Crossing Over, Coming Together, Part II

I’m almost done giving you the scoop on “Molecules of Emotion” by Dr. Candace Pert, Ph.D. I’m going to finish summing up Chapter 11 of this great book where she talks about healing herself after all she’s been through in the NIH lab, with the men, and being unfairly excluded from the Lasker Award because she’s a woman.  She says,

I realized that I had been angry for years, harboring deep resentments that went all the way back to Sol and the Lasker, perhaps even further back… (more details)In the Lasker days, when I began comparing what happened to me to the losses inflicted on Rosalind Franklin. I had only intuited that suppressing my emotions was dangerous and might lead to cancer, but now I had amassed enough hard scientific data to convince me that I needed to heal my emotions if I wanted to pull through this difficult time-alive and healthy” –pg. 236

Rosalind Elsie Franklin (25 July 1920 – 16 April 1958) was an English chemist and X-ray crystallographer who made contributions to the understanding of the molecular structures of DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid), RNA (ribonucleic acid), viruses, coal, and graphite so her comparison was apt given her work and success. Born in 1920 in London, England, Rosalind Franklin earned a Ph.D. in physical chemistry from Cambridge University. She learned crystallography and X-ray diffraction, techniques that she applied to DNA fibers. One of her photographs provided key insights into DNA structure. Other scientists used it as evidence to support their DNA model and took credit for the discovery. Franklin died of ovarian cancer in 1958, at age 37.

Here’s what women do to themselves because there is so much negativity reflected back to us regarding having power, intelligence, and self-esteem from other women, men, and religion.  She says,

There was no doubt I had a reputation for being a spitfire, someone who was so hellbent on her own path that other people often felt the best thing they could do was simply stay out of my way. For the first time, I seriously considered; Was I the problem? If I’d behaved differently, been a good girl, and played the game according to the rules, would Peptide T have made it to the market, saving the lives of people who were now dead because it wasn’t available sooner?

I wrote “No” all over the margins. We’re not called to be saviors of the world or co-dependent. The short of it is, she found some spiritual healing for herself, was about to understand the true nature of forgiveness and forgave Sol, her old boss. She began to accept herself and found a quiet mental state where she didn’t feel the need “to perform” or achieve so much anymore.  I can totally relate to that as many women can.  She says,

I also started to become aware of synchronicity, to see connections between events and people happening simultaneously and then to act on this awareness instead of out of the more familiar linear cause-and-effect model”-pg. 242

Here is where intuition really kicks in and she says,

It appealed to me intuitively. The mind-body network is so taxed by unprocessed sensory input in the form of suppressed trauma or undigested emotions that it has become bogged down and cannot flow freely, sometimes even working against itself, at cross-purposes…When stress prevents the molecules of emotion from flowing freely where needed, the largely autonomic processes that are regulated by peptide flow, such as breathing, blood flow, immunity, digestion, and elimination, collapse down to a few simple feedback loops and upset the normal healing response.”

As a professional bodyworker and reiki practitioner, I see this every day and align it every day with my patients.  They can feel it and I stay busy!

“My colleagues were doing research on how trauma and blockage of emotional and physical information can be stored indefinitely at the cellular level.“-pg.243

So there you have it. And does our health care system understand and act on this in their treatment before they charge you $10,000/year for health insurance? No. Do they cover treatments by practitioners that really empower and help people get well?  No way! They are mired in materialism and greed most of the time and their treatments don’t work unless the placebo effect kicks in. It’s your belief in their pill that makes you feel better, not the pill itself. That’s an expensive magic show and sometimes they make it worse. It’s a crap shoot they play with our body and most people let them.

 

Relationship Anarchy & Monogamy

It seems that there is no logical contradiction in romantically loving two people at the same time. But the issue here is psychological, as it generates profound emotional dissonance. (If you invest yourself which women do by nature).

The dissonance stems from the fact that by definition, emotions demand partiality, that is, the preference of one person over another, which entails some sort of exclusivity. Partiality for a certain man or woman is a function of nature for the purpose of beneficial reproduction and it always has been. Pheremones control the process and generally, women do the picking since we are the soil that grows the baby and the seed. The male sperm is fertilizer which may account for the lack of bond and his lack of emotion tied to sex or any physical body. I don’t know. Women’s bodies know everything, are emotional and do bond and nurture. It’s crazy being a woman. We’re like walking magic without even trying.

Emotionally, it is extremely painful to imagine your lover in the arms of another person. Indeed, most of those who told of being romantically in love with two people at the same time and pleased with the experience also claimed that they would not like to be at the other end of the relationship; that is, they would find it enormously difficult, if not impossible, to share their beloved with someone else.

The deeper problem, however, does not concern normative values, as seen in heteronormativity and amatonormativity but rather emotional ones. It can’t really be completely intellectualized. Even if this process of relaxing of moral norms continues, and there is no reason why it shouldn’t, a major problem remains: the partiality that colors our emotional system, and in particular jealousy, fear, humiliation, and sorrow which are associated with realizing that your beloved partner is in love with someone else. These are million-year-old brain functions brought on by hormones for our survival!

How can you not be partial toward someone you bond your soul (body and mind) to? Answer; You don’t bond. If that continues, the foundation of society, the family within a community, unravels.

But if you are a unique individual, then you must only bind your soul to another unique individual to which you are in affinity. Because you are individual, it can only ever be partial because you largely belong to yourself, is my thought. What of that?

Pardon my bluntness here, but I believe that in essence, wives are patriarchal fuck girls that serve as a status trophy for a man. The king in his castle. “This is the fuck girl (wife) that will bear my children says the fuckboy. It doesn’t mean that I don’t want the delight of other pussies that I call friends”. And millions of men feel entitled to just that… while they’re married…secretly. No love, no bond. But the fact that they married shields them from the truth. They “appear” to be bonded in monogamy which is a sign of emotional maturity, as long as they don’t get caught being immature and indulgent.

Post-fertility, I have no idea what my function is to a man. It’s not going to be a nurse to his lack of health. I do know that a woman, absent the fear of getting pregnant and remaining sexual and healthy could turn the world on its head. It could be considered a woman’s prime and make all the young perky girls ruffle in competition. I guess that’s a cougar. It’s tempting.

But what about bonding? When are men going to feel a compulsion and obligation to love and bond as much as women?

I don’t know. I just know that sex is meaningless and jungle level without it. I’m not interested.

“Molecules of Emotion”-Chapter 10; Intervention, Obstacle Course and Trials

Dr. Pert is still working on analyzing Peptide T in the lab to find a cure for AIDS…page 206-7.

I remember feeling excited to finally begin the experiments, but also apprehensive as if I were about to dive into a swimming pool drained of water. Everything about this project, it seemed, had depended on some hard-to-fathom combination of intuition and/or mystical intervention and/or sheer good luck, all of which were somewhat suspect to my scientific mind at the time. The direction had been dictated by a voice in my head while I stood at a podium in Maui, and the choice of sequences we’d made, while based on a firm rationale, had involved a heavy dose of intuition, a fact that other researchers would either marvel at for decades to come if we were successful, or ridicule mercilessly if we were not. Now the moment of truth was upon us. Would our magic peptides do the deed and prove us right?

This is a factual account of a scientific process done by a Ph.D. at the National Institute of Health.  We cannot, with any integrity, brush it away with the wave of a hand.

“…I arrived early and eagerly pulled the tapes from the counter, scanning the numbers. It took only minutes to realize that we had something here. The counts showed that our peptides had knocked the binding of gp120 down to half, competing with the HIV for the receptors, just as we had theorized they would.”

Dr. Pert is about to make another remarkable breakthrough with regard to VIP; vasoactive intestinal peptide.

Much later, I was to speculate about what emotional tone VIP was associated with. Could a particular emotion generate or suppress quantities of VIP in the body, affecting how much of it was available to block or leave open a pathway for the HIV to enter the cell? Clinicians have the impression that increasing self-esteem seems to slow the progress of the disease. This leads me to speculate that VIP might be the hormonal manifestation of self-love, just as endorphins are the underlying mechanisms for bliss and bonding.”

All bodyworkers (massage therapists, reiki practitioners, Chinese doctors, some chiropractors, and Naprapaths) intuitively know this already and have for thousands of years just by putting our hands on the body. We’ve languished in the shadows and been called unscientific and esoteric, been ridiculed and called charletans while the white coats laugh all the way to the bank and the patients either worship or revile them.  It’s now time for the public to wake up and listen to what alternative practitioners are trying to teach their patients about mindfulness, repressed emotions causing illness, and the need to take responsibility for honing your mental focus to be well.  My holistic practice website is here: Deep t.Issue Therapy & Reiki

“Conceived by believers in the mind-body connection, Peptide T was truly a child of the new, more holistic paradigm.  And that was a big problem for a large establishment institution such as NIH.”

Trials to be continued…

Turning Point

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Dr. Pert was speaking of Norman Cousins:

What the body needed was the life-affirming, joyous experience of laughter.  State of mind, thought, and feelings, all of which were completely ignored by the medical model, did, in fact, play a major role in recovery.  He even postulated that the laughter had triggered a release of endorphins, which, by elevating his mood, had somehow brought about a total remission of his disease.“-pg. 167 of “Molecules of Emotion”

NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS TO US IN THE BODY, NO MATTER WHO HAS TRIED TO OR HAS VICTIMIZED US, IT IS COMPLETELY WITHIN OUR OWN POWER TO CHANGE, TURNAROUND, AND DO WHAT WE WILL WITH OUR OWN MINDS AND BODIES. We all intuitively know this and try to reason it away.

There is no blame because we have individually been given this full power.  There are no accidents; everything happens for a reason.  And NO ONE ESCAPES the REPERCUSSIONS of the HARM they do to others or themselves. The forces of karma are real. It’s not up to us to get revenge.

Ego says, “I’m sick and useless.  Everyone must drop what they’re doing and give me their energy for myself to use and throw into my black hole of toxic energy because I have NONE within myself.  Everyone else took it from me. I am a poor wretch.”  That’s a huge lie. It’s like a dementor and those in affinity will be drawn to you like a moth to a flame. Those sitting in the light of fullness and self-care will keep you far away if they are wise.

We each have a duty on this planet to transcend, release, forgive, and take action on behalf of ourselves to be well no matter what and FOCUS on what we want to feel for our own bodies and mind.  Stop blaming and take responsibility for your power to think, feel, and create. Stop giving your time and mind to religion, family, politics, and shopping that are negative if you want to be whole.

If you verbally, mentally, and emotionally think of how evil and wrong others are all day and then hate yourself too, you are full of murder, hate, vile disease, and toxic energy that no one who sits in love should be around. You are creating it with your mental focus. Pivot away from that. The Universe has your back.  Sit in the truth of love and wholeness, not in lies.

The universe agreed to allow you to come into the body and CREATE WITH YOUR BODY AND TIME, the experiential learning of your choice.  Now get busy and stop blaming others for the condition of your body and mind, wasting your time, and do something productive that you want to do.

There is no end to forgiveness from the universe or support for you to pivot and change because they don’t have an opinion of you. No one really does and if they do, it has no power because you are the boss of your body and mind, not them. The only opinion that matters to you is your own. The Universe comes from and sits in pure love.  You can use and roll with that or you can resist it.  It’s all your choice.  But wellness and wholeness is the truth, 24/7, available to your mind and heart to use, focus on, and create.  Practice makes perfect.

Do you believe it or not?  It’s the difference between being constructive or destructive with your time.  Are you helping or harming the planet? Do you hate God/Source or do you Love? God hasn’t done anything to you; humans have because they are imperfect, and so are you.  So, let it go and do good to yourself and others no matter what!!!

Turning Point; Shift

Molecules of Emotion cover

Highly toxic chemotherapeutic drugs developed in the 1950’s kill ALL rapidly dividing cells in the body, which means not only cancer cells but many kinds of healthy cells as well” p.153

Chemotherapy, as a treatment for cancer, is counterintuitive then.  Is it legal for me to say that?  The above quote is from a Ph.D. neuroscientist who worked at the National Institutes of Health.

I intuitively knew my father wasn’t going to make it.”-Candace Pert, p.158

It was at this juncture in the episode that I found myself at an NIH lunch table, sitting opposite my onetime collaborator, verbally wrestling with him over control of the research. As the power boy sat across from me making demands, I was in no position to mount an effective defense, nor did I want to.  In tough tones, he told me that he’d prefer to cut me out altogether, and deal only with Terry. This was his arena, he told me, in no uncertain terms, and I needed to understand that. After all, he was the chief, and if I was a good girl, maybe I would be considered for the position of research associate on future projects.”-p.157

I’ve encountered this in male chiropractors offices as well in the last five years.  It’s outlined in my book “Healer”.  Sometimes it seems as though we haven’t gotten much past Tudor England in the times of King Henry the VIII! It’s 2017 but the White House is still run like the Palace of the King and Queen.

Whenever something doesn’t fit the reigning paradigm, the initial response in the mainstream is to deny the facts“-p.162

The thing about that is, that’s how all humans tend to react to information they don’t personally like. Our egos and feelings come first. The facts of the matter come second.  IF….IF…we’d all pay attention to synchronicity and our intuition, that would not be the case. The fact is, intuition is rational and helps us feel secure because its basis is found in the body. It is no wonder that all of our institutions, (Church and State) and our health care system train us to ignore our own intuition about our body or tell us that we’re supposed to sacrifice them for the greater good.  No, it’s for THEIR good they want our money, energy, time, and body. You can take it back.

We’ve evolved to pay attention to our feelings, instincts, and intuitions and all the great scientists and artists know that. I make a good living now that I’ve empowered myself and have my own business.  You can too. But you have to love and honor yourself above what your parents and society tell you is acceptable.

Maybe Humans Crave Certain Feelings, not Drugs Themselves

That’s a pretty interesting suggestion.  It’s probably not a new one but I sure don’t hear anyone talking about that.  It would mean that you crave the way a drug makes you feel.

You may say, “Well yeah!” Pardon me if my realization sounds naive or conservative.  I’m not.  I’m an extremely liberal woman but I was born sober, so obviously I’m liberal intellectually, in speaking, and in friendships, not in my hobbies.  I have never craved drugs and when I do try them they don’t affect me.  Go figure.  I’ve used alcohol, been buzzed many times and only drunk once. It does nothing for my feelings at all nor does it make my body change much, good or bad. I’ve used pot maybe five times and it doesn’t affect me. I’ve used different kinds of tobacco and I like the smell of it because it reminds me of jazz, but that’s it. I cannot relate to craving a drug to make my feelings change. That’s as odd to me as thinking that changing my clothes will change my personality.  It’s extremely irrational and makes no sense to me.

I AM exceedingly familiar with my feelings changing though, a lot!!  My feelings have always swung this way and that naturally ever since I’ve been a child.  I am in touch with a range of feelings that as a professionally trained actor, I’m able to evoke or bring to the surface quite easily.  So, it must just be my personality; the way my brain works. It does run in my family, being theatrical, but we are also counselors, therapists, and mediums.  I’m also a musician.  I come from an emotionally expressive family so that was seeded in my subconscious in utero.

What all of this is bringing to light is the fact that if you have an expressive art you can imbibe in, maybe those feelings you’re craving will start flowing and your drug craving may go down.  We all need to let our feelings out.  And what about sex?  I know women tend to be more emotional during sex than men if men are at all, but more sex would be good for women then. Most women are as comfortable with sexual feelings as they are with taking a shower or feeling ill.  It’s just part of having a body.  I know this is diametrically opposed to men.

Men, I don’t know how you deal with your feelings other than drinking.  My 19-year-old son tells me that men do get emotionally attached in relationships even though males don’t get emotional during sex itself.  I know that the emotion of sexual tension that occurs when you’re attracted to a female is very uncomfortable for most men and FEAR is your big emotion; maybe even anger at not being able to control the woman’s sexual feelings? That was some inside information I received yesterday that was fascinating.  So, let yourself “be” in a relationship, talking, feeling bonded to other males and females as friends are very therapeutic for guys.  Also, just letting yourself feel the sexual tension with a woman you like.  It doesn’t mean you have to take any major action on it immediately…I guess.

As a female, I don’t really emotionally need friendships as much as I need sex.  I don’t think many women admit that but that’s definitely the case for me.  Or maybe I’m just far more into feeling my body in its natural state than others are. So it’s more important for me to have a partner than many friendships…eventually.

I’ll follow this blog up with my intuition and findings on sexual tension between men and women and maybe even women and women and men and men.  That should be compelling and timely. The issue seems to be unraveling our society on all levels. It’s about time right? This male fear and issue of emotional control is called patriarchy; then it manifests in forced sex. Nada. But are women really completely emotionally innocent in all of this? I really don’t know, seriously asking.

Is it possible that the psychology of sexual predation and sexual harassment is a form of sexual tension that is physically out of alignment because of pent-up feelings? Stay tuned.

 

 

Humans Weren’t Designed to be Rational and We’re Better Thinkers for it.

Trust your instincts

“Despite the growing reliance on “big data” to game out every decision, it’s clear to anyone with a glimmer of self-awareness that humans are incapable of constantly rational thought. We simply don’t have the time or capacity to calculate the statistical probabilities and potential risks that come with every choice.

But even if we were able to live life according to such detailed calculations, doing so would put us at a massive disadvantage. This is because we live in a world of deep uncertainty, in which neat logic simply isn’t a good guide. It’s well-established that data-based decisions don’t inoculate against irrationality or prejudice, but even if it was possible to create a perfectly rational decision-making system based on all past experience, this wouldn’t be a foolproof guide to the future.”-Olivia Goldhill

Check out this chart.

Every Single Cognitive Bias

It reminds me of Sheldon on “The Big Bang Theory”.  It kind of paints a picture of autism and OCD behavior, which I’m not judging. The fact that Sheldon skews in favor of cold, hard science and numbs human emotion or social sensitivity is rare. I understand having lived with two different autistic partners.  To me, the brilliance is attractive in some way.  I’m not sure why yet.  Maybe I’m on the spectrum as ADHD? My son thinks so but no one else does.

In the 1970s, two psychologists proved, once and for all, that humans are not rational creatures. Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky discovered “cognitive biases,” showing that humans systematically make choices that defy clear logic.  I believe this is a visual interpretation of the original chart.  It is worth looking at and makes the point that we are by and largely subjective, emotional creatures.  It’s a beautiful thing…to me.

Here is the full article that goes with the “Cognitive Bias Chart”;

Humans weren’t designed to be rational and we’re better thinkers for it.

“Unconvinced? There’s an excellent real-world example of this: The financial crisis. Experts created sophisticated models and were confident that the events of the 2007 crisis were statistically impossible. Gerd Gigerenzer, Director of the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Germany, who studies decision-making in real-world settings, says there is a major flaw in any system that attempts to be overly rational in our highly uncertain world.”

“If you fine-tune on the past with an optimization model, and the future is not like the past, then that can be a big failure, as illustrated in the last financial crisis,” he explains. “In a world where you can calculate the risks, the rational way is to rely on statistics and probability theory. But in a world of uncertainty, not everything is known—the future may be different from the past—then statistics by itself cannot provide you with the best answer anymore.”

“We need hot-headed, emotional decisions

Though calling someone hot-headed or overly emotional is generally a critique of their thinking process, emotions are in fact essential to decision-making. There’s even research to show that those who suffer brain damage in the part of the organ governing emotions often struggle to make decisions. They can weigh up the pros and cons, but can’t come down on one side.”

After reading the whole article, I am in favor of using both my intuition and my rational processes.  Humans have always done that and it’s not a neat 50/50 percent of the time one way or the other.  Everyone is different.  I support the use of the scientific method when it’s appropriate.  It’s not always appropriate!  Yet our patriarchal culture with the male scientists on top uses it to hit us all over the head with a two-by-four to make sure we know that they are in charge, to such an extent that very qualified women in STEM, (Science, technology, engineering, and math), flee the university setting because of extreme gender bias. They’ve done studies.

The males are not in charge with their controlling attitudes in science. It’s not going to last. And many times, they’ve been wrong. Many scientists will agree that it is quite desirable to also employ the intuition, especially if leads us away from militarism.  And there are millions of humane men that are very anti-militaristic.

I’m not going to get into the gender disparity on this issue at the moment, but suffice to say, I believe all of our work, females, and males will benefit from using and having respect for both. But intuition has been derided and disregarded in favor of the Philosophy of Science category and it needs to stop. The Science of Philosophy of the Mind and Psychology needs to be taken into account also.  That is also science.

 

What Does Cognitive Mean?

The modern meaning of cognitive has to do with mental processing or thinking. The thesaurus puts emotions under cognitive process as well but that’s not working for me based on seventeen years as a professional bodyworker and reiki master.

Emotions don’t come from the mind or the brain nor manifest there. Emotions come from the emotional body and the astral body and manifest in the digestive system and the heart. So emotions are not cognitive; they are cardioactive and digestive which would account for the fact that humans literally feel like their physical heart is broken when they separate from someone they love, they can’t eat, have no appetite, and what they do eat doesn’t stay in.

The emotional body is hooked to the physical body at the abdominal chakra 2 through the etheric body which is chakra 1, low back down to the bottom of the feet. The mental body is hooked to the physical body through the stomach or solar plexus. There is an energy body attached to all of the chakras as well as a certain type of mind.

The first problem in communication regarding all of this is the assumption that the physical brain is the same thing as the mind. Based on my experience, that is incorrect. The brain is a physical organ, spinning at a different energetic rate of manifestation than the mind. The mind moves between dimensions and is disembodied part of the time.

Our mind is active at night while we dream but our brain has no cognitive activity. They’ve measured it with their electrodes. The physical brain is resting. There is no thinking going on, but there is mental activity from the mind going on, which they don’t know how to measure with their instruments, so to them, it doesn’t exist.

The thesaurus states that the antonym of cognitive is body/physical. There you have the reason our health care system is so materialistic and messed up. It separates the mind from the body. If you’re going to do that you may as well be dead. Many people stuck in materialistic thinking are slowly trying to kill themselves with addictive behaviors that supply instant gratification because they feel that they are only a body, nothing else.

The mind is one with the body. The body is the mind. The body exists because of your mind. In short, your mind, all MIND is eternal or life would be one useless pile of nihilistic crap which makes absolutely no sense at all. A person has to be seriously disconnected to believe that mind dies. The brain dies, not the mind, and some would say, the soul doesn’t die either.

 

There is much to learn on this topic. To be continued.

Objectivity Can Be Over-Played

There is a balance to be struck between being objective and subjective in life. Being objective means you separate yourself mentally from the other person or situation and merely perceive them as an object to potentially be of use to your own ends. Our patriarchal system and all of our institutions are this way; very Orwellian. Bankers, military leaders, scientists, accountants, philosophers, and therapists tend to live life more staid and safe. It also means you sit safely in your ego and rarely apologize. Earthly power means a lot to objective people. I can get this way sometimes because I’m been through too many emotionally hard events that I’ve had no control over and did not create myself. That’s life and I’ve done my best to still suck something out of it to learn.

They are able to sublimate any potential emotions or needs that would attach you to them and make them vulnerable. This kind of behavior, if it’s dominant in your personality, stems from early childhood development of the subconscious mind where it wasn’t emotionally or physically safe for you to depend on your immediate family. They were too fucked up, but obviously, you were completely dependent on them for survival. Being objective saved your little soul. Good for you! Many can’t be objective and they don’t make it. The ability to analyze human behavior can be tremendously helpful when one of your parents or both, we’re nuts. On the other hand, maybe you were just born not caring. Some people claim to know human beings like that although it’s rare.

Intuition comes under subjectivity. Subjective personalities relish the physical senses and feeling life on its full spectrum rush through them. They are usually extrovert and run from place to place having adventures. They jump in, they don’t stand back, and they feel the love from others and give it in return. Artists, athletes, musicians, and actors are just a few that are willing to live life in the fire. I observe most humans as subjective because it’s natural to feel a flow with sentient life. Just as trees, flowers, grass and different animals coexist without conflict, we could too.

Both of these, if taken to extremes can burn you out. Objective -Subjective. We always hear, “You need to be more objective”. No one ever says, ” You need to be more subjective”. But it seems to me our leaders, institutions, and scientists do need to be more subjective. I wonder sometimes if they are real human beings. Can they peel their faces off?

No matter how hard the robotic humans and cold, hard, scientists try, normal people are emotionally involved with each other because ultimately, that’s what life is about. We crave it…all of us. They can’t stop it. The earth is one big ball of natural passion, from hurricanes to earthquakes. We roll with it and with each other, and people continue to die and are born. What a wild ride. It’s best not to overthink it because it doesn’t last long. Relish every breath you take and every hug you can garner.

Conflict Resolution on Gun Rights

 

I’m extremely impressed with this website.  It’s cogent, professional, rational, reasonable…not very sexy at all. Definitely relationship material for something long term that could eventually smolder.  Check it out!

Beyond Intractability on Gun Ownership

This is just the first suggestion as you scroll down.  Maybe I’ll e-mail this to my Federal Representatives and Senators.

From the article:

What SHOULD we do?

  • First, we need to look for areas of common ground that we can build on. There actually are several.  One is grief.  We are all grief-stricken about what happened in Las Vegas, just as we were for high-profile events from earlier—Sandy Hook, the Aurora Theatre shootings, and Columbine High School, for example.  A second commonality is a fear and the strong human need for safety.  Events like these make everyone afraid, and the desire for safety or security is a fundamental need that all humans share.  So, we need to build on our grief and our fear to bring people together, not to tear us further apart.
     
    The second area of common ground ought to be respect for the Constitution, the rule of law, the legislative process, and court decisions.  This means respect for the Second Amendment as it is now interpreted by the courts and how it may be interpreted by the courts in the future.  It also implies a commitment to work within the system to advocate for one’s preferred interpretation.
     
    There should also be common ground with respect to the need for a clear boundary between Second Amendment gun rights and military-class weapons that should not be accessible to the general public.

My comments:

It’s assumed that in any conflict based on values and politics, that people take sides.  Whether they voice their opinion or not, we know human beings are not naturally impartial. We all have an opinion and feelings behind those opinions. What we always fail to do is listen to each other if we don’t agree or to hold the value of give and take or take and give as the case may be.

I don’t do that. I listen to my patients spouting things on the table in treatment all the time that I don’t agree with. But I know that humans are not by nature rational; they are by nature emotional…every last one of us. When there is pain or illness in the body, it’s emotional based, so I let them vent and remain detached as a professional practitioner.  They’re not paying me to have an opinion on how they feel.

That’s why this page (the link) is so important. It’s impartial, neutral, above the fray in its approach. That is not to say the writers don’t have personal opinions. They just know that their personal opinions won’t get anyone anywhere. That’s what FB is for right?

Facebookers are just posturing, spreading some real, some fake news and venting.  It might be interesting for sociologists to read but I just scroll past whatever I’m not interested in. Knowing that is part of being a mature adult and deciding to contribute to problem-solving rather than feeling the need to prove that your point is right all the time.  Everybody thinks they’re right…from their point of view…which is myopic.

Being a mediator or a diplomat means you stand at the peak of the mountain seeing both sides, and both sides stand below in the valley duking it out with rules of engagement.  Sometimes just duking it out will resolve it but if there are guns involved no way, no how.

So someone…please mediate this issue, let’s find common ground as Americans and stop reliving these massacres and thinking we can pray our way out while our heads are in the sand.

Take a look at that website! It’s awesome.

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