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Everyday Spirituality-Dogs or gods?

I posted this many moons ago and it was quite popular, pre-Covid though so, who knows.

Who could resist that adorable puppy coming running toward them for attention? There ya have it. That’s the curse women are under with cute men.

I’ve interviewed women, and they agree. When a man is really cute, he’s very hard to resist! It’s terrible. We just want to love them up and feed them, make up a dog house, let them stay over, oh geez, on and on, and it does us in. There goes the peace we need as females and space to take care of ourselves and get our work done. We really need to learn to resist this instinct!

True to form, I learn something every day about women and men, our basic natures, and realized there were many things I was not taught growing up. Can you relate to that moment someone close to you said something off the cuff and it stuck in your head? That was the case for me with my second husband, Dave (my son’s father). He was walking up the stairs one day after a normal conversation, and he looked at me and said, “We’re like dogs. Men are like dogs”

Some men are fancy dogs, or rich dogs, or bad dogs, or good dogs, or work dogs. Some are both! Some are crazy dogs or funny dogs, sexy dogs, or sweet dogs. You get the idea.

If you read my blog regularly, you can guess I looked at him with disbelief and derision. In no way was I going to accept that as an excuse for his behavior. Nor had I ever entertained a career in dog training or dog breeding by letting a man live with me in what would be his dog house. I’ve never even owned a dog and don’t want to because I’m consistently told that they are like having another child! Plus I’m an independent cat woman.

Children need to be patted on the head and encouraged, praised with kind words, fed, loved, and kept warm and more. I already did that with my son. I don’t need to do that with a man or a dog. It’s a turn-off to me to think about treating a man like a dog. But now I’ve been mulling it over.

I can say with assurance that I have always worked toward and considered myself a goddess as opposed to dog food. In no way have I ever fed my body to a lusty man to be consumed because he’s hungry. I think most women do, though! They accept it! It does feel good, and women most definitely have the instinct to feed men, but it will kill your self-esteem and is not emotionally good for women.

On the other hand, men love those superheroes, and I know for a fact they have a rich fantasy life about what great warrior heroes and magical powers they might possess. There’s nothing a man loves more than seeing a woman look at him sincerely as her hero.

It’s not that a woman wants or needs to be rescued. We really don’t. But sometimes, we definitely do need protection in a very rough world. Sure, Iron Man to the scene! I’m good with that and Robert Downey Jr. is a major hottie.

A man who is a god can be recognized as truly wanting and respecting an intelligent woman who takes care of her own business. He takes care of his own business, so he isn’t bothering her like a little kid with her in the role of his mother. No thanks. He also takes care of his health and teeth, so he pleases her physically, and of course, she does the same. Most of all, he likes himself and has matured to the point of being able to listen and care about how a woman feels.

So I can honestly say I’ve decided I am looking for a man who knows he really IS a god, just as I know I am a goddess. It’s an awareness of the divinity within us; one with us and the goal of the spiritual movement. You won’t find it in religion, and I’m guessing they find it heretical. Spiritual people are not saying we are God. We’re saying that our identity is an ascending child of God, which is a god or goddess.

We’re working on ourselves to get better every day. Every single human being has this in them; in our blood, which is our QI, or consciousness. I’m not the goddess I want to be or know I can be yet, but I’m almost there, and it has nothing to do with age. That will be the subject of another blog.

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True Time Update; DNA is formed and birthed through the female. EVERYTHING is our choice.

Today is Red 13 Cosmic Serpent. This is par for the course…

MEN AND WOMEN, TRANSCEND YOUR SEXUAL INSTINCTS and grow your heart and mind with all of that energy. Your life force starts in your mind and heart, not your groin. OMG. Look what we are guided by! RED 13 Moon. Don’t have sex with someone who you have no feelings for and who is not your friend.
Look at the antipode challenge; Our 12;60 deal with Jupiter. IMO, we had no choice but to put 13:20 evolving frequency on the back burner until we healed ourselves with the earth help of Blue Hand~Yellow Human tribes. 12:60 is a deep DUALISM, hence gender tension.

Men are supposed to protect life, not destroy it. And if they insist on trying to control us, they will destroy themselves. It’s NATURE.

How is Forcing Women to be Veiled or else punished…

https://www.reuters.com/world/middle-east/iran-installs-cameras-public-places-identify-penalise-unveiled-women-police-2023-04-08/

…any different than forcing them to form and then birth a child if they have no money, or can not give it up for adoption because of natural attachment? Some women don’t think it’s wise to be financially dependent on a man. I don’t, because of gender inequity no matter what work place or academic scenario we are in.

Federal Judge Orders FDA to Freeze Approval of Abortion Pill Mifepristone

https://link.theepochtimes.com/mkt_app/federal-judge-orders-fda-to-freeze-approval-of-abortion-pill-mifepristone_5180372.html?utm_source=andshare

Real intelligence comes through the female’s body. If Elon Musk or any other man’s ego cannot handle that because he’s out of touch with his soul, or too many repressed emotions (He is a Cancer Sun male), A.I will succeed on this planet of no DNA, no humans, no blood, no bodies, and no women. Is that really how desperately competitive men are TO BE US or to control the evolving DNA process?

Women, children, and most DNA life could all be gone from the planet, and men would still be stopped from using their penis shaped nuclear rockets by the E.T. to destroy each other. It’s unacceptable behavior in THE COSMIC WEB.

The male desire to blow stuff up, and the female desire to reproduce with no education or money and manipulate men with our looks has got to stop or we are finished. Boundaries! They work for me! I’ve been highly successful and healthy during three years of celibacy, more than any other time in my life! I don’t hold it as a value, AT ALL and I love men, but sometimes you have to hone and heal your energy and take care of yourself, by yourself. It takes work folks but on this planet, we really need to do it.

With this kind of action on the part of governments run by men, women won’t be able to live here much longer. We need an intelligent planet friendly to life.

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Intimacy; Hip to Be a Ho?

It’s all socially permissible and fine for women and men to be promiscuous now. Everything has changed in the last few years. I include men in the Ho category. In fact they seem to feel privileged to be so detached. I find that doubtful.

Women my age are as hot as ever and the younger men like us because we’re more skilled and can’t get pregnant. Add to that we know what food to eat so our body fluids are tasty. That’s not something most younger women think about because they assume their pheremones have their sexual superiority to us all tied up in a pretty bow.

My generation was not raised to feel perfectly fine about pure sex with no love and I still don’t. But it’s not a happy thing for a woman to go so long without sex that she starts to tighten up to the point of re-virginization. It makes intercourse painful.

The problem there is, as all women know, you could wait forever and slowly become a nun before you find a man with an open heart, emotional skills and capable of intimacy who actually loves you. A woman could easily get stuck hanging out with her gay boyfriend and gay husband like Stanny was to Carrie on “Sex in the City”. Remember how long Carrie had to wait for Big to really love her and then marry her?

So, mainly for health reasons, women and men become Ho’s and have sex outside of love, commitment, and a relationship most of the time. I’m not judging it. I just did it and I wasn’t turned on at all. I walked into the kitchen and said to myself, “I have to live with myself. This is the way I am,” meaning I don’t get turned on unless there is some love and affection, kissing, and matching vibe. I’ve never been superficial or very promiscuous.

Mind you, this man was 6’2″, his body was not just a 10 but more like a 12, perfect manhood, knew what he was doing, brought me coffee and muffin and had luscious lips. And he enjoyed my body and said so! I love my body too. So what! I don’t need his approval.

Nothing. I felt nothing. He was the most detached lover I’ve ever had and I felt sorry for him. He may have actually been a professional because he had the looks and the skill.

I’d rather be celibate. There is nothing I hate more than a man who is hot and utterly emotionally uninvolved with me. This is all feels unfair. If I don’t want my womanhood to close up I have to resort to non-bonded sex with someone I barely know? No. Do you know how many dumb dates I’ve had with trolls? Why can’t men open their hearts more and get with the program? “Ho ho ho” and it’s not even Christmas.

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Intimacy; You’re not necessarily in a relationship just because you have sex.

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What I’m seeing men do is, instead of doing a series of hook-ups, they decide to be monogamous with one woman. Then the assumption is that is a relationship. No, it’s not; not if you don’t have feelings for one another. It’s just an ongoing hookup which is not a relationship.

You’re in a relationship if you have an ongoing friendship, you care about one another, and you hang out and go out, you love talking to one another, you help each other out sometimes and you eat together. That might include sex, it might not. It might be intermittent sex or not. The man or woman’s sexual behavior does not define the parameters of what a relationship is.

It’s time for women to step up and speak up! We need to accept that sexual communication IS a relationship to men and they don’t understand anything much deeper or how to go about it. Women understand emotions and bonding moreso and absolutely need to mix that in with the sex. But we still should not let the man say, “We had sex so you’re my territory.” Maybe you’re just dating. Sex is just part of dating.

Women are territorial sexually as well but my point is, the emotional friendship bond is what really creates an ongoing relationship; not sex. That should be perfectly obvious given how many people have hook-ups and it means nothing. For that matter, sex doesn’t define marriage either.

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Re-Program Intimacy; How Do We Move From Lust to Love?

Do you know the difference between lust and love? I’ll go with the hard one first; Love. Love is when you want to take time to really know someone, to care about how they feel, what they need and what makes them tick. You want to be their friend. The problem here is friendship usually turns guys off because they want to get kinky and nasty with their fantasy brains too much. Sometimes women do too. That can get mean which I don’t feel is part of friendship.

Friendship is the basis of all lasting, lusty, good relationships. It takes time and maturity to grow. Lust is everything else. Anything that’s not love is lust. Lust is the emotion behind most human interactions and has the face of greed, trolling on Facebook, offloading on strangers and the like. If you have no foundation of care and face-to-face friendship with someone you are indulging in instant gratification lust and there is nothing loving about it.

This issue has been challenging for me. I’m a very passionate, physical woman and have no problem lusting after men who are very attractive to me. I don’t act on it; it’s just fun. My personality and values are all about love. There isn’t really any other material thing I lust after; unless I’m really hungry. then I lust after food.

That’s a good segue because food hunger is almost exactly like sex hunger in the brain. And notice how many people overeat when they just need some love, affection, and sex. We’re looking for a serotonin spike and some other juicy brain chemicals that make us happy. I know I am. Food doesn’t come close to making me happy the way intimacy and love does. I don’t even like bothering to stop and fix food because I’m busy with my projects, writing, chores, things I love to do! Why do I have to stop and eat? I’ve always been like that. I’m not terribly fond of slowing down.

Now we see a problem here; denial of human need when you know it’s not likely to be easily fulfilled! I’ve been married three times to great men and had several great boyfriends. I’m still not satisfied. They weren’t perfect or didn’t satisfy me the way I really want to be. They didn’t make my brain and body explode with orgasmic happiness, although my last mate Michael came close. He loved me…really, really loved me and I loved him. Love is the sexiest thing going. Then he died suddenly. That’s not helping the situation. Love is definitely tragic.

It makes me wonder about eating disorders. If you take that denial of the need for love, warmth, and affection far enough it would make your brain or specifically, the hypothalamus gland stops craving food. So the emotion of lust would be good at this point versus the emotions around deprivation.

I’m not into deprivation at all but I am sorely afraid of loving a man, pulling him to me, and pushing him away because I need to be alone with my ideas, my mind, my life, my work, and my writing. I don’t want to hurt him. There has to be some intimacy and some time shared with your loved one or they will go away. I hate that.

broken_heart1I think I’ve stayed in lust mode in my brain because I’ve lost too many people I’ve loved. It’s like a car idling. My life isn’t idling but my feelings about bonding in a relationship are definitely idling. Maybe I’m stuck in lust gear because it’s emotionally safer. There is no risk of having your heart ripped out and stomped on the floor by death and life itself if you don’t go into love gear and really start driving.

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