Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


  I've been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we're fine, happy with ourselves, like …

Prose; Getting Lost


I loved that, as soon as I walked in the time-honored door, profusely late, you were concerned that I'd gotten lost, in trouble, or something else. Melt.  Kiss. Mmmmm.  That's the good stuff.  I'm going there and staying in that sterling feeling.  It's a crack memory in my brain.  No one can take it away.  …

Prose; Skin


The shell of a turtle, a carapace, guards your continuance of electric water, straight to your brain, pulls your vibration down in by degrees. Your skin like a husk full of ridges on corn smells sweet, hard to pull off at the bottom, tassles so soft on my face, the smell of earth. Your arm was …

Heartset; If You Don’t Give Him Sex When He Suggests It, You May as Well Not Exist.


Use your intuition on this one. Keep in mind the men are double-minded on this issue and may not even be aware that they are. Meaning, you'll hear gender equity pronouncements and exhortations to be direct, honest, and yourself in public and on social media and another thing in private one-on-one. In private, if they …

Mindset; What does “In Your Face” Mean from a Woman?


This article is dated May this year. There are a few articles every year to remind us that this Victorian issue is alive and well. Some women just don't get it and they keep planting seeds of injustice in our minds and then we carry it with us wherever we go in society. I guess …

Heartset; We Can Get a Room…


Most women suck it up even though they don't want to right away. What if you haven't met him yet? What if you've just talked long distance for a long time? I have to get a vibe in person with a guy. I freakin' don't get why guys don't care about that! They should. I …

Heartset; Can She Be a Human Being?


She is either the big, bad, controlling monster because she's a strong, intelligent woman or little Cinderella princess needing the glass slipper put on her foot? Too many men are passive-aggressive about women I suppose because they don't understand us. We're neither of those two ends on a linear spectrum. I wonder if men are …

Heartset; A #Female #Intimacy Myth Revealed


There's a myth I keep running into whenever I really like a man, we know each other and are friends, I'm attracted to him and want to have sex with him. His assumption is, given all of the desires I've listed above, I'll fall in love with him or I am in love with him and …

Everyday Intuition; Competition at Home


I remember feeling viscerally competitive on different levels with my previous mates with whom I lived. A lot of that is caused by sex. It gets you all riled up and thus the testosterone levels go up, especially for women which is not the best hormone to have in big supply. We need to relax. …

Heartset; Intimacy balances out by…


For women, having sex. For men, talking. That sounds ironic, doesn't it? If you already know each other, you've already been together, you've already communicated quite a bit, the way to bring intimacy equilibrium back to the relationship is instinctually in this manner. It sounds odd because the assumption is men always want to have …

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