I just read this really great article called “Survival of the Prettiest”
The success of our civilization and the health of our children is, to a great degree, dependent on intelligent, thoughtful, healthy women who listen to their bodies and to their intuition when deciding to mate. This waste of time, women competing with each other regarding beauty, believing that the men know how to pick or do pick, is incorrect. A woman who sits passively back and waits for a man to approve of her is never going to get what she’s waiting for. Women are in charge! Men, from an evolutionary perspective, are waiting for a woman to pick them, so it really rests on women to set the tone and go forward with natural biology and intuition. When a man acts confident and assertive he’s displaying. He’s not trying to dominate you as a person although it is an attempt to be territorial. That’s not because he loves you as he doesn’t even know you. He lusts, all the time, and is trying to get picked.
If you watch any streaming nature show on TV, it proves that the males are the ones who dance, are colorful and work hard to be picked by a female for mating. It’s just a natural fact. Why is it reversed with patriarchy? Hatred of females is a harbinger of the death of a species if you ask me; self-hatred. It’s because women need to stop letting the males be in charge, stop over – sexualizing themselves, gain some confidence, get an education, control their mother love, and take care of themselves.
This article by David Dobbs of the New York Times starts out…
“Darwin published another troublesome treatise — “The Descent of Man, and Selection in Relationship to Sex.” This expanded on an idea he mentioned only briefly in “Origin.” Sometimes, he proposed, in organisms that reproduce by having sex, a different kind of selection occurs: Animals choose mates that are not the fittest candidates available, but the most attractive or alluring. Sometimes, in other words, aesthetics rule.”
Please read the next few paragraphs of the article. Then he says this,
“To Darwin’s dismay, many biologists rejected this theory. For one thing, Darwin’s elevation of sexual selection threatened the idea of natural selection as the one true and almighty force shaping a life — a creative force powerful and concentrated enough to displace that of God. And some felt Darwin’s sexual selection gave too much power to all those females exerting choices based on beauty. As the zoologist St. George Jackson Mivart complained in an influential early review of “Descent,” “the instability of vicious feminine caprice was too soft and slippery a force to drive something as important as evolution.”
Say what??!!! I about fell off the couch when I read that. Most women are not that superficial. Maybe Mr. Mivart wasn’t being picked by an intelligent woman and was frustrated! The ones that aren’t very bright and don’t think about relationship have unstable caprice and go for the car and money…or booty. That’s a small group of women. Most women I’ve known, know that a foundation of friendship, respect, and affinity are the basis for big, lasting, sexual attraction. That’s how most women roll, and we use our intuition to do it.
But in this case, it isn’t just our intuition, it’s the science of biology combined perfectly with the intuition that demonstrates my point. The holistic scientific method demonstrates how women pick a mate. Pheromones give off silent, non-noticeable smell signals to a woman, about a man’s DNA. It doesn’t occur so much with men because they aren’t the ones reproducing. Females make the healthy baby so we have to pick! That’s just nature fellas. This stuff is deep and not even in the control of males or females. We smell each other unconsciously to put the DNA messages we get about the other person through our subconscious computer brain.
In this case, our 300,000-year-old ancient instinct is behind the selection. Family resemblance comes into play here too. Females and males tend to be drawn to people that may resemble an immediate family member if they have safe subconscious tapes about those family members. If you’re at reproductive age, you will be concerned whether or not that person will fit into your family when you have children.
“Richard Prum, a mild-mannered ornithologist and museum curator from Yale, has published a book intended to win Darwin’s sex theory a more climactic victory with THE EVOLUTION OF BEAUTY (Doubleday, $30).”
“Prum considers birds artists. Manakins (Prum’s study group) carefully choreograph their dances. Bowerbirds mastered perspective in their bower building eons before human painters grokked it during the Renaissance.”
“Prum sees such aesthetic choices as driving a gradual “aesthetic remodeling” — an evolutionary reshaping of mating behavior, and even of male social behavior more widely, by the civilizing pressure of female preference. Prum stresses this is not about emasculating males or dominating them; it’s simply about selecting for males who allow females autonomy and choice.”
The sexually frustrated men who nobody loves, just start wars. We don’t want that.
Artist Paige Bradley, “Spring”