Appreciation or gratitude from others can be a fickle thing.
Others appreciate what you do for them but not who you are as an individual.
Or they appreciate the way you appear, aesthetically,
Or how you fill their desire,
Or how you fill a need,
Or how you fill a role…
But none of that is love.
They don’t show appreciation for who you are as a person, your values, character, choices, needs, feelings, your ideas, accomplishments, and failures.
In other words, they don’t care about you. They don’t love you because when they do you can feel it like a warm spring rain after winter.
They are a friend once they truly love and appreciate you and you them. You help each other when you’re down and you rejoice when you come up in the world.
I think it’s what matters most in life and man is it rare.