I haven’t made any impact whatsoever.
If you Don’t Have Others Energy and the Media, Who do you Have?
YourSELF. Your body. Breathing in and out, feeling hunger and warmth and cold, the passion of the blood coursing through your veins.
YOU OWN AND RUN YOUR FABULOUS BODY! You are a superpower and your own superhero. Work it.
Make 2 columns down a sheet of paper. “What do I like about Myself? What are my Good points.”
What don’t I like about myself? What do I need to let go of or FIX? OR Forgive??? Ooooo.
Man is GUILT and self-flagellation ever programmed into us. Figure it out. Ruminate on what happened or see a counselor. You may need to apologize to some people and make amends. Just don’t expect them to forgive you or want a friendship. Move on! Do better.
It’s that simple. Go outside. Sit on your porch. Go for a walk. Go buy some healthy food. Just don’t turn on the mind and heart programming screen. Listen to music or work out and stretch.
I used to hate thinking about food. I ate healthy food, fruits, and veggies, then I would pig out on sugar and got very fat. I’m so over it but I know why I did it.
Now I’m a size 14 and going down. I only hurt myself and now I take care of myself. We’ve usually been raised to abuse the substance we abuse so we have permission to abuse it. Everyone else is!
You don’t live for everyone else. Are you going to jump off a cliff if they do? Your life belongs to you and know that IT IS ABSOLUTELY TABOO IN OUR CULTURE TO HONOR, LOVE, AND.TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! It’s called selfish but it’s the opposite. You can’t give or share with anyone from an empty vessel where you never fill your cup. Most of the time, others aren’t going to do it for you.
American culture is sick and all about addiction, materialism, money, slavery, and frankly, Luciferianism. ” Do what you’re told. Do what everyone else is doing.” STOP.
Source is real and in all of our diversity, we are all children of Source and loved. Be yourself and take care of yourself whether or not anyone else is.
It’s just a start…
Re-Program; Looks Only Matter if There is No Love For the Person
This is usually the case and easy to assess quickly. Most people assess a relationship based on looks so it is absolutely doomed over time. This is a no-brainer. If your heart isn’t open or you have a pile of repressed feelings and trauma, you will not succeed in a love relationship. You need to deal with yourself first before you can bond to someone else lovingly.
Everyone has a type that they are sexually attracted to. That is fine and natural. If you’re in your twenties it’s essential that to reproduce you have as much sex as possible. Then you have to have the hots for each other. Lust comes first and it has to be there. But love takes wisdom and maturity which you only figure out in middle age. That’s when true love can happen.
Young mating people cover over their great lust for each other with the word love to get the job of procreation done IMO. Women or mother love dominates young women too much and they are willing to give up much of their self-love and power to the father of her children. This can be a bomb shell over time. Gender disparity will never be checked as long as very competent, tuned in young women marry men that are not equal to them in magic, or an open heart. There is nothing romantic about procreation and having babies so somebody has to lie about it or no one would do it. So we call lust, love, and pay the tab. The marriage lasts maybe until the last child is 15 and then you are usually done with each other. It’s a statistic and an understandable one if you nix the fantasy.
It is also true that most straight men need mental diversity and fantasy and women are just objects for that. They fall romantically into a fantasy they’ve created that they need to have in order to cut the boredom and project that onto some poor woman. Love is definitely blind for men when it comes to relationships which is why it’s so easy for women to manipulate them by objectifying ourselves, making ourselves look hot even if inside, it’s empty. All a woman has to do is take off her shirt and a guy loses his mind. Scary when that’s all he’s got in the first place. Women could take over the world if they didn’t wear bras and shirts! We do wear them so men can keep “trying” to focus.
Most men do not have an open heart. They have feelings but they don’t understand them and this is a function of nature, or has been. It is evolving. They are very emotional though, far more dramatic than women who are very practical so this is mine field for men. But emotions are not love. Sexual feelings of lust are not love. Men don’t get that. Women need to get that and help keep clarity and boundaries.
I get it and take it easy on their feelings. Women are tougher emotionally for sure. Ponder that. We’ve evolved to be because of our children. We adore them and will risk life and limb our entire lives! Women become monster protectors when it comes to our children, rightly so in a predatory world.
Women and their children, male and female are everything. All life IS THAT. End of story. A mother will always be loyal to her son far longer than any wife will be. A woman’s children will always be more loyal to her than any man will be. So what do we have here? Mothers and their children. The center of the Tzolkin, the center of all life. That’s why young women give up some of their power and expression to men for a time; in order to have children.
Men honor your mother and respect her always and forgive her and she will give you the love and respect you crave. Mothers raise your son to pick a good wife by being an example of a good woman who takes care of herself. Teach your son to be a man by supporting his strengths and not being too critical and that he should cleave to his wife so your children will always honor and cherish her. Note that in this scenario everyone wins.
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SHATTERING THE FALSE SENSE OF SELF
Recently I met with the Galactic Council of LIGHT and they wanted me to share information about ENERGY that is NOW Streaming to Earth.
“There is ENERGY coming into Earth that will cause a Shattering within the Psyche.
While this may seem devastating, as it will certainly feel that way, we want you to understand that it is a Necessary Step as you each regain Sovereignty.
It will cause many to have an identity crisis. They will BEgin to question all of existence: Who they are, their place in the world, and the very fabric of reality.
There will BE some that find the ENERGY severs what little connection they have with their True Self. For others it will assist in severing the ties they have to their False Self so that they are able to walk in more of their Authenticity.
This ENERGY will increase daily for the next 7 Moons where it will reach its maximum intensity and remain at that steady pace.
(This information was given the day before the Full Moon in January. I have been so busy with the Energy, clients, and a new puppy that I didn’t get this out right away. Seven Moons including the January Moon, is July 24th and the Moon will be in Aquarius.)
At this Moment, the kindest thing one can do is simply OBSERVE their Unraveling without clinging to who it is they thought they were.
Each BLAST of this Frequency will Open the Doorway within to the HIGHEST Aspect within the Matrix and for those that are ready, to the HIGHEST Aspect outside of the Matrix.
It is a Time of accelerated Growth and Reconnection to CORE TRUTH and CORE KNOWING.
It is also a Time in which there will BE great distraction. Each person is urged to turn away from the Outside Noise and Pressure and instead BE the Witness to their own Transformation.
The more a person is Aware of who they are at the Heart level and the Greater the Sense of TRUE SELF; beyond the roles, the lifetimes, and fixed understandings, the Easier it will BE to navigate these ENERGIES.
Some will cling to their identities and beliefs so tightly that the ENERGIES will create a deeper disconnect from SELF and SOURCE than was present prior.
The most Helpful question one can ask is:
Does Holding on to this Help me?
Does it bring me Joy?
Ask your SELVES:
Who am I Truly at my deepest CORE?
Do NOT hesitate to ask for Assistance in the lifting of the veils of illusion that are within. All the Spirit Guides and Angelic Realm are available to Help ease this Transition.
The greatest concern is that many may feel disillusioned and lacking a sense of purpose to the point of BEing Fatalistic.
When one feels this hopelessness settling in it is important that they NOT only center within their Heart Space, but they connect with SOURCE ENERGY to Reconnect to their Purpose and Knowing. This will Help to Revitalize the form and bring in Ease.”
What was shown to me as these words were shared is that this ENERGY will Strip Away all that is NOT Truth Within Us.
I understood why they use the words Shattering as a way to describe the ENERGY. Many times on this process We do Shatter and then We Choose which pieces to Pick Up.
The ENERGY will come in and incrementally step up daily in intensity. For those that are deep into their Self-Work this may bring ease because what you’ve been processing and plowing through can BE Removed more easily in these Frequencies.
Eventually all the layers of the False Self and the False Templates will Collapse, and We will BE left with our most Authentic version.
It is the layers of the False Self that allows us to deceive our SELVES (subconsciously) and Others. Without these layers, we will all BEcome much more Transparent. We will BE able to understand the CORE of what we are Feeling and Experiencing. Discernment will BE much Easier as One’s Intent will shine through.
They showed all of these ENERGIES coming in and Cracking a Statue slowly but surely as LIGHT BEgins to peek out of the cracks. This process though it may feel brutal, really is one that is going to Assist us in Regaining our Sovereignty.
It will help us cut through the illusion within our SELVES and that will help us cut through the illusion in our Outer World.
BE-ing in the State of Observation of SELF and the world and BE-ing Open to Relearning everything will Help ease the Psychological parts of this Transition. Many are experiencing what feels like a Barrage of Memories in their Waking and Sleep Moments.
It is a Life Review of sorts that is asking us in each Moment if We are ready to HEAL or are we still wanting to retaliate. Retaliation towards SELF and Others can look like going into victimhood, shame, blame, and even greater retaliation of wanting an eye for an eye.
Even when the Emotions are painful, we have to step back and ask our SELVES if we are Truly ready to HEAL or do We need to go through another Cycle of the blame, shame, and payback.
These ENERGIES pounding us are Here to Help us Let it all Go. Holding onto so much pain and worthlessness keeps us locked in a war with our True Nature. We cannot BE all that we are if we hold onto the pain, and unworthiness. We have to ask our SELVES if We are ready to HEAL and Let Go.
This next phase is very Physical as well as Psychological. It is our Physical Bodies that hold the Template and Programming of the False Self. In previous incarnations we dropped the Body when we reached this phase. That made the Transition much easier.
NOW we are making the Transition with the Physical Body intact. Any type of deep stretching, myofascial release, massage, and Qigong type movements will assist Greatly with the Physical aspects of this Transition.
The Council Recommended Connecting in straight to SOURCE ENERGY and allowing it to come in through you. Allow it to fill the body and permeate any areas where you’re holding density.
Through all of our own internal workings we may also BE feeling the collective confusion and unraveling.
When you are feeling overwhelmed, check in with your SELF to see if what you are Feeling is yours. If it is not, Thank it for showing you how the Collective is Feeling. You can then ask it to leave.
Recently the Council shared that many are Feeling the Collective intently because they are BE-ing asked to assist. When I asked how one can assist, I was told that the Collective needs Love, Understanding, and Hope.
When We feel energies that are NOT our own, take a Moment and visualize the Earth, with all of her inhabitants and hold her.
Surround her with the Energy of LOVE, HOPE, COMPASSION, or whatever helpful Energy comes to your mind.
Send it to everyone, everything with NO exceptions. Exchange the Uncomfortable Energies that the Collective is feeling for those that hold such incredible promise.
The rule of thumb right NOW is question everything, Love everything, and Allow your SELF to BE exactly who you Truly are in all Moments.
Allow your SELF to Shatter, Allow your SELF to Pick Up ONLY what Aligns with your SOUL. You will KNOW what that is because it will make your Heart Sing.
Sending you all lots of LOVE as We go through this incredible phase.
Thank you, thank you, thank you to all who have supported and shared this work. It really means the world.
~ Jenny Schiltz 💜
https://jennyschiltz.com
with LOVE 💜
Pars Kutay
~ 💜 ~
Art: Find yourself and you will find your freedom by Rob Hakemo
Essay; Marketing to Women
Woman’s Day magazine, in retrospect, is going to go down in history to be as puerile, provincial, and trivial as the ads for toasters, cars, and bras for women in the 1950’s. They send me this rag free in the mail because I have a business. Occasionally I flip through it to get a laugh and I saw this.
The ad on the left is for a fake butter product. They’re making it analogous to a long-term relationship. The ingredients in “I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter” are purified water, soybean oil, palm kernel oil, palm oil, salt, soy lecithin, natural flavors, vinegar, Vitamin A Palmitate, and beta-Carotene (for color). Jul 25, 2017
Soybean oil is very bad for you and in most processed foods and fast foods. Since it is so high in easily oxidizable omega-6, it’s a poor cooking oil choice. This article takes a look at eight harmful effects of soybean oil backed by scientific research. I’m pretty sure palm oil is no better.
Given all of that, I agree that it’s analogous to a long-term relationship which is a statistical misnomer. The only long-term relationships that lasted from the old days were anchored in the couples subconscious minds by their birth family. God only knows what kind of marriage that was; probably more like comfy brother and sister than hot, novel lovers from different tribes. Most marriages are lucky to last 10-11 years, long enough to raise the kids a little over halfway and not kill each other. All the romantic hype around marriage is romantic fantasy and like fake butter, it’s bad for you! I think most people would agree that it’s not good for human beings to live with the same person for too long. It’s celebrated because people are afraid of great sex actually changing them spiritually.
When a person finally understands and embraces their body and emotions there is nothing greater or more powerful on the planet. It can change the world. The governments and the religions all know that which is why they sell us the awful healthcare system we have, obsession with a fitness regimen instead of health in balance and moderate treats, and dogmatic religions that demonize the body and nature that espouse abstinence and deprivation and promote “I Can’t Believe They Call This Shit Butter” long-term relationships.
We’re getting into the gray area here between this black and white ad. The implied assumption being, long-term is white, like a wedding dress on the right and black, like a classy little black dress is on the left. Neither one is accurate and the butter side verges on slut-shaming.
Who doesn’t love butter?! Butter is real. A bit of butter in your diet is good for your skin. There is one ingredient in butter; milkfat and man is it good! I just used 2 sticks of butter to make a shortbread crust for an apple tart and it turned out smashing! The puns are coming fast and furious here; tart, shortbread, fast, furious. Sounds like great sex to me.
There are only 34 calories in a teaspoon of butter and when added to fresh bread, it is pure joy. There is no other substitute for it if you’re making sugar cookie cutouts for a holiday for people you actually love. The key is moderation. Don’t eat the entire apple tart with shortbread crust or ten cookies.
The same goes for your relationships. Don’t have sex with a new partner every night. That would be too many one night stands, but I don’t know anyone who does that. There is nothing unhealthy or wrong about having a lover or a boyfriend. I think it tastes the best and is the most realistic with regard to human nature. It’s also the truth!
Give me that butter any day. It is not a one-night stand. Looks like love to me; no possession but likely repeated as long as the recipe is right.
Heartset; What is Connection?
A connection is an affinity, ease of communication, an understanding of another person, a desire to get to know someone better, the real possibility of a lasting friendship, and for women, respect. For men, it’s a huge turn-off to contemplate respecting a woman although most won’t admit it.
A connection does not denote love, being in love, physical attraction, desire for sex, desire to get married, desire to live with you, dreaming of a future, desire for a boyfriend, an attempt to control the other person, or dependency. Just because a guy feels a connection to a woman he really…should not freak out in fear that she’s going to control him with her feminine ways and make him give her babies. Or, post-reproduction, make him grow up and face and express his feelings. Most of us are too busy to try to control you. We ask that you organize yourselves. That’s usually asking too much though.
Interdependent connection between a woman and a man means you each have your own lives, take responsibility for knowing and expressing how you feel, making your own physical appointments, have boundaries that you agree on for privacy, but depend on each other for whatever you’re comfortable with which is usually quite a bit; affection, sex, sharing food duties, household chores, and child and pet care. Personally, though, I think couples need to have their own money and manage it themselves but sometimes merging it makes a bigger pile obviously. However, spending priorities can cause a divorce so, in that case, keep it separate.
I happened to be sitting next to a guy at a bar several months ago and he got a text from a woman he’d been dating. He told me she was really hot (like I need to know that. He wanted me to know that). She had just texted that she was willing to help him decorate his new place. He complained to me that that was intrusive and overcontrolling of her. I just shook my head. Men. You overinterpret us just being nice, way too much. We just like to do girly stuff.
You also make an awful lot of dumb assumptions about our sexual prowess and skill-based on our body shape and size. That’s like assuming an orange that’s bigger than the other ones won’t taste as good pulling it off the tree when it truth, it will likely be sweeter and juicier! Your loss dude. Think through stuff more. A smart woman in life is a smart woman in bed, no matter her size. And if she’s smart, she’ll be detached in her feelings and won’t necessarily want you to stay. We independent types like the whole bed to ourselves. You’re programmed to prefer thin women and that’s just dumb.
Another guy I sat next to one time pointed out a large-sized waitress and said, “She looks good to me. It makes me hungry looking at her.” I’m thinking, “Does he see her as a roast chicken and potatoes or a human being?” I mean really! It would have been funny if it wasn’t so stupid! Again, I shook my head.
Women have given up on all of that. A simple connection means you guys stay calm enough, nixing the drama and fear, that we can have your short attention span for maybe ten minutes? Most women won’t settle for that anymore and many women are just going to women; lesbianism. The only women left who want you will be women that want babies and that will be all they want from you if that’s the only skill you’ve developed. But if you flirt, don’t lie about it and act like you haven’t. All guys flirt even just to see how far he can get, even if he doesn’t mean it. But if you flirt, and we flirt back, you better deliver dude.
Most women are independent, not dependent. Women “act” dependent for your ego. That’s it. Most women have an education and know they need to have their own money because let’s face it; most of the time you use your money to try to control us. No woman wants to be controlled and penniless. There’s no room for love to grow there and no security for us. All women want love before anything else but many women have compromised for so long, not having the connection and affection they need that they’re out of touch with their body. Just sex is just the worst for us. It’s Mcdrive-thru Sex. Horrid. It also tells us you aren’t very bright. Only dogs just fuck and eat fast food for God’s sake.
I’ve known more than one man who I had friendship and affinity with and flirting, run the other way because I returned it. I’m mystified. We’re not supposed to like you back or you split? Are we just supposed to stand there, bask in it, and look pretty, never say anything smart and let you control every aspect of the relationship to your comfort level because you’re so insecure? That’s the only way you’ll come back or stick around? Oh well then, see ya!
Body Truth; An Addict’s Ability to Project is Prolific
My experience and intuition tell me that this happens when a person isn’t in control of their own body, habits, and life. It’s ultimately a health issue and usually tied to addiction. I grant that at the root of addictive behavior are deep emotional wounds, likely from childhood and unconscious or subconscious mind, and that we each want to feel better physically and emotionally and be freer. But at whose expense? It should be at your own expense. The rest of us should not be at the receiving end of your unwillingness to get some help. No one expects deep addiction issues to be handled alone. But the least we ask is that you not offload onto we civilians who are not professionals and seek professional help. I’m guessing there isn’t one person on the planet who doesn’t intimately know an active addict and it breaks everyone’s hearts; mostly your children.
It doesn’t matter how much you love someone or if they are your soul mate or your twin flame; the committed addict ruins everything. They have to use a drug to nullify their feelings and make every excuse in the book to use it and even break the law to justify it. Gee, what would that be? Civil disobedience to unjust laws that protect the public from irrational behavior while you’re on the substance or god forbid, you’re driving while on something?
You have to move on. There is no choice here or you will go down with their ship. It’s not worth it.
Alcoholism and other addictions are epidemics in our society and I’m so sick of dealing with it everywhere I turn. The weirdest part is when there is memory loss regarding communication. Even when you have proof of what they said in an email or text and they deny it. It’s unbelievable that someone can still attempt to pin a behavior on you when you have proof that they are the ones behaving that way. Goodbye. No trust.
I guess the definition of an addict is someone who is completely out of touch with their feelings and haven’t a clue what the truth is for them. So they go haphazardly through life, screwing up all of their relationships with friends, co-workers, employees, mates, and children. You would think that would be incentive enough to get some help but I’m guessing they’d just as soon stay in denial and lazy about getting a grip and fixing it. They have no inner courage.
Those deep wounds aren’t anyone else’s’ problem but theirs no matter how hard they try to tell you there is something wrong with you. That is the projection and there is no end to it. There is such a thing as an innocent party who is just learning that you are abusing a substance to the point of behavior change. Once we learn that they are not cogent, then it’s our responsibility to walk away and let the chips fall where they will. Otherwise, you’ll get into co-dependency instead of interdependency and that’s not going to help anyone.
Co-dependent is enabler and addict depending on one another to keep the addiction going. Health, money, structure, and life is in chaos for both. It’s a destructive cycle and no one is healthy or happy. All of your relationships are screwed up and most people who know you are mad at you.
Interdependent means you both are in charge of your own lives, know how you feel, express it, take care of yourself, have friends who like you and you like them, have your money and things organized, are able to say you’re sorry, and like any normal human being, have needs and want to depend on someone for support once in a while. Let’s hope we can pair up with the people we truly deserve, not the ones we don’t.
Essay; People Are Who They Are
One of the things I think we all know as an adult is that you can’t change anyone. But it’s funny that we still try. I’m still single, not even a boyfriend and I’d say I’m content this way for now. However, I still have men DM’ing me quite often in all of the social media boxes, trying to get me to do their bidding, pay attention, throw them a bone, give them what they want and generally flirt and waste my time. I ended it and put up boundaries. Out of fifteen, maybe I’ll be a bit interested in one.
I’ve experienced this over and over with men; even the ones that love me just as I am. In my line of work we call it offloading or projecting. Over and over, even the nice guys with a genuine heart want me to be what they need me to be. Very rarely are they interested in who I am, what I care about, and how I feel. The last fellow I dated said that I should stop looking so pretty and then I wouldn’t get bothered so much going on my walk three times around the block. What’s next? A burka? I don’t even wear much makeup and hardly spend any money on clothes! I just am who I am and I told him as much.
I’m secure, stable, smart and I take care of myself. That’s just too much to handle for a man that needs a woman made of clay who he can mold or who will mold herself to him or fake an orgasm. I am who I am. I’ll remain alone before I change for anyone or fake an orgasm to shore up a man’s ego. Women do that all the time by the way. If guys read women’s feeling better or if women were more honest they’d know.
I have vices; for example, I say I’ll show up at a party I’m invited to and because I’m a writer and an introvert I’d rather stay home and so I do. I cancel. If a project is too challenging or I bit off more than I could chew, sometimes I don’t finish it. Sometimes I say I’m just going to have one drink and I have three, although I almost always only have one. I feel incredibly emotionally detached from most human beings because I find them far too emotionally indulgent for my comfort level and lacking in inner discipline. I’d say all of these things about me are unattractive but I am who I am. I’m also a big flirt in person because I can be! It’s fun! I do not flirt on social media though. The men always initiate there.
Honesty with yourself and someone you’re dating is super important to keep your energy aligned. I find myself very distracted and unable to get my work done when too many emotions and sex have been flying around. I just need to be authentic with a man. Maybe some women expect men to change too, but can women ever really be themselves and be truly loved when men are who they are?