Prose; Adoration Be Damned


I'm stalking a case for spring in the autumn of my middle age. My assembled energy is diametrically opposite that of needing the validation of an amassed group of imposters pretending to agree so they can drink together later. It's not that I don't like the group, or that I don't occasionally have a very …

Essay; a middle-aged, healthy woman gives up nothing during sex; she gains.


This article is so interesting as far as the male psyche goes. I had to read several sections a few times to understand it and I still need to mull it over. Men Lose Respect for Women With Whom They Have Sex "Some men and many women have been socialized into thinking that the woman …

Essay; Compromise With a Partner You Value


  There is much talk lately about never sacrificing yourself in an intimate relationship with a lover or a partner. I agree that it never works to lie or to give up so much of your time and what you want and need to do with your body and energy that you become very unhappy. …

Essay; With No Contact, The Attraction Wears Off


I believe studies have shown this about women. The initial hormone high of attraction falls away if there is no contact, no talking (hearing his voice), you don't see him and you receive no communication. That has been the case here. Because I'm intuitive, that has all kicked in very strong and I recommend following …

Essay; The Psychological Need to Infantalize Women in Relationships


The Infantilization of Adult, Professional Women This article is fairly recent; 2017. My intuition tells me we may be reaching the apex of patriarchal definitions of women's power as I'm noticing the younger women and men are not exactly absorbing the definition of roles the way we did in the hippie generation. That is to …

Essay; Men and Sex. Not the Same as Women! Polyamory vs. Celibacy


The male animal has been domesticated and it's not all pretty. I think of that right-wing show I can't stand, "Last Man Standing" with Tim Allen as the star. I am at a unique vantage point right now on this issue as a single, 56-year-old, financially independent woman. The societal Disney pictures are that I'm …

Heartset; Subject-Object in Life


  I'm on this planet to act, not be acted upon and that's not selfish. It's what we all need to do; act on behalf of ourselves in our own lives so we can unconditionally give to one another. Remember diagraming those sentences in school? Subject, verb, object. "What is the subject of the sentence …

Heartset; There’s No One Left. I’m Alone.


It has finally happened after twenty years. I live alone in my house, no men, no noise, no demands for food or rides, this or that, "Mom can you help me!" "C' mon, let's go to the store". My son's dad died two years ago...the last time I saw him was Christmas Day. Five days …

Essay; Feel Free to Bother Me


I went out tonight to hear jazz. My friend was playing. I was perfectly happy sitting alone with my sushi and drink. Then I feel these tentacles pulling on me and then staring, wanting my attention, wanting to talk, wanting to come over. He was needy and lonely.  I wasn't. Why was he?  How many …

Essay; Middle Age Dating


I'm fifty-six.  My twenty-year-old son says, "Mom, you're such a hippie". Well, sort of. The birth years for hippies are 1945-1965 so I was born at the tail end; in 1963. But if you sat in the middle west in a Christian church, surrounded by white people and Republicans, you didn't get the hippie memos …

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