There is Something Emotionally “Off” with Guys

There are too many on the roster for me to ignore this.  I read a lot too, so it’s not as though I’m ignorant. Well, seriously…I know men have feelings.  That’s very obvious and I’m good with that, unlike many women.  That’s just as obvious as the fact that women have feelings.  And I am sensitive to men’s feelings, as different than women’s and have a ton of experience with men expressing their feelings with me.  I’m safe to do that with.  That’s sort of the problem…maybe.

The Jekyll and Hyde thing, the fear of getting too close, or relying on a woman as your friend, or letting her help you with something she is strong in and you have no idea about; she does the same with you.  Why can’t men rely on women the same way? Why is that so emotionally vulnerable for you but it’s not for us?  Maybe you didn’t have a good sister?  That’s how you pattern it in your brain.

As a woman, who has talked to a lot of women, if we get a red flag about a dude, we break it off, let it go, and have a fairly practical attitude about the lack of emotional affinity so we don’t usually cling, push away, cling, push away, kick and punch.  That induces no sense of emotional security in a woman at all. And I’ve seen it way too much with men.  I don’t see this behavior in women maybe because there’s no way a guy would tolerate that from a woman.  I see and hear her making her mind up.  She has a subjective sense of “the feel” of the guy and their emotions and the sexual affinity so her radar is on baby!  If all that isn’t flowing, we’re not interested and don’t need to analyze it.  Our body told us and that counts the most.

Now the objective part.  Males tend to value or be, more objective to their everlasting detriment.  You’re missing half of the picture.  You thought you drank the whole glass, the other half is in there.  You thought you took a full breath, you didn’t exhale. I’ll stop. The objective picture, which women can fully, competently, always, always, see, is just dumb to us.  It’s never just that way.  You can’t gain any accurate information in life or in relationships by only being objective any more than you can know what sex feels like by just standing outside of it and watching it.

Subjective means you are the subject, you’re in it, you’re living it, your senses, feelers, intuition, BODY (such a big truth for women) are in the situation and we’re talking UPLOAD of information into the computer.  It computes, along with the easy, objective stuff.  We know what’s going on when we’re next to our man but we will never, ever, understand why guys are so irrational and comatose when you’re next to a woman, or her breasts, that you love or care for. Just why?

The rational way to analyze and proceed in a relationship is to dip your toe in the water, smell each other, listen to each other’s voices, socialize, get your instincts going, eat together…and this only takes maybe a couple weeks or the total of five dates to have enough data to make the decision.  Do I want to have sex with this guy and allow some emotional bonding or not?  Whether women admit it or not, our brains are programmed to emotionally bond otherwise, I don’t think we can orgasm.  It’s kind of obvious.

It is forever lost on me why men can’t be more rational about their feelings.  Women have evolved to be objective and subjective. We tend to be balanced for the sake of our children. There are plenty of brilliant women that can do the math, science, tech, blah, blah, blah, blah, like it’s such a big deal.  No…it’s not.  It’s pretty easy for us.  Dealing with you guys and not having to have our defenses up when you freak out over how you feel is what is not easy for us. Living with you is not easy for us.  I don’t think I can do it anymore.

Please try to be more subjective, more empathic, more understanding of other people and women who are different than you.  We are not men nor do we want to be.  We can balance being objective with being subjective and we ask the same of you.

Intuitive Chocolate Chip Cookies

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Don’t those look yummy! I have mine with a really good espresso or strong dark coffee. Here’s my Grandma’s recipe.

1 cup of “Oleo” (It’s margarine but she called it butter. I use real butter)

1/2 cup of sugar

1/2 cup of brown sugar

2 eggs

1 tsp. soda

1 tsp. salt

1 tsp. vanilla

2 cups flour

1 bag of chocolate chips.

Baking and cooking are chemistry, so women have been navigating science in the home for as long as the species has been around. Almost everything we’ve done in keeping the nest is science and multitasking. Nor did we need a 3D printer or AI (Artificial Intelligence) to pretend like we could copy life. We make life automatically in our bodies. We really do need to take credit for how we kick it in so many ways.

Speaking for myself, as a young, fertile, horny woman, the main reason I didn’t take credit, is that I knew that if I was a threat to a man, better at something or smarter than him, I’d never have sex again. If you’re too competent, too articulate, too assertive, and have too high of an IQ and are cute, you won’t have much sex because you’re too hard to please. Last I checked, guys hate that the most. I can’t tell you how many women and gay men warned me about that. Women want sex (and babies) more than anything in the world and that’s what the men are for. Let’s admit it.

Why wouldn’t we admit that? Slut-shaming? Meaning the assumption is that a woman who admits that her body is on automatic pilot for sex is also a slut. That’s absolutely not true. Not if she picks a partner she is compatible with and has at it instead of with a hundred men which was the situation in matriarchy.

During matriarchy, women, and children lived together and the men just came in for a conjugal visit and left. Thus, they are hardwired to be with as many, and as much of a variety of women as possible following their old brain. There is nothing new about the hook-up. That’s how the dominant women wanted it! That era is over and was bad for everybody; women, children, and especially men. The children never knew their fathers! That’s matriarchy’s theme. It’s still hanging around in some cultures today.

Thus, the ascendancy of patriarchy so the men could live with a woman and gain very valuable human communication skills and learn how to love through having his own child. That benefits the child as well and helps the human brain form in a different way. Children need to know their father. We’re still working on that and it’s coming along.

Back to the cookies, men have picked up all of women’s natural science skills too and gained on it! Many men are creative chefs, are in the kitchen and love to cook and bake. I’m happy about that as I really don’t enjoy being in the kitchen anymore. And for ambitious, impatient women, sometimes the male partner makes a better parent. He’s more entertaining and more patient with his child while mom goes out and leads. That’s pretty common now too, even though her pay is 25% less than a male who does the same job, just because she’s a woman. Sexism is alive and well when it comes to money.

But it isn’t all just Mom baking cookies anymore and that’s a good thing.

Bi-Gender Intuition

I believe that, even though women have a biological brain preponderance of intuition, plenty of men do too.  Plenty of women are naturally good at STEM;(science, technology, engineering, math).  I loved my chemistry set when I was eight. Most men are not as naturally tuned into their bodies as women are.  Again, this is not to disparage, it’s evolution.

I want peace, not gender war.

My wish is simple; that women do not expect men to be like women and that men do not expect women to be like men.  We are who we are and sometimes it’s a benefit for us to partner and live together, given enough space…sometimes.

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