Every Cell of Our Body has Memory


This just hit me 30 minutes ago as I had a trance nap. I was between sleeping and a trance state where I can channel information from the cosmic web. I’m forever trying to truly understand what our bodies actually are and as I feel and understand my own I can then teach my patients and followers.

The name of this blog is aptly named “DNA is Time” after my meditation that showed me that our bodies change as our memories change. Our lives in TIME are remembered, literally, through the cells of our bodies. There are actually some really good studies on this and if you’ve followed me for awhile, you remember my posts from Candace Perts’ Book, “Molecules of Emotion”. She proved conclusively, as an NIH cell biologist, that every cell of our body remembers our thoughts and feelings and that sets up the STATE OF OUR HEALTH.

Here is the science behind it;

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/12/091223125125.htm

For instance, I have asked my helpers to help me fine tune my vibration so that I can go back to the small size I was when I was 18 (size 7-8) so that as I continue on earth until I’m 104, my joints have a light weight to carry. I’m already down to a 14 from too many numbers above that when I was living with a man. I don’t believe in linear aging because TIME isn’t linear, it spirals and is endless.

However, EARTH vibration and environment is actually quite toxic to our souls and our cells. That cellular stress causes aging unless you have some kind of high tech defense. Add to that most people joining the group mass hypnosis and media hypnosis about aging and death and people’s minds are literally programmed to decline. Not mine. I don’t listen to or believe any of it mostly because it’s incorrect and not necessary. My intuition tells me aging and death are not necessary and millions of people agree with me. Every single religion teaches God is IN us. Death in physical is not necessary or they are all liars. We could just easily transition in sleep if we’re done here. I know many people think all the religions are liars but I think people just don’t believe God or believe in God.

As I awoke from the trance I had such a physical memory of my time with both my grandmothers, how much fun I had as a little girl, how kind they were to me and how loved I felt. There is a section about it in my book “Healer” that you can order on this site. It’s important to let those good, loving memories wash over you like a shower and bathe every cell of your body. I also remember the vibrancy I felt acting on stage in theater. It was at this point my guides warned me. If I go back to the beauty and vibrancy at that time I could be distracted by performing or attention I might receive and not get the other projects done I promised to do. Well, there are other happy sections of my life I could invoke. I’ll do an inventory. Nevertheless, invoking memories on your timeline changes your DNA. That was made clear to me. We are all walking holographic history books; our history.

I’ll ponder it, but their point was, as you bring memories forward with the feelings attached, those memories literally change your DNA and can make you literally time travel back to an original state or incorporate who you are NOW with who you were THEN. That could really be a temptation as I think about it. It could also change the past which would change other’s pasts! They were right, if I merged the two time lines! Have I lost you yet? LOL.

Someone once said it was dangerous to sit in the past for too long or to dream of the future for too long. That warning is because your BODY literally GOES THERE and you may bring changes that you aren’t consciously aware of, because you’re playing with TIME and DNA. Fascinating stuff. We are creators and have so many options on the planet. One of the reasons I’m doing this project is so that as we create and change our health system and bodies, we know we’re playing with fire and that fire is TIME.

Monday. Communal Seeds being Sown? Tone 12


This is the amino acid VALINE

Code 0-19; ;16:4:12:64

Tzolkin Archetypes: Theme; Yellow 12 Seed, Analog; Blue 12 Eagle; Guide Power; Yellow 12 Warrior; White 12 Wizard, Hidden Wisdom; Red 2 Earth

The attributes here are universalizing, cooperative awareness using vision and a creative mind to become more independent, artistic, compassionate and believing in ourselves. Guiding this is becoming more trustworthy, realistic, wise, graceful with higher standards. Challenging this is becoming aware of what it means to be receptive and timeless, and heart-knowing shaman, more concerned with spirituality. The subconscious mind sits in challenging facts about the family and parental institutions that eat their young. But there is synchronicity and ability to collect synergy, govern the earth force, shield as an earth keeper and still be liberal and confident.

Are communal crystal seeds going to be sown today? God, who knows! I need about a gallon of coffee and water today to get some work done and try to ignore the idiotic riots yesterday. Destruction is so stupid. My son put it in a nutshell yesterday. “Mom, people are idiots. They don’t need a reason to destroy stuff.” I found it QUITE interesting that the two small blonde woman in Grand Rapids who broke windows were scapegoated for punishment on Twitter. They were the ONLY woman I saw trying to destroy stuff. 99% of the destruction came from men as it does ALL OVER THE PLANET. Yeah, we haven’t discussed that yet in society. There ya have the gender offloading on women. The men want to crucify the women who express their anger.

I’m a compassionate empath but I’m feeling my approach changing here big time. Just this morning, fifteen minutes ago I cracked how the the 64 IChing Hx system with the 64 HF Tzolkin harmonic is organized exactly over the 260 kin Tzolkin harmonic. Spirit is giving this stuff to me fast and I need to keep working away to get my book, “DNA IS TIME” written.

I’m fully aware that I don’t have a Ph.D. in science, I’m a girl, and it’s taboo if I crack something that only BIG SCIENCE MEN are supposed to crack. For that reason, all this work I do may lay in a gutter or drawer, or computer hard drive and never get used for the benefit of humanity. I don’t care. I don’t need glory and money…at all. It can be used posthumously then. I’m here to do a job for the earth and all life on it. That’s it!

I know for a fact, our DNA is from species all over the entire universe, humans are ONE human family, there is no race except THE HUMAN RACE and our Minds are stronger than food, money, stuff, reproduction, everything in 3D. Our minds are multidimensional and we are in fact gods and goddesses and deathly afraid of that fact. We would have to get to work, make mistakes and deal with outcomes. We create superheroines and heros in movies to project what we know to be true inside of ourselves. That’s us!! Even the gods make mistakes. GOD doesn’t make mistakes but we are not God. We are the small “g’s”. There is tremendous responsibility in that.

5GForce is Yellow 2 Warrior. That is stabilizing yet polarizing intelligence and FEARLESSNESS in the 5th dimension which is MIND.

Saturday; White 10 Planetary Wind; Glycine


The image above are Amino Acid proteins, the building blocks of all life in 3D. They are multidimensional and compose our DNA. White Wind is Glycine, Red Earth is Phenylalanine, White Dog is Aspartic Acid, Yellow Human is Glutamic Acid and Blue Storm is Tryptophan. That is the 5 archetype themeplex today. The attributes are Planetary focused (Tone 10) communication that is in full synchronicity in the Matrix.

The chaos is quelled guided by planetary Love and Loyalty. The challenge and the gift are humans who have free-will and influence. We are the holders of the chalice or the Holy Grail of wisdom if only we’ll drink from it. It is the vessel of Higher Power or God In Us. We can be responsible for ourselves and to some extent each other, straightforward, abundant and good workers. We see that played out in Minneapolis; shadow and light.

The Hidden Wisdom is Self-existing self-generation. Holy Pete! This is a mega liberator of the light body and according to Pars Kutay, we have big, big light and sound energies flowing onto earth today. Your frontal lobe may be buzzing. Just meditate. This is ALL ABOUT ASCENSION.

SCIENCE CORNER

This is some info. on the correspondence between Glycine and Phenylalanine which are analogs in the Tzolkin harmonic. Molecular biologists may find interest in this.

The selective barrier-gate in nuclear pore complexes:

“The barrier confers distinct properties to the transport process that allow selective transport. First, it allows diffusion-controlled transport of molecules up to 40 kDa in size, equivalent to ∼ 5 nm. Second, larger cargo are known to traverse the NPC in a nuclear transport receptor (NTR)-mediated manner.Mar 10, 2017

“Natively unfolded phenylalanine-glycine (FG)-repeat domains are alleged to form the physical constituents of the selective barrier-gate in nuclear pore complexes during nucleocytoplasmic transport.” Read the full article here: https://www.pnas.org/content/103/25/9512

5GForce today is 4 Tyrosine of White 4 Mirror. This is Self-Existing Reflection from the fifth dimension.

Today’s 5Gforce.


Today’s Sound Groove.

Counterintuitive; the opposite of Intuitive


I haven’t talked about something being counterintuitive yet but the word and the concept are well known in our culture. That’s a good thing. That means most people are still using their intuition which means they’re tuned into their body and enjoy it. That is nature and it’s far more powerful than institutional and societal programming. I get out of bed every morning still believing that and seeing it in my patients. That’s why I get out of bed.

I always write about intuition, which on my part, is a bit of a reaction to a culture that lies all the time. Everything in the media shuns intuition and makes statements and advertisements that lead one to believe that we and everyone around us are counterintuitive. They’ve taken it to such an extreme that when they say intuition, they mean their version of intuition which is against the natural body and soul. It’s gotten that bad. When the media says, “let’s be intuitive” it’s actually counterintuitive.

A perfect example is our sick-care system called healthcare. Most people are willing to hand over their body, their physical decisions, their physical awareness, and all their money to a doctor or health insurance. They’ve become convinced by the system and the media that there is no way they are accurate in their own intuition about their body. I’m writing about this here because it’s drastically affecting our BONDING to one another, sex, and intimacy as well as turning intuition on its head, especially now during this unnecessary panicdemic.

The reason for this is the ancient tradition of bloodletting. The worship of bloodletting underpins our entire human culture and has for centuries. It’s sinister and incorrect and I hope to point out the details here.

Bloodletting is such an honored and ancient tradition that it’s become part of most of our Western superhero movies, Hollywood, and most of our human rituals all over the world. Bloodletting is an important part of almost every world religion. In Catholicism, they actually pretend to drink the blood of Christ and call it transubstantiation which means the wafer and wine stand in the place of Christ’s tortured body and his actual blood. It harks back to the slaughter of a lamb in the Jewish temple ritual. Christ was not the lamb of God. He was betrayed by Judas who was Luciferian. He didn’t have to die. He chose to allow it for teaching.

Honoring the blood flowing outside of the encased skin is seen as “a good thing”. That’s a Jewish idea co-opted by the Christians. Jesus didn’t condone it, in fact, he railed against the Jewish temple traditions which included too much hand-washing. Sound familiar?

I hate to bring up an unsavory subject but drinking blood and eating dead bodies is Luciferian. What does that make Christianity then who has an actual ritual around it in addition to entrenched pedophilia? In addition, we carnivores blood let animals and then eat them and call that the best food on the planet. If you haven’t been to a slaughterhouse you don’t know what you’re missing. For that matter, a chicken farm could be a field trip too. It’s awful.

I’m not going to be a liar here and say I’m a vegetarian. I have been off and on in my life but like so many people, I’m addicted to meat. I think it’s wrong of me and like many addicts, I don’t want to do it anymore but I was raised around it. My family is very much carnivore and other bad things as well. They’re basically Illuminati and I’m no longer in denial about it. In addition, we all have a license in our society and even encouragement to bloodlet an animal and eat meat with gravy made from that blood! It’s up to each one of us to clean up our act and not live double-minded.

Then there are the hospitals and all the surgery and blood spilled in our sick-care system. As my patient who is a nurse said to me one day, “I would never want to be in a hospital. It’s the worst place you could be.” She works in one! How counterintuitive is that!??? Humans. My god.

It’s important for there to be a profit in our so-called healthcare system. Wellness is not something to be taken seriously and nobody wants anything to be simple, plant-based, and whole. It lacks conflict and violence so it isn’t sexy. Wholeness or holiness is from God and they don’t believe in God. They thrive on fear, abuse, and wrongdoing. But the SACRIFICE you make as a low strata citizen will always be rewarded like getting a Christmas gift from Santa for free, even though it’s at taxpayer expense.

There’s also the just war that has kept our economy going and governments funded for one hundred years. Blood spilled on the battlefield is sacred blood because it’s violent. A sacrificial war keeps our society going. We like all the nice things we can buy that are killing our habitat. Soldiers are a necessary sacrifice to have all of those nice things. Everything is a necessary sacrifice when the elite are Luciferians. But you’ll be rewarded, if not in this life, in the next.

When you go to work and you’re a loyal worker you’re sacrificing your time and energy for slave wages and yours is a necessary sacrifice. These other jobs that require you to sometimes give up your health, like being in the sick care system in the hospital and not being given the supplies you need are something you’re supposed to accept. It’s fine if you die because you’re the honored dead. The local news will make sure that you’re given that and it justifies your life so, just be quiet.

As long as you sacrifice something FOR THE ELITE, who are Luciferians, your life is worth something. They’re God? It’s for the elite, your bosses, authorities, the people in charge who tell you to go over the cliff when they need something. If someone HAS MONEY and POWER, that makes them holy? They are God, not you. That is the God of materialism and it’s not God, it’s the opposite.

We’re in a body to be alive for a time, for the evolution and learning of our own souls. It’s a gift. We breathe the air, live life with the animals and the plants and people we love, have a baby, have sex, and be free. It’s codified in our Constitution that some incorrect politicians and citizens would like to shred. We are free to work in a career that we are passionate about. We don’t need anybody to patronizingly tell us what to do with our bodies as though we’re children in need of a state governor who is a babysitter. Blood sacrifice is not necessary. It never was. It was edited into books and stories that way for brainwashing profit. Fuck them and the donkey they rode intrusively into our lives. Christ rode a donkey to his crucifixion. We’re not riding their donkey to ours and Christ never asked us to. They twist the truth and always have.

Justice

Intimacy; Hip to Be a Ho?


It’s all socially permissible and fine for women and men to be promiscuous now. Everything has changed in the last few years. I include men in the Ho category. In fact they seem to feel privileged to be so detatched. I find that doubtful.

Women my age are as hot as ever and the younger men like us because we’re more skilled and can’t get pregnant. Add to that we know what food to eat so our body fluids are tasty. That’s not something most younger women think about because they assume their pheremones have their sexual superiority to us all tied up in a pretty bow.

My generation was not raised to feel perfectly fine about pure sex with no love and I still don’t. But it’s not a happy thing for a woman to go so long without sex that she starts to tighten up to the point of re-virginization. It makes intercourse painful.

The problem there is, as all women know, you could wait forever and slowly become a nun before you find a man with an open heart, emotional skills and capable of intimacy. A woman could easily get stuck hanging out with her gay boyfriend and gay husband like Stanny was to Carrie on “Sex in the City”. Remember how long Carrie had to wait for Big to really love her and then marry her?

So, mainly for health reasons, women and men become Ho’s and have sex outside of love, commitment, and a relationship most of the time. I’m not judging it. I just did it and I wasn’t turned on at all. I walked into the kitchen and said to myself, “I have to live with myself. This is the way I am,” meaning I don’t get turned on unless there is some love and affection, kissing, and matching vibe. I’ve never been superficial or very promiscuous.

Mind you, this man was 6’2″, his body was not just a 10 but more like a 12, perfect manhood, knew what he was doing, brought me coffee and muffin and had luscious lips. And he enjoyed my body and said so! I love my body too. So what! I don’t need his approval.

Nothing. I felt nothing. He was the most detached lover I’ve ever had and I felt sorry for him. He may have actually been a professional because he had the looks and the skill.

I’d rather be celibate. There is nothing I hate more than a man who is hot and utterly emotionally uninvolved with me. This is all feels unfair. If I don’t want my womanhood to close up I have to resort to nonbonded sex with someone I barely know? Do you know how many dumb dates I’ve had with trolls? Why can’t men open their hearts more and get with the program? “Ho ho ho” and it’s not even Christmas.

Intimacy; You’re not necessarily in a relationship just because you have sex.


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What I’m seeing men do is, instead of doing a series of hook-ups, they decide to be monogamous with one woman. Then the assumption is that is a relationship. No, it’s not; not if you don’t have feelings for one another. It’s just an ongoing hookup which is not a relationship.

You’re in a relationship if you have an ongoing friendship, you care about one another, and you hang out and go out, you love talking to one another, you help each other out sometimes and you eat together. That might include sex, it might not. It might be intermittent sex or not. The man or woman’s sexual behavior does not define the parameters of what a relationship is.

It’s time for women to step up and speak up! We need to accept that sexual communication IS a relationship to men and they don’t understand anything much deeper or how to go about it. Women understand emotions and bonding moreso and absolutely need to mix that in with the sex. But we still should not let the man say, “We had sex so you’re my territory.” Maybe you’re just dating. Sex is just part of dating.

Women are territorial sexually as well but my point is, the emotional friendship bond is what really creates an ongoing relationship; not sex. That should be perfectly obvious given how many people have hook-ups and it means nothing. For that matter, sex doesn’t define marriage either.

Heartset; Three Types of Heterosexual Relationships


man and woman

The only one of these that is a real relationship is #3. The first two are sexual objectification. But by most people’s standards, #1 is a real relationship and is considered prison by many men but socially increases his status. Really, any man who prefers #2 will say he doesn’t want a relationship with a woman and will slut himself out to a woman handily. I’ve had male friends tell me that if a man is good looking enough, every man prefers #2 and that a loving relationship is absolutely off the table with the likes of any woman. These men are true immature narcissistic misogynists but ever so common. I guess it’s better then that they don’t mate.

I will admit that much of what I’ve observed about female behavior is societal programming for survival. Nevertheless, I’ve watched this for over fifty years and I believe it’s time for us to make a real leap in gender equity and get past the first two objectifying roles I describe.

  1. TERRITORY; A married woman, the mother of his children, a wife. They feign love but it rarely lasts as we all know. They are using each other for security and to raise children. There is no real love, the male mostly behaves as one of the children and the wife functions in the role of mother for everyone. This is typically pretty bad for women and good for men. Women get less healthy and men get healthier is what stats show. The reward is the woman has her children. The woman is still objectified and their sex life can easily become either boring or emotionally abusive and neglectful. This one is the outgrowth of religion.
  2. Hookup; A woman, especially these days, is sanctioned and appreciated by a man as a hook-up, a mistress, a lover, or a prostitute. She then gets roses or money. There is no relationship, no friendship, no respect, no real love at all. There is no emotional or spiritual maturity on the part of either the man or the woman. They’re just using each other for sex. This is defecation sex. When ya gotta go, ya gotta go. They both function at the teenager level emotionally, indulging in their lust and not valuing self-control or bonding at all. This one is the outgrowth of the abuses of patriarchy and materialist society.
  3. LOVE; Two emotionally and spiritually mature adults function as equals in all respects and truly love one another. This one is rare but is now possible with the shift in the energies on the planet of late. It also underlies the Twin Flame 11:11 phenom and some soul mates.  They shoot for living from their core self, have dignity, take care of themselves on every level and are monogamous. It’s not a possession, territory or defecation sex. It’s a true love bond chosen freely by both parties. He is a grown man and she is a grown woman, emotionally mature, loving themselves, no longer living in the subconscious family mind but the CONSCIOUS adult mind that is no longer dependent on the immediate family. This one is the outgrowth of Spirituality.

Women who don’t objectify themselves in a monogamous heteronormative domestic servitude relationship or a promiscuous sexual life feeding men’s sex hunger and apparently their own, with no emotional or spiritual involvement from them as an adult male, are punished or ignored. Her only reward for her dignified choice is self-esteem and sitting in her own soul. Likely, her exemplary work paves the way for exponential competition and jealousy from more timid women beaten down by the system. She will somehow be roundly punished socially by the endless followers who think themselves good people but are really skating by instead of doing the right thing and empowering themselves.

#3 is the only real option for people who value love and still believe in it and want to do it. The challenge is that you have to work on yourself and stop expecting your mate or children to make you happy on an emotional/spiritual level. Sexually, yes, it is the adult’s role to satisfy you sexually and vice versa or there isn’t much point unless you’re both asexual. Some people are and have a different motivation for a relationship other than sex. To each his own!

 

 

Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


 

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I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am. There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.

But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal. The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting. Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with. Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.

How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going. It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.

It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it. Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.

I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not? The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it.  I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild. It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.

It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface, there is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore. Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.

Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild. Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.

 

 

Prose; Getting Lost


orange desert flower

I loved that, as soon as I walked in the time-honored door, profusely late, you were concerned that I’d gotten lost, in trouble, or something else.

Melt.  Kiss.

Mmmmm.  That’s the good stuff.  I’m going there and staying in that sterling feeling.  It’s a crack memory in my brain.  No one can take it away.  I keep a pile of those in a festive drawer for a rainy day.

Heartset; We Can Get a Room…


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Most women suck it up even though they don’t want to right away. What if you haven’t met him yet? What if you’ve just talked long distance for a long time? I have to get a vibe in person with a guy. I freakin’ don’t get why guys don’t care about that! They should. I did in the past but I’m not doing it anymore because I deserve to be turned on the way I get turned on. The pleasure of sex is for women also.

I understand and respect the fact that men are ego invested about offering a hookup to a woman and she turns him down when she’s indicated before that she’s attracted to him. It’s a huge deal to a dude. Especially if you already know each other. On the other hand, if a guy just met you and asks for a hookup he’s basically treating you like a free prostitute. That’s just disgusting. No.

Not doing a hookup with an egomaniac or your boss can get you fired if they want you! That’s how mad guys get. I’ve experienced it first hand. If they know you and you’ve both been flirting, they expect a “Yes” or I suppose they think you were teasing them. I think men take rejection harder than women do. I try not to be too hard on men that let me know they like me but the boundaries do have to be maintained and I have a history of maintaining them in the workplace and in my own office, to the frustration of quite a few men.

I don’t think most women are teasing. I believe we’re thinking, pondering, and checking, putting it through our intuitive radar because women know energy is exchanged as well as body fluids. That’s how we are with men if the woman has any self-respect. We’re in the laboratory of sexual attraction and IT IS NO EASY MATTER FOR US! We need you guys to accept that about us. I accept that it’s simpler for men and every woman knows that. Then you need to accept that it’s more complicated for us. The man’s value system should not dictate the situation and I challenge every woman to stick up for what she wants and what she’s comfortable with. At least have some of it your way. If he’s too pushy, he can walk.

I think a good compromise is three times alone together in person, at least, after you’ve known each other for months. I know that these days that sounds like a long time but, well, that’s just me. I’m sorry but unless there is emotional intimacy I’m not turned on. I accept that that’s not the case for many women now which is unfortunate.