The Greek word Psyche means Intuition


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In Greek mythology, the word and name Psyche means intuition. It doesn’t mean mind, analysis, rationality, psychology, or psychiatry. The fact is both males and females have intuition but we need to talk about our higher minds as intuition. There is no other purpose for knowing and understanding emotions which manifest in the body unless we’re going to move them up to intuition. Intuition stimulates the higher mind to work in tandem with rationality which is slower. It’s the right and left brains which needs to be equal.

In Greek mythology, Apollo and Dionysus are both sons of Zeus. Apollo is the god of the sun, of rational thinking and order, and appeals to logic, prudence, and purity. Dionysus is the god of wine and dance, of irrationality and chaos, and appeals to emotions and instincts. Both of these characters have become a little problematic for our Psyche or Intuition.

It’s problematic in that we have the degradation of Psyche or Intuition. Even though at the end of her saga which was my last post, Zeus made her immortal. His son Apollo has tried to eclipse her since. In the national divinity of the Greeks, Apollo has been variously recognized as a god of music, truth, and prophecy, healing, the sun and light, plague, poetry, and more. Apollo is the son of Zeus and Leto and has a twin sister, the chaste huntress Artemis.

That sort of explains Apollo’s hyper-masculinity. His twin sister Artemis was the goddess of the hunt and was probably a better shot than him and likely a chaste lesbian. This is just playful conjecture on my part which I feel free to do with myth. Nevertheless, everything in Greek thinking has permeated Western society.

How did Intuition come to be degraded in submission to western, male, rational assessment? Psychology Today explains,

“Intuition is a mental matching game. The brain takes in a situation, does a very quick search of its files, and then finds its best analog among the stored sprawl of memories and knowledge.

From there, you’re able to listen to intuition and develop a “hunch” about a certain situation.

No. Intuition is not a hunch. It’s the psyche knowing what the truth is. It’s the higher mind, many times connected to Spirit or Source, guiding your path. It’s not just a hunch if you interview professional readers and intuitives. We literally can see the energy, events, and people around someone like a movie and tell the client what they are creating or drawing to them or who or what is still hanging around in their space. Then they can change it if they wish now that they’re aware of it. My clients and millions of others always confirm what we see so we know we’re right. Everyone can do this for themselves if they’d open their minds and allow the connection. But there are so many societal biases and fears that most people don’t. It’s a mistake.

It is very insulting to call it “fortune telling”. You create your life in every aspect and we’re just seeing what you’re creating. There is something to destiny but the details of your destiny are chosen by you. This is very important and very empowering as opposed to a therapist telling you that you can’t change your past. We believe that in a way, you can. You can re-vision it to your liking. They may say, “But that’s denial”. Yes. Deny negative circumstances that you ARE aware of and did happen, that you are not denying happened, to remain in your psyche. Stop talking about it, feeling it, and defining yourself by it! Decide for yourself that you no longer need it in this dimension or the people who perpetrated it. You can cut them off if it was very, very bad and I encourage people to do that as long as you’re really done with it. Create something new for yourself that is balanced with who you are and what you want that includes your intuition and rational planning.

There is no need to go off the deep end with emotions or get dramatic about anything. The way to do that is to take care of the body and nutrition, make sure you are grounded in the body and have some structure to your self-care habits especially if you were not raised to take care of your body yourself. That’s very common so again, no need to complain about it. When it comes to physical care, overstep the emotions and just do it no matter what mood you’re in. That re-wires the brain. That’s where you start and any good fitness coach, medical massage therapist, P.T., or Reiki therapist can help you with the bodywork and the rampage of loving your body. I do that all the time with myself and my patients.

Remember that paying for and seeking help with your new life is money well invested and not a sign of weakness but strength. That said, you still have to do most of the work yourself.

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Platonic Love? Which One?


 

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Where does the term platonic love come from?

 

“It is named after Greek philosopher Plato, though the philosopher never used the term himself. Platonic love as devised by Plato concerns rising through levels of closeness to wisdom and true beauty from carnal attraction to individual bodies to attraction to souls, and eventually, union with the truth.”

He was also a pedophile so there you have seeds of the modern Greco-Roman Church. I also see in that progression the problem males have with the objectification and emotional attachment to the physical and getting a bit dramatic about that. As I’ve said before, women are very matter of fact about everything physical and attracted to a man’s vibe, affection, and generally whatever gets her motor running about him. We’re not particularly focused on his appearance or body parts as it is for men. Meaning, I’ve heard a man will “fall in love with” a woman’s breasts and marry her just for that; or her face; or her legs. I can’t even fathom being that superficial and most women would agree. This is the foundation of Platonic love designations; the way men love.

What did Plato’s mother do to him as a child? The subject is still not talked about in 2019. What’s interesting to me is that when the word “platonic” is used now, Eros platonic love (see below) is left out, usually by a man who has a whore-madonna or hookup-possession, black and white, passive-aggressive view of the role of women. There is a distinct pride many men take in denying women affection and love but not defecation sex. They know that women need and want affection as much as the sex act itself, maybe more. So there is a power play there. Women have check-mated that by going to the arms of other women or just satisfactorily taking care of themselves and being celibate. Thriving is important in the face of love withholding. I can’t say I blame women if they are in the least bit attracted to other women sexually. At least there are all kinds of love there.

I just ran into the word platonic today in an e-mail and now I need to take a shower because it was used in the context of denying Eros simply because I asked for love and affection with sex from this man who has been my friend for two years. We’ve gone from polyamorous hookup suggestion (Ludus platonic), lusty talk and plans with a mutual attraction to my REALISTIC lover and friend suggestion, to THIS.

I’m not doing PlatonicPhilia which is the way he means it. I don’t jump through men’s definition of relationships hoops because my needs are never met. What a disaster.

I looked up the different types of Platonic love and they are;

  • Eros is sexual or passionate love or a modern perspective of romantic love.
  • Philia is the type of love that is directed towards friendship or goodwill, often is met with mutual benefits *that also can be formed by companionship, dependability, and trust.
  • Storge is the type of love that is found between parents and children, and this is often a unilateral love, meaning a one-way street. Parents love the child but the child does not return it and leaves to form his own love relationships outside of the immediate family. It’s actually natural but many cultures won’t allow the child to become independent.
  • Agape is the universal love, that can consist of the love for strangers, nature, or god.
  • Ludus is a playful and uncommitted love, this is focused for fun and sometimes as a conquest with no strings attached.
  • Pragma is the type of love that is founded on duty and reason, and one’s longer-term interests.
  • Philautia is self-love and this can be healthy or unhealthy; unhealthy if one places oneself above the gods (to the point of hubris), and healthy if it is used to build self-esteem and confidence.

In my personal life, I am ErosPhilia with a lover or two, if the man is mature enough to tolerate it. I’m finding that they usually aren’t. Men emotionally need possession and territory of a woman (the way his mother adored him). The problem there is I’m not his mother.

I tend naturally toward Agape love in my public and work life, having Venus in Pisces. I love at all times which can be confusing for Americans. Since barely anyone really loves in our society on any level, because of lack of authenticity and loving touch, when they encounter someone who loves them at all, they mistake it for Eros or personal love. It’s not, nor can it be in a professional setting. If you’re not friends or have Philia love and know each other well, there can be no Eros. In the State of Michigan, it’s illegal to be in Eros with your clients as a bodyworker so it doesn’t happen.

They say, “There is no wrath like a woman scorned,” but I think there is no wrath like a son of a mentally ill mother who neglected him and possibly abused him sexually. I believe those wounds go deep in men and are largely untapped in terms of public dialogue. A mother’s love is supposed to be the most sacred love on the planet, yet, most men I’ve talked to don’t speak very respectfully of their mothers. I think it’s a complicated relationship for a man, to be sure; the most complicated of his life, bar none. The women he has relationships with bear the brunt of it.

I haven’t thought about or had a platonic relationship since I was in my twenties! Good, God! This idealized, Philia love with no sex is so…dumb and unrealistic. It’s also highly unnatural. Anyway, it’s a good thing I can unpause Zoosk at any point.

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This could be considered a slight move toward lover awareness on his part but the overriding energy of a lover is awesome sex and affection or Eros. It’s not idealized at all! It’s full of Eros, is extremely carnal,  meaning body which is all good. Yes! Come on! The body!

The garden still lies fallow. I hate to say it, but this Platonic Philia crap sounds like religion to me. Next thing I know I’ll be hearing about Church and that he’s saved.

Longing


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Languishing, ardent desire isn’t a painful kind of suffering,

It’s fulfillment; the kind that worries lacking it.

Your voice…a deep bell struck under water causing small

ripples in my undertow.

It’s engorged life, fertile effulgent, flaming magma-like flow

Not too much! You’re perfect.

My sighing kisses embarrass for a moment while I check my breathing

It’s a strong, mutual heartbeat echoing through my body

And I believe I am undone…again.

 

Skin


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Shell of a turtle, a carapace, guards your continuance of electric water, straight to your brain, pulls your vibration down in by degrees.

Your skin like a husk full of ridges on corn smells sweet,

hard to pull off at the bottom, tassel so soft on my face, the smell of earth.

Your arm was warm and pleasant as the first tomato of summer in my hungry hand.

Let me bite into that luscious fruit, so sweet and tangy

 or a mango stream of juice down my chin.

I’m distracted, clement smells from your back

Why are so sweet yet so smart and severe?

No end to touch makes my breathing peaceful.

I feel happy…oh god I’m doomed.

Indeed, it only lasted one day and you ripped your skin from me again.

At least you can’t take the memory from me.

Words can never erase actions like skin can never cover feelings.

 

Pleased


I wish I was pleased like a normal woman you see

but fucking isn’t that simple for me.

I’m sensitive to vibes, love, or lack of it

Monkey in trees, bull moose I’m not comin’.

I’ve plenty of space, time, and energy galore

but I just can’t see myself being your score.

Where a man just comes over to get me one off

I’m not pleased by just that, and it makes me scoff.

I’ve had plenty of THAT, it’s as easy as pie

I guess what I want is that pie in the sky

Love, warm kisses, caresses, and looks

Time to lay down next to him in his crook.

Put down your damn phone! and feel flesh after all

There’s more to my girl than just tits and my doll.

My whole body’s RIGHT HERE for you to enjoy,

Can one of you guys calm enough to employ

your heart and your senses to know who I am

care enough to spend time and just be a friend?

 

Probably not.

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Women Feel the Need to be Like a Colorful Male Bird? Yes.


 

 

 

 

I don’t. But many women don’t like to be ignored. Kind, smiling, pretty, plain women are preferred by a husband for marriage (hurrah!) But when it comes to fun, sex, and money, because of the sexual objectification of women, men prefer novice, meanness, titillation, color, and bitchiness. Women are just actors in men’s psychodrama and it’s important for women to see that if they want to choose to lead authentic lives and play no role for anyone. Some men see women as human beings but most don’t. They can’t because we’re more human than them and rival them in a myriad of ways. That’s not something that they can psychologically handle.

In many cultures, men are free to have a wife and a mistress so they can have the status they need and basically have their cake and eat it too. Then the women can choose whichever role they prefer to play for the man as long as patriarchy continues. Women put on all the colorful makeup and clothes, along with gay men.

In nature, the males are bigger and more attractive, dance around and are colorful. The females are just…great the way they are and the colorful men pursue them and show off. I certainly see that with Bruno Mars and the Hooligans. They’re adorable to me! I don’t know what the guys think. I know quite a few women who think they are some fancy birds dancing around and showing their stuff. Most females do love it. That is nature.

But I wonder why our society is topsy turvy, where the women feel the pressure to be colorful; LIKE MEN? I shunned public performance because I’m very feminine and come across shy. I’m not shy with a man one on one…at all. But my nature is female! Why would I want to draw a ton of attention to myself? I do get courted by men but not men that I like. That’s troublesome. It’s because I don’t strut myself like a male bird.

I notice the women on the news are expected to be very aggressive in their tone of voice and buff. Patriarchy essentially means men want men because they feel they are superior to women. Women are viewed as defective by men that cling to patriarchal misogyny…and football. Many men don’t, I know. So women are only desirable if they’re more like a man. That means the man is essentially homosexual. I’ve never heard anyone suggest that but I see it. He prefers males or women that are aggressive or bitchy. Gag me. That’s the alpha way and obviously, I’m beta. No alpha man has ever pursued me and won’t. Good!

Just throwin’ this out there. Women who succeed in public are either very assertive, aggressive or a lesbian. IN NATURE, that is a preponderance of testosterone which is alpha male. Beta women that don’t want to act like a guy are ignored, except by the beta males who are trolls, nerd, artists, and freaks (women are all of that too). It now suggests the issue of alpha vs. beta. I believe our society is moving toward the rise of the Betas.

Compromise With a Partner You Value


 

man and woman talkingThere is much talk lately about never sacrificing yourself in an intimate relationship with a lover or a partner. I agree that it never works to lie or to give up so much of your time and what you want and need to do with your body and energy that you become very unhappy.

I’m single, dating, totally getting healthy and feeling my goddess core after having been to hell and back with men and babies dying; four all together. I have a wonderful son who is twenty. He’s a fabulous man and trying to figure it out as we all did at twenty. As I look for a new partner at the age of fifty-six the landscape and reason for mating is completely different and has completely changed. The younger men don’t even hesitate now to let me know of their interest and I actually really like younger men…as lovers and friends. They are far more open-minded and less biased. But as a mate? I’m truly leaning toward someone my age so that we can support and understand one another.

It seems to me that mating is now more about friendship, cooperation, and helping one another for the second half of our lives. The libido is there and there has to be an attraction but in no way is sex the same because I can’t get pregnant. It’s a big deal and huge incentive to stay mobile, hip, and sexy. As you age you really do need more help, more muscle, and a helpmate for different reasons instead of raising children.

However, there is a big difference now between giving something up of my single life habits in middle age and the sacrifice for my family in my youth. You realize this might be your last hurrah with mating love; real love; not love based on societal marriage and children which is based on family norms and proscribed roles. Love in middle age is completely free. No one has to approve of you because you’re going to have children together.  You’re not going to merge immediate families necessarily. You can if you want, I suppose just out of habit, but there is no obligation to. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks; at all. There are no expectations on any front because you don’t share DNA with children.

When you value someone’s presence in your life, you let go of a habit or activity and compromise because you want to not because you have to. So there is no more sacrifice. It can be unconditional love. The fact of the matter is, when you have a spouse and children, you HAVE to do certain things. There is no choice whether you like it or not. Honestly, becoming a parent does require sacrifice which is very worth it, is extremely hard but it ends and many people are left alone in their house. Some people hate it. I love it! I really enjoyed having a family but I love my own life too and have been pondering whether I’d want to give up pieces of it for a new mate.

I’d be willing to adjust if I really loved and valued my partner and knew that we were reciprocating. There is no way I’d fall into my old role of jumping when he needed me, jumping when my son needed me, cooking when they’re hungry. Nope. Once in a while, I might but not if I don’t feel like it. There would also be much more space in our togetherness because you really do treasure your alone time after you’ve had a family. The quiet is really priceless.

Teaching and Preaching


 

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What’s the difference?

Authoritative and intelligent men are said to be teaching.

Authoritative and intelligent women are said to be preaching.

Why?

Because one is socially acceptable and the other one is considered obnoxious in a society where women are predominantly sexually objectified by their own actions and speech and then by men.

When I googled “a woman teaching”, in almost every single picture, the woman was smiling, had her hand on her hip, not serious and having fun with children. The images were the opposite of the one above that shows a man being authoritative.

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This was one of two serious face images I found out of 50. Women are socially, unconsciously conditioned to display physical openness and to let everyone IN, to our detriment.

 

 

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This is the only picture of a woman preaching with a serious look on her face. Again, all the women were smiling. Please notice that both of these women who are serious are black. That’s the black culture and we have black women to thank for many of the advances in women’s rights and freedoms.

Both of these women are TEACHING as serious teachers. Don’t ever insult a woman by saying she’s “preaching” unless it really is her job to preach.


Insects to a Flower


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Is this picture a turn on or what? I seriously think it is being a nature nerd. Or maybe I just have spring fever. I think it’s awesome. Nature teaches us everything; even passion. Granted there are many changes in our culture regarding men advancing to women and women to men, but those proclivities don’t change the way nature works one iota, and the fact is, human beings are part of nature. We share the same DNA with all of the plants and animals on the planet.

I speak of the birds and the bees, the flowers, and the trees. I’m not suggesting they have to be pretty and colorful. Many things in nature are dull, ugly by most assessments, stink, and are shaped very oddly. The same goes for humans. Like attracts like. That’s cool! Pretty can be boring! These days, men and women marry “pretty” for status but lust after ugly. I’m pretty sure that’s what Zoosk is about.

One thing seems to stick though. After the to and fro, bee buzzing around the flower, the bee decides to go to one flower, to go in and focus instead of staying outside and buzzing around. The flower doesn’t chase the bee. The flower just IS who she is and draws or attracts the insects to her. The flowers are the females and the men the insects. However, the paradigm can shift where the male will pose as the flower (a queen) to attract weak, female insects to buzz around him. Nature does the homosexual thing too sometimes but infrequently.

If you’re straight, want to mate and reproduce naturally, women, don’t chase; attract by being fully, naturally who you are. Your vibe of loving yourself or whatever your vibe is will attract that kind of man to you. If you’re confused about why you attract certain types, look in the mirror at your character, how you feel and act, what you like or don’t like about yourself. Then that all comes to the surface in your looks and body. You can’t cover your vibe with a fake smile, makeup, hair, and clothes. Be yourself.

I’ve been attracting strong, cut, fit, confident men who are a bit braggy but just above average intelligence because I’m cultivating those traits in myself. Twenty years ago I was attracting autistic, over the top, brilliant rebellious, anti-social men because I was sitting in my traits that are the same. I’ve had enough of that and they both died of bad health from stress on this planet that is absolutely intolerant of brilliance. We live in a society where mediocre to low intelligence and talent makes everyone feel comfy. So people that are very smart can’t talk a lot or we’re attacked. We can write though. Not that anyone will read it, but who knows. I’m just being myself too.

Keep in mind that like trees, flowers have roots but they don’t really stand still. They are not passive. They keep changing shape, moving, the roots communicate to one another and they migrate as seeds, tubers, or corms. It’s just that when they’re above ground socializing with the insects of the air, it appears differently. Nevertheless, they never chase. The bees chase and then move on to the next flower.

Hopefully, we’re past insect and flower stage but it’s obvious that some of that flirting and hooking-up are still around. I hate it. In that way, humans have moved up the food chain like other animals who do mate for long periods of time or for life. Many animal groups do that, thankfully.

To be more clear on how you present on the dating scene a man could ask, “Am I like an…”

1. insect

2. bird

3. Mammal

4. Human

5. Alien mutant or

6. Lightworker lover

Women;

1. Flower

2. Tree

3. Bird

4. Mammal

5. Human

6. Alien mutant

7. Lightworker lover

Then date someone on your level.

So, The Men Are Just Being Friendly


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It doesn’t mean anything. When they have sex with you, they’re just being friendly! I just woke up to this and cannot stop laughing over my espresso. All the trouble they have to go through to just to be friendly with a woman! “Why do we make it so complicated?!” they cry. Lmao. And I haven’t eaten breakfast yet.

Oh my. Why do they have to bother with the fake romance and talking, and caring, and buying a drink and the lying about not seeing anyone else? Why do women have to be so human and want to bond and have a relationship? I actually don’t want a relationship with a man. Why would I pine for something that they’re not capable of? Earth is a fallow garden for us. Sex with no love. Oh yeah. Troll sex. No thanks.

I’m back to Rajesh and Penny from Big Bang Theory. Penny says, “Look, sex can ruin a friendship. I just want to go back to just being friends.” (big audience sigh which I hate bc it shows empathy for the fragile male ego but not the love and bonding needs of the female which are noble and elevate the sex bond). Rajesh says, “You can’t ruin a friendship with sex! That’s like ruining chocolate ice cream with sprinkles.” Sex with a woman is analogous to ice cream with sprinkles. There ya have it! And we’re at “Blues Clues” level or maybe Romper Room. Where’s my loot bag from the birthday party? Really guys? Yeah…really. They seem to be set at any emotional level from 2 years old to 18 years old but not very far past adolescence. The ones at the adolescence stage are angry and clever, maybe a bit crazy. If women are going to hobnob with straight men, we really need to accept this state of affairs because that’s their brain set up!
But Penny gets her way. In this scenario, he doesn’t rape her but all over the world, if a woman says “No” to a request, desire, or demand for sex she’s raped. The least that you’ll get is anger and then dissing. Am I good at sex? Hell yes. But you’re not going to find out if you aren’t truly warm and loving to me!!!! Couple that with being a smart ass about it and I’m toast.
If Rajesh was a criminal or they were in another country, Penny would not have been safe at all. This is what women have to look out for constantly with men. It’s documented in a couple books I have, one great one written by the reviled and scapegoated Hillary Clinton called “The Hillary Doctrine”. Fabulous book.

The Hillary Doctrine

I was just punished by my date! He reeled me in, didn’t get his way, and his way was unreasonable because he wanted me to travel in a snowstorm at midnight just for sex, and dropped me like a hot potato. I hope he suffers something now and I didn’t even have a second date with him. He’s f*d up to do that to a Goddess like me.

And with that, men hurl because, in order to keep us accessible at your level, you have to treat us like manipulative hoes and bitches, which in truth, none of us are. We are protecting ourselves from our proven predators. All women are Goddesses. The Gods can’t even create life. They need Mother Spirit who is the Mother of us all. But she is silenced on the planet and mortal men who would be gods and superheroes tamper with real powers of creation that reside only in the female and do not honor or protect her heart or her power because they are jealous of what they can never be; creators of life. But the men will deny their emasculating admiration for her as long as possible. For that, it’s likely the species will end once again.