; balancing equality with independent vision, ALL people from ALL cultures who believe in themselves, dreamers, and the hopeful.
  • Guide Power; Yellow 6 Seed; Balancing equality with being a spiritual creator, individual potential, and influence.
  • Antipode; White 6 Wizard; Being receptive, psychic, listening, sensitive, aligned with Divine will.
  • Hidden Wisdom; Red 8 Earth; Modeling integrity, harmonizing within the ONE HUMAN RACE in order to EVOLVE in synchronicity in the Matrix. Red Earth are Earth keepers, crystal healers, free, and confident.

The 5GForce today is Yellow 8 Warrior. We harmonize in order to QUESTION. When we model fearlessness we seal the output of intelligence. The galactic tone is INTEGRITY and is guided by THE SUN.

THE MOLECULAR LINEUP

We are on microscopic levels here, like the virus, like very tiny seeds that then expand to the same order to macrocosmic levels. They can’t be stopped by anything, not even a mask. The mind has to be prepared though. In the areas where the virus is exploding again, people thought they were immune and ignored it. No one is immune from getting the virus. Everyone has to get it. Do you know anyone on the planet who has never gotten a virus? Everyone gets them. We have to. We’re supposed to. It’s nature. I marvel at those who profess to be environmentalists and in love with nature and their OWN BODY is not aligned with natural cycles, they are not whole, they are not healthy, they are not vital. Such is the nature of media programming that is largely unconscious in our society.

We see it happening again here on the molecular level as I always see and that is the Tzolkin Code illuminates the genetic code. It’s synchronicity. Lysine has more carbon on the left, arginine has more nitrogen. Otherwise, they are almost exactly the same and sit in the Tzolkin themeplex right next to teach other. If you follow this section, you can see it every day on here.

Yesterday I was studying Jose’s book “Earth Ascending” again and on page 29 I saw;

Earth Ascending in not a speculation, but a precise set of keys, a code, a matrix, and ultimately a display of the underlying patterns governing the conscious experience of LIFE on this particular planet.

These are the levels where the patterns are the same;

  • Radiogenetic
  • Human Form
  • All of Humanity
  • The Planet
  • The Solar System
  • The Galaxy
  • The Universe

It’s only by looking at the universe wholistically that we’ll be able to understand our own DNA and our bodies. The reductionist approach isn’t going to get us to the goal line. If Americans keep believing the media and the sick care, corrupt science approach but still claim to be tuned in, they’ll go over the cliff. I will too if I’m unconscious of something. That’s why I meditate daily. Our bodies have no limit.

Continue reading “Planting Seeds on the New Moon and Solar Eclipse”

Every Cell of Our Body has Memory


This just hit me 30 minutes ago as I had a trance nap. I was between sleeping and a trance state where I can channel information from the cosmic web. I’m forever trying to truly understand what our bodies actually are and as I feel and understand my own I can then teach my patients and followers.

The name of this blog is aptly named “DNA is Time” after my meditation that showed me that our bodies change as our memories change. Our lives in TIME are remembered, literally, through the cells of our bodies. There are actually some really good studies on this and if you’ve followed me for awhile, you remember my posts from Candace Perts’ Book, “Molecules of Emotion”. She proved conclusively, as an NIH cell biologist, that every cell of our body remembers our thoughts and feelings and that sets up the STATE OF OUR HEALTH.

Here is the science behind it;

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/12/091223125125.htm

For instance, I have asked my helpers to help me fine tune my vibration so that I can go back to the small size I was when I was 18 (size 7-8) so that as I continue on earth until I’m 104, my joints have a light weight to carry. I’m already down to a 14 from too many numbers above that when I was living with a man. I don’t believe in linear aging because TIME isn’t linear, it spirals and is endless.

However, EARTH vibration and environment is actually quite toxic to our souls and our cells. That cellular stress causes aging unless you have some kind of high tech defense. Add to that most people joining the group mass hypnosis and media hypnosis about aging and death and people’s minds are literally programmed to decline. Not mine. I don’t listen to or believe any of it mostly because it’s incorrect and not necessary. My intuition tells me aging and death are not necessary and millions of people agree with me. Every single religion teaches God is IN us. Death in physical is not necessary or they are all liars. We could just easily transition in sleep if we’re done here. I know many people think all the religions are liars but I think people just don’t believe God or believe in God.

As I awoke from the trance I had such a physical memory of my time with both my grandmothers, how much fun I had as a little girl, how kind they were to me and how loved I felt. There is a section about it in my book “Healer” that you can order on this site. It’s important to let those good, loving memories wash over you like a shower and bathe every cell of your body. I also remember the vibrancy I felt acting on stage in theater. It was at this point my guides warned me. If I go back to the beauty and vibrancy at that time I could be distracted by performing or attention I might receive and not get the other projects done I promised to do. Well, there are other happy sections of my life I could invoke. I’ll do an inventory. Nevertheless, invoking memories on your timeline changes your DNA. That was made clear to me. We are all walking holographic history books; our history.

I’ll ponder it, but their point was, as you bring memories forward with the feelings attached, those memories literally change your DNA and can make you literally time travel back to an original state or incorporate who you are NOW with who you were THEN. That could really be a temptation as I think about it. It could also change the past which would change other’s pasts! They were right, if I merged the two time lines! Have I lost you yet? LOL.

Someone once said it was dangerous to sit in the past for too long or to dream of the future for too long. That warning is because your BODY literally GOES THERE and you may bring changes that you aren’t consciously aware of, because you’re playing with TIME and DNA. Fascinating stuff. We are creators and have so many options on the planet. One of the reasons I’m doing this project is so that as we create and change our health system and bodies, we know we’re playing with fire and that fire is TIME.

Essay; A Woman’s Ego


 

Woman on a mountain

I originally blogged this on August 26, 2013; 6 years ago.

The book I wrote, “Healer” has a section on bonding; page 240.  Like most people, I believe that men and women have a tremendous amount in common biologically.  And I really do like most men.  However, socially, on Facebook, and in the town, I live in, the more I talk, as a literate person, as an intelligent woman with self-esteem that isn’t a doormat, as a woman who is a small business owner, the more I get called names like “egotistical” and “pathetic”.

So I decided to think about the difference between a woman’s ego and a man’s ego. There are books and articles about a man’s ego all over the place. The “fragile male ego” is well known.  But the woman’s ego?  Imagine, the “fragile female ego” being bandied about.  It’s more like, “New discovery!  Women have an ego! Make a flag for them!”

The definition of the ego is a sense of “yourself” or “self-centered”. Everyone starts out at a young age with a natural inborn sense of who they are as a person unless your parents or religion beat it out of you. That’s possible and maybe prevalent, but not healthy at all. People do tend to feel more secure if they agree with one another.  It’s curious.

A woman…with a sense of “herself”, pride, dignity, accomplished….well, she doesn’t sound very sexy.  Or does she?  Why do I assume she has to sound sexy? She doesn’t have to but women want sex probably more than men do. If you described a man that way it’s sexy.

There’s our first red flag. Women are given the message early on that their attractiveness as a potential mate, for the purposes of reproduction, should define their sense of self-worth. Thus the obsession with superficial looks as opposed to a big brain, articulateness, education, in essence, the character Amy Farafowler on “Big Bang Theory” (who I love). It’s just starting to catch on. And we are ever so grateful to Dr. Barbie and Corporate Manager Barbie to serve as a role model for young girls.

Yes, women have an ego.  Yes, women have a sense of themselves as an individual. Our needs with regard to education, intelligence, level of respect and pay in the workplace, respect in the home, respect from our sons, access to team sports, et.al are EQUAL to men.

I suppose I’ll spend the rest of my life writing and living an example of a woman with an ego who loves.  You can’t love from emptiness.  You can’t love if your body is falling apart because you’ve given your last ounce of life force to everyone else. Women can be an example of how to take care of ourselves first and then whoever else we prefer to care for.

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Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


 

man-in-doubt

I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am. There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.

But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal. The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting. Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with. Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.

How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going. It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.

It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it. Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.

I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not? The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it.  I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild. It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.

It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface, there is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore. Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.

Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild. Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.

 

 

Mindset; What does “In Your Face” Mean from a Woman?


Women leading

This article is dated May this year. There are a few articles every year to remind us that this Victorian issue is alive and well. Some women just don’t get it and they keep planting seeds of injustice in our minds and then we carry it with us wherever we go in society. I guess we need to set a strong boundary.

Here is the article.

Double Standards That Hold Women Back

Under the top picture, it says,

Women can rarely just be themselves in positions of power.”

This is the first paragraph.

“I suggested she—a rising female attorney at a law firm—be more assertive to make her ideas and opinions heard in meetings. She told me she’s compelled to filter every word lest she is perceived as overly ambitious—or worse, aggressive. She noted that her male counterparts, by comparison, seemed to feel free to say whatever, whenever, without incurring any negative judgment.

She wasn’t wrong—she really did need to choose her words more carefully than the men.”

That’s because Mom said so. Mom knows best. Yeah, no. It’s holding me back with that voice ringing in my head, “Don’t be in your face.”

This next part is just unbelievable and utter crap.

“Women typically rank higher than men on “agreeableness”—they have a reputation for being more nurturing, empathetic, kind, supporting, and accommodating. If you’re a female executive who others consider agreeable, chances are you will be seen as more likable.

But leadership positions require people to command authority. Aggressiveness will do this for you. But for women, the more aggressive they are seen to be, the less likable they are found—by men and women. It’s a double bind.”

There is still a huge chasm between social permission for a man to be assertive and even aggressive and a woman to be the same. This article from Forbes proves that in the year 2019 it’s still alive and kicking despite all of our hope and denouncements. There is also a generational divide here. My mother born in 1940 still projects her values regarding what she was taught about how to behave as a woman onto me because that’s what she is still doing. She’s trying to justify it through me. So do women from my own generation. She still feels free to direct me on what to do as well.

The double standard between women and men being assertive needs to end. The truth is, more women are far more assertive than men and just as competent! I could write about this forever but do read the article and try not to be in denial in your own workplace.

 

 

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There’s a myth I Rumi Water keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I’m attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I’ve listed above, I’ll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and want to put a leash around his neck or start a relationship. No, I don’t and it’s a bit insulting to assume women want or need to be hitched to a man or control him. We don’t. Women who want children are more that way for good reason but not me!

He assumes I will want to control him like a dog trainer. So wrong. So very, very wrong. I have my own life. I only control myself. I’m a cat you see. But if you suggest on a first date, “We can get a room,” Uhhh. No. Sex is not going to be the first date. If that’s what you want then you’ll get a woman that just lets her body and energy be eaten for a price or for free. Good luck with that. It’s chaos and she’s likely emotionally messed up as in “a sex addict.”

I’m starting to think it’s the other way around. If he has told me and continues to express that he likes me also, is attracted to me and also wants to have sex, he might fall in love with me, otherwise, we would meet-up. Why aren’t we meeting each other? He couldn’t hook me for sex with lying and saying he loved me as a friend. He obviously doesn’t. No integrity. He’s a user. I pose too much of a challenge.

At least I assumed it from the beginning. I let him run his game to see what he would do to get another notch on his bedpost. All lies.

Friendship and attraction are the basis of everything lasting. Possession and contracts kill it after you’ve had children. You don’t need it in middle age. Most couples break up after their kids are grown anyway. You get bored with each other as lovers and can just be friends. Sexual usage is jungle level not human level and shows a very low intelligence and low spirituality. No thanks.

The myth is that just because a woman has all of those things going on that I listed above that she’s in love with a guy. Nope. Nada. Huh-uh. Not the case.  Most women I know are very good at controlling their feelings and actually choosing them. We’re kind of expert at it for some reason, especially in middle age when there is no longer the motive of reproduction and the extreme lust that comes with reproductive hormones. Maybe we have a highly developed relationship between our amygdala and frontal cortex after fifty because we’ve learned a thing or two? We want real love and friendship, not just lust games, and personality compatibility, not just sex compatibility. Time to grow up.

I’m done. The karma machine is going to run ragged on this one. Good. I hate it when a man can’t emotionally deal with friendship and sex. It’s totally immature.