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JULY ENERGIES UPDATE BY THE PLEIADIANS ~ July 2020 by Pars Kutay


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Photo: Stunning Tor Sunset – Glastonbury Tor, UK…
Gaia’s Heart Chakra – captured by Kev Pearson

Beloved Ones, we greet you.

A further SHIFT within the Energetic Core within your Earth is creating an expanded focus, almost like a magnification of the Higher frequencies that open up an expanded LIGHT Framework. This “frame” is currently playing the role of a network that surrounds your planet and has been evolving over this period of time. This Network of LIGHT continues to SHIFT and Transform itself to carry the reflected change of a landscape of Multidimensional components that NOW make up planet Earth.

The Earth’s profile has changed and continues to unfold through an intensification of a LIGHT Pulse emanating from the Magnetic Core and interacting within the Grids, Vortexes and Ley Lines throughout the planet. These pulses are affecting and deepening the interaction between All the Sacred Sites throughout Earth, and this process is building an added intensity within the Earth’s Webbing. These Higher Dimensional LIGHT Framework designs are creating an environment to hold the extreme drama, which is destined to continue to unfold over the coming months.

Earth’s Shifting Frequencies also are being reflected within our resident Universe. The LIGHT from the Central Space of your planet is radiating out at a Higher LIGHT Vibration, and that is contributing to an Expanded Frequency Patterning within our Universe. “The God SOURCE Seat of Power” that extends beyond this Universe is NOW interactive within the movement of a Fluid Platform on Earth and throughout this entire resident Universe.

The HIGHER Knowledge from “the God SOURCE Seat of Power” benefits our Universe by bringing a Higher State of Collective Consciousness to every life force group within the Universe, including Humankind. This is the action of our Collective Destinies, for we, and all of our Universal Groups, are ONE within the God SOURCE Consciousness State.

COLLECTIVE AWAKENING
This next step action of Earth’s reemergence within the Universe is significant for all of Humanity. Through the Holy component of the LIGHT, of LOVE, which is BEing reflected onto your planet, many Re-Openings and natural Re-Awakenings will occur. The Frequency of the LOVE is designed to reconstruct the Multidimensional components of your Heart to enable you to significantly accelerate into a Collective Awakening.

Earth’s future role within the Universe is destined to BE significant. As the Energetic Frequency of LIGHT further intensifies and transforms on your planet, a Higher resonance of vibrational LOVE is ignited to actively interact throughout the Universe. The God SOURCE Consciousness network will realign Earth within the Universe and beyond. Your Earth plane is being realigned to this Higher Order of God SOURCE Consciousness at this juncture. That will reveal, and activate, a series of Higher-Elevated Frequency Platforms that have previously Not been accessible to you as a race.

Within these Newly formed Energetic Platforms exist dynamic flows of Electrical LIGHT that is drawing out the density within your planet’s physical structure and within the Human physical form. There has been an UnEarthing of this density, which has been hidden and held within Humanity and locked up until this Juncture. The internal pulse within your Earth plane is creating a lifting of this old, dark, hidden intensity, creating upheaval and the intense third-dimensional drama.

The violence and turmoil arising within your communities is part of the overall process to bring about a NEW Balance and a NEW Order of TRUTH to Be set in motion within your communities. The uprising is the result of hidden pain, suffering and suppression. Through the Higher LIGHT Frequency anchoring onto the planet, this imbalance can be tolerated NO More. Suppression and oppression through the prejudice and a lack of justice can NO longer continue within this HIGHER Energetic Environment.

Truth is being revealed. This is essential at this time within your communities. A NEW Order of Unity will Evolve within your Society, and each one of you plays a role within this Changing Cycle. As you choose to move and align within your Heart, you anchor TRUTH, which establishes a beginning of this NEW Order Directive to Birth within your communities.

YOUR OWN HEART
Our message to you is to live within the integrity of your own Heart. Allow the frequency of LIGHT to Shine Forth from your Heart. As you hold a steady platform of reconnection within your Heart, you are creating reconnection. You are able to utilize the powerful, Pure LIGHT Energy within your planet through your Heart to support this transition and much-needed change within Humanity. Those of you on this Awakened Path have pre-agreed to Anchor this Unlimited Energy of LIGHT Flow that exists within you to imprint your unique frequency of God SOURCE LIGHT through the Heart to support the SHIFT of the whole of Humanity.

You get to consciously choose these Sacred Moments of reconnection within your Heart Space. This is your individual role right NOW. There is nothing more essential than to take this action and anchor a NEW Wave of Consciousness within your Heart. This frequency of change can flow naturally from your Heart and out across your planet, creating an unfolding base for all Humanity to transform.

Simultaneously, this also is the Time for you to do some deep introspective work within your Human component. This is about you creating building blocks of stabilization for your Human element to enable a Balance to BE Bridged between your Multidimensional Nature and your Humanity.

Work within your Humanness by focusing on the feelings that are arising within you. Every feeling that is surfacing within you is BE-ing triggered, directly linked to events that are transpiring within your outer world. Spend the time examining the depth of your feelings, owning those feelings, whatever they are. Feelings do Not define you, and your feelings don’t have to make any logical sense. You are BE-ing triggered by the varied diverse happenings that are taking place within your life, within your world. These deeply lodged feelings have been within you. They are unresolved feelings from past experiences that you were unable to express at the moment of the experience.

Whatever the feelings — whether they are fear, struggle, anger, rage, betrayal or simply feeling out of control — the content does Not matter. What really matters is that you can take this time to feel what is coming up inside of you and what is being mirrored by the events around you. Simply feel the depth of the feelings and use the Conscious Breath (in and out of the mouth) to work deeply within these expressions as they arise within you. You can liberate your SELF. Let Go of old patterns from the past that have kept you in that cycle of self-sabotage in your day-to-day life. This is the Time for SELF-Resurrection!

DESTINED TO UNITE
Together, as a community, you are destined to Unite within your Hearts. The only True meeting point is within your Hearts. The Heart is beyond the corrupt energy of your ego mind. The Sacred Heart Communion is the most profound reference point that holds Pure Truth and LOVE within Earth’s environment.

The Collective TRUTH of joined Hearts can never be tainted. It creates an anchor base of Pure LOVE for Humanity to Birth. This Frequency of LOVE is necessary to set in motion the Evolution of a HIGHER Paradigm within Earth, re-anchoring Sacred Elements on your planet and re-establishing the element of “Heaven on Earth.”

Keep Letting Go and Trusting the vastness of your own Heart. In Truth, you can.

This time of Huge transformation, and transmutation, is being supported by the entire Universal community to allow for the unfolding of a full potential of your planet Earth so you and your communities can emerge into an authentic unique aspect of the God SOURCE LIGHT Network. Each one of you contributes to this Network with your unique colors of God SOURCE. “Like a Butterfly emerging from a cocoon, you spread your wings and take flight.”

LETTING GO
Through the duration of this third-dimensional chaos, you are being called to open into a continual Letting-Go process. You are to hold your focus within your Heart and open into Letting Go, and then choose to Let Go on another level. “Letting Go” is the conscious choice of realigning to your Rebirth. This letting go is done in increments as you move into transformation one step at a time. As you Let Go, you are allowing a continual falling away of the illusion that you have been holding onto. With each Conscious Breath you take within your Heart, you simply choose change.

Allow your attachments to the agenda of your ego mind to fall away. This is Self-Liberation. Allow your Heart to guide you. Breathe into the letting go of limitation as you embrace a whole NEW World of possibilities for your SELF within the Heart. As you choose to let go of the old debris connected to the illusion of the ego mind, you set your SELF Free to have more expanded experiences within the Heart. Simply choose to witness the drama and do NOT engage within the drama.

Your next step is to consciously anchor your Awareness within your Multidimensional Heart and allow a series of conscious choice moments of unfolding to occur within your Heart. This is the action of you Birthing you through your Multidimensional Heart. There is nothing more powerful for you to set in motion right NOW than this action of Self-Fulfillment within your Heart.

KNOW that you are NOT Alone in this Journey. Call forth the help you require in your day-to-day living to fully navigate through this time. Be specific in what you are asking to receive for your SELF — your needs, your desires.

Claim your Abundance and KNOW that the activation of your own creation energy elements arises within your Heart. Let Go and Trust the unfolding within your life that is in front of you. Each day open up in Gratitude for all that you have in this Moment. Through you taking ownership of your own creation in your world, you can align to a more focused part of your energy that exists within your Heart. BE the active creator of your world through your Heart. Set in motion a Wave of Creation Energy from your Heart outwards into your life by generating and building the energy of your Heart’s desire.

Your True action of power lies within you as you actively work within your Heart.

THE PROCESS
This process is simple. It is designed for you to harness your Heart’s Multidimensional Purpose in your life and to activate your Heart’s Desire in your life.

1. Hold your Heart with both palms resting on your chest. Align with your Awareness and a Conscious Breath (breathing in and out of the mouth).

2. Once you have anchored in your Heart Energy, begin to build the thought of your Heart’s Desire within your Heart. You achieve this by bringing your Awareness to your Desire, with the color, the form or details of the Desire. Your Heart will respond, whether you see, sense or feel this building energy or essence of your Desire. There may be a feeling of excitement or joy that is arising within you!

3. Once you have built the Energy of the Desire within your Heart, bring the sound — ENTAH EEE — within your Heart. This will release the energy of your desire to BEcome Manifest within your life. Note: Bring as many sounds as you need until it feels complete.

As you create with your Heart, you begin to actively align within this Higher Network on your Earth plane. Your conscious choice to join this Higher Network of LIGHT is another step of your Mission. We hold you, and witness you, on your journey.

Blessings,

THE PLEIADIANS

Channeled through Christine Day 💜
https://www.christinedayonline.com

shared with LOVE 💜
Pars Kutay

~ 💜 ~

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Monday. Communal Seeds being Sown? Tone 12


This is the amino acid VALINE

Code 0-19; ;16:4:12:64

Tzolkin Archetypes: Theme; Yellow 12 Seed, Analog; Blue 12 Eagle; Guide Power; Yellow 12 Warrior; White 12 Wizard, Hidden Wisdom; Red 2 Earth

The attributes here are universalizing, cooperative awareness using vision and a creative mind to become more independent, artistic, compassionate and believing in ourselves. Guiding this is becoming more trustworthy, realistic, wise, graceful with higher standards. Challenging this is becoming aware of what it means to be receptive and timeless, and heart-knowing shaman, more concerned with spirituality. The subconscious mind sits in challenging facts about the family and parental institutions that eat their young. But there is synchronicity and ability to collect synergy, govern the earth force, shield as an earth keeper and still be liberal and confident.

Are communal crystal seeds going to be sown today? God, who knows! I need about a gallon of coffee and water today to get some work done and try to ignore the idiotic riots yesterday. Destruction is so stupid. My son put it in a nutshell yesterday. “Mom, people are idiots. They don’t need a reason to destroy stuff.” I found it QUITE interesting that the two small blonde woman in Grand Rapids who broke windows were scapegoated for punishment on Twitter. They were the ONLY woman I saw trying to destroy stuff. 99% of the destruction came from men as it does ALL OVER THE PLANET. Yeah, we haven’t discussed that yet in society. There ya have the gender offloading on women. The men want to crucify the women who express their anger.

I’m a compassionate empath but I’m feeling my approach changing here big time. Just this morning, fifteen minutes ago I cracked how the the 64 IChing Hx system with the 64 HF Tzolkin harmonic is organized exactly over the 260 kin Tzolkin harmonic. Spirit is giving this stuff to me fast and I need to keep working away to get my book, “DNA IS TIME” written.

I’m fully aware that I don’t have a Ph.D. in science, I’m a girl, and it’s taboo if I crack something that only BIG SCIENCE MEN are supposed to crack. For that reason, all this work I do may lay in a gutter or drawer, or computer hard drive and never get used for the benefit of humanity. I don’t care. I don’t need glory and money…at all. It can be used posthumously then. I’m here to do a job for the earth and all life on it. That’s it!

I know for a fact, our DNA is from species all over the entire universe, humans are ONE human family, there is no race except THE HUMAN RACE and our Minds are stronger than food, money, stuff, reproduction, everything in 3D. Our minds are multidimensional and we are in fact gods and goddesses and deathly afraid of that fact. We would have to get to work, make mistakes and deal with outcomes. We create superheroines and heros in movies to project what we know to be true inside of ourselves. That’s us!! Even the gods make mistakes. GOD doesn’t make mistakes but we are not God. We are the small “g’s”. There is tremendous responsibility in that.

5GForce is Yellow 2 Warrior. That is stabilizing yet polarizing intelligence and FEARLESSNESS in the 5th dimension which is MIND.

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Essay; A Woman’s Ego


 

Woman on a mountain

I originally blogged this on August 26, 2013; 6 years ago.

The book I wrote, “Healer” has a section on bonding; page 240.  Like most people, I believe that men and women have a tremendous amount in common biologically.  And I really do like most men.  However, socially, on Facebook, and in the town, I live in, the more I talk, as a literate person, as an intelligent woman with self-esteem that isn’t a doormat, as a woman who is a small business owner, the more I get called names like “egotistical” and “pathetic”.

So I decided to think about the difference between a woman’s ego and a man’s ego. There are books and articles about a man’s ego all over the place. The “fragile male ego” is well known.  But the woman’s ego?  Imagine, the “fragile female ego” being bandied about.  It’s more like, “New discovery!  Women have an ego! Make a flag for them!”

The definition of the ego is a sense of “yourself” or “self-centered”. Everyone starts out at a young age with a natural inborn sense of who they are as a person unless your parents or religion beat it out of you. That’s possible and maybe prevalent, but not healthy at all. People do tend to feel more secure if they agree with one another.  It’s curious.

A woman…with a sense of “herself”, pride, dignity, accomplished….well, she doesn’t sound very sexy.  Or does she?  Why do I assume she has to sound sexy? She doesn’t have to but women want sex probably more than men do. If you described a man that way it’s sexy.

There’s our first red flag. Women are given the message early on that their attractiveness as a potential mate, for the purposes of reproduction, should define their sense of self-worth. Thus the obsession with superficial looks as opposed to a big brain, articulateness, education, in essence, the character Amy Farafowler on “Big Bang Theory” (who I love). It’s just starting to catch on. And we are ever so grateful to Dr. Barbie and Corporate Manager Barbie to serve as a role model for young girls.

Yes, women have an ego.  Yes, women have a sense of themselves as an individual. Our needs with regard to education, intelligence, level of respect and pay in the workplace, respect in the home, respect from our sons, access to team sports, et.al are EQUAL to men.

I suppose I’ll spend the rest of my life writing and living an example of a woman with an ego who loves.  You can’t love from emptiness.  You can’t love if your body is falling apart because you’ve given your last ounce of life force to everyone else. Women can be an example of how to take care of ourselves first and then whoever else we prefer to care for.

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Heartset; “I love you”


hot-fudge-brownie-with

Mmmm, brownies are so good…for a while.

What some people mean by “I love you” is “I want to consume you like a delicious brownie.” But in truth, they are envious, jealous, and covet everything you’ve worked hard to become, and paid an earthly price for and want a piece of it. It’s delicious! It’s kind of like a brownie you want to eat. You don’t love the brownie, you want to consume and use the brownie for the sugar high, for free if possible. And then you hate the brownie when your sugar crashes.

Then the claim of inspiration comes when really it’s competition. “You inspire me so much! Thank you.” You know they feel uncomfortable or competitive around you if you never hear from them and they don’t want to be with you in person. And if you do hear from them with a smile on their face, they eventually start ripping away at your soul with their addiction to self-hate to try to bring you down. Or the conversation turns to offload and they want you to listen to everything about them and refuse to balance the conversation by asking you how you are and listening to you, realizing that you are a human being with needs. As long as it’s back and forth, it’s not offloading. Friends need each other to listen to each other sometimes. I only have two friends like that and they are both men. No women will be reciprocal friends with me and reach out to me. I always have to reach out to them and I’m not doing it anymore.

There is no short cut through others to loving and knowing who you are. I’m not eating that brownie. Once a month I might, but not usually. Loving yourself starts with making the choice to eat nutritious foods and making choices that are good for you because you value your body and your life. That includes being around people who reciprocate because they are capable of caring and loving because they love and care for themselves and have forgiven those that have hurt them because the people who did that don’t love themselves. Welcome to Earth.

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Heartset; Addiction as a Shield


 

 

My drug of choice was sugar (top right), particularly cheesecake. Anything can actually be a drug of choice which is your “go-to” when you don’t feel you can deal with the emotions of a bad situation or a toxic vampiric relationship sucking the life force from you or traumatic memories because you don’t know how to put up boundaries or kick the memories in the huevos. People are addicted to all kinds of things, even working out! For instance, no one needs to work out two hours a day, seven days a week and that is extremely unhealthy. The body won’t tolerate it. Sometimes a way out takes some thought and planning and if you’re in survival mode, who has time for thought and planning? Well, that’s what we tell ourselves. Sometimes we say, “I’ll plan it out tomorrow,” and tomorrow means never. Do it now.

Now that I’m on the wagon and eating very healthy, dealing with my feelings, setting boundaries and exercising, I can see how ironic the addiction shield is. In my case, my fat layers were my shield but they didn’t work. I still had men hitting on me. It’s SUCH a myth that men are only attracted to thin women. HUGE freaking lie. It didn’t work and I felt horrible. My husband and then men after him, after my divorce, still wanted my sexual energy and liked me fat layers and all. I must put out an energy I’m not fully aware of yet but I don’t intend to. I am who I am! I have to figure it out.

All of the other addictive substances and activities not done in moderation will hurt your health as well and we know them. So, who needs a shield against an enemy, which could be mate, family, bad job, boss, the IRS, you name it when you’re busy destroying yourself on the other side of the shield??

That is the irony. Most addicts feel like they’re empowering themselves by rebelling, defiantly smoking the cigarette or dab pen 6-10 times a day or anything else. You’re defying yourself! You’re hurting yourself behind the shield you’ve put up supposedly so others can’t get to you. Instead, YOU can’t get to you. It makes no sense and no one cares really if you want to destroy yourself of not. That’s the awful truth of our world. You do have to be your own best friend and it still continues to amaze me how much more I’m ignored the better I do on my own. That’s another irony. I think it’s the pity and rescuing thing. People who need to rescue themselves are addicted to rescuing others and pitying them. If you don’t fit that description, you are not useful to them.

If you really want to resist and be defiant against the machine (family, marriage, church, and state), LOVE YOURSELF, figure out how to make yourself happy, get so hot and so fit that everyone who said they loved you before find themselves deliciously jealous, hating you, trying to cut you down, and not talking to you anymore. You’re too good for them now. No, not really, but they are so down on themselves and you’re not that they have to project that out to stay in denial about their own power to change or willingness to exert themselves to achieve it.

There is nothing wrong with you wanting to improve yourself, in fact, the opposite. Live alone and organize your money so that you can support yourself and pay your bills. Think it through. Have fun with your kids and don’t talk to people that suck who everyone else thinks rock out. That is non-compliant. You don’t need the shield of defense anymore in the form of addiction because you’re right out in front, asserting yourself and picking your battles and hopefully, winning a few. Win the battles with YOURSELF, put that shield down and go after the kind of body and life you want, one day at a time.

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Essay; A Woman’s Ego


 

Woman on a mountain

I originally blogged this on August 26, 2013; 6 years ago.

The book I wrote, “Healer” has a section on gender.  Like most people, I believe that men and women have a tremendous amount in common biologically.  And I really do like most men.  However, socially, on Facebook, and in the town I live in, the more I talk, as a literate person, as an intelligent woman with self-esteem that isn’t a doormat, as a woman who is a small business owner, the more I get called names like “egotistical” and “pathetic”.

So I decided to think about the difference between a woman’s ego and a man’s ego. There are books and articles about a man’s ego all over the place. The “fragile male ego” is well known.  But the woman’s ego?  Imagine, the “fragile female ego” being bandied about.  It’s more like, “New discovery!  Women have an ego! Make a flag for them!”

The definition of the ego is a sense of “yourself” or “self-centered”. Everyone starts out at a young age with a natural inborn sense of who they are as a person unless your parents or religion beat it out of you. That’s possible and maybe prevalent, but not healthy at all. People do tend to feel more secure if they agree with one another.  It’s curious.

A woman…with a sense of “herself”, pride, dignity, accomplished….well, she doesn’t sound very sexy.  Or does she?  Why do I assume she has to sound sexy? She doesn’t have to but women want sex probably more than men do. If you described a man that way it’s sexy.

There’s our first red flag. Women are given the message early on that their attractiveness as a potential mate, for the purposes of reproduction, should define their sense of self-worth. Thus the obsession with superficial looks as opposed to a big brain, articulateness, education, in essence, the character Amy Farafowler on “Big Bang Theory” (who I love). It’s just starting to catch on. And we are ever so grateful to Dr. Barbie and Corporate Manager Barbie to serve as a role model for young girls.

Yes, women have an ego.  Yes, women have a sense of themselves as an individual. Our needs with regard to education, intelligence, level of respect and pay in the workplace, respect in the home, respect from our sons, access to team sports, et.al are EQUAL to men.

I suppose I’ll spend the rest of my life writing and living an example of a woman with an ego who loves.  You can’t love from emptiness.  You can’t love if your body is falling apart because you’ve given your last ounce of life force to everyone else. Women can be an example of how to take care of ourselves first and then whoever else we prefer to care for.

 

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Prose; “I Love You”


hot-fudge-brownie-with

Mmmm, brownies are so good…for a while.

What some people mean by “I love you” is that they are envious, jealous, and covet everything you’ve worked hard to become, and paid an earthly price for. It’s kind of like a brownie you want to eat. You don’t love the brownie, you want to consume and use the brownie for the sugar high, for free if possible. And then you hate the brownie when your sugar crashes.

Then the claim of inspiration comes when really it’s competition. “You inspire me so much! Thank you.” You know they feel uncomfortable or competitive around you if you never hear from them and they don’t want to hang out with you. And if you do hear from them with a smile on their face, they eventually start ripping away at your soul with their addiction self-hate to try to bring you down. Or the conversation turns to offload and they want you to listen to everything about them and refuse to balance the conversation by asking you how you are and listening to you, realizing that you are a human being with needs. As long as it’s back and forth, it’s not offloading. Friends need each other to listen to each other sometimes. I only have two friends like that and they are both men. No women will be reciprocal friends with me and reach out to me. I always have to reach out to them and I’m not doing it anymore.

There is no short cut through others to loving and knowing who you are. I’m not eating that brownie. Once a month I might, but not usually. Loving yourself starts with making the choice to eat nutritious foods and making choices that are good for you because you value your body and your life. That includes being around people who reciprocate because they are capable of caring.

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Prose; Self-Interest


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It’s fairly natural and normal for people to put their own self-interests first. After all, if you don’t advocate for yourself, people will put words in your mouth, act as an authority over you and attempt to control you. None of that is good. That said, I tend to be the opposite and put others interests before my own if they are next to me. That’s why I like to be alone most of the time so I can feel myself and not just them. Tat begs the question, ” Why can’t I feelmysel anthe atthe sae time?” I can if I know and trust them.

Being an empath, I’m like a sponge or a cell phone tower picking up the vibes of others and I’m very sensitive to them. I am getting better at shutting it off. But in our offloading, chaotic culture, it’s like a trash heap of vibes and others aren’t even aware they’re doing it so I have my personal defense up.

However, in personal relationships, putting your self-interests ahead of others is selfish and it may be hard for them to get to know you. That may be the way you want it. It’s the way most of us had to function growing up with parents that had expectations of us or were abusive and controlling. I find human beings to be more difficult to deal with than animals or nature to be sure. We’ve learned to survive by being fake or not saying anything at all. I’ve had the problem in partnerships and friendships of caring more about and tuning into the other person more than they do to me. It may be true that I don’t readily express my feelings to others until I feel I can really trust them, which usually doesn’t happen. I’ve learned not to trust most humans. I think millions of people would agree with me. So in my case, I’m more in protective, observation mode than I am interested in myself more than them. In fact, when I’m with someone, I tend to be more interested in them. I am definitely a giver type person and only want to receive from a select few.

What I’m describing here is a sharing element where both parties feel free and safe to express their mood, what’s going on, what they’re working on, how they feel and what they need, knowing that the other one will listen. I will express that if the other person asks but generally I won’t otherwise.

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Heartset; “I Love You”


hot-fudge-brownie-with

What some people mean by “I love you” is that they are envious, jealous, and covet everything you’ve worked hard to become, and paid an earthly price for. It’s kind of like a brownie you want to eat. You don’t love the brownie, you want to consume and use the brownie for the sugar high, for free if possible. And then you hate the brownie when your sugar crashes.

Then the claim of inspiration comes when really it’s competition. “You inspire me so much! Thank you.” You know they feel uncomfortable or competitive around you if you never hear from them and they don’t want to hang out with you. And if you do hear from them with a smile on their face, they eventually start ripping away at your soul with their addiction self-hate to try to bring you down. Or the conversation turns to offload and they want you to listen to everything about them and refuse to balance the conversation by asking you how you are and listening to you, realizing that you are a human being with needs. As long as it’s back and forth, it’s not offloading. Friends need each other to listen to each other sometimes. I only have two friends like that and they are both men. No women will be reciprocal friends with me and reach out to me. I always have to reach out to them and I’m not doing it anymore.

There is no short cut through others to loving and knowing who you are. I’m not eating that brownie. Once a month I might, but not usually. Loving yourself starts with making the choice to eat nutritious foods and making choices that are good for you because you value your body and your life. That includes being around people who reciprocate because they are capable of caring.