I read Bruce’s 1st edition of this book several years ago when it came out and now finished his latest one with changes just now. I recommend this new 10th Anniversary Edition.
I was reading it because I’m writing my own book that is a memoir encompassing the first half of my life, with the theme of synchronicity cues I saw throughout my life that helped me navigate family and relationship scenarios. His recent research on epigenetics and the subconscious mind really opened up another panorama for me as I was raised in a genealogically myopic family. Ancestry was a very big deal. It was all well intended, not to be elitist or biased in any way, as my family heartily embraces other cultures. But it was still overkill.
In my family, I think the purpose was to sweep some skeletons back into their graves; to portray a picture of our family as better than it was in terms of behavior. This is nothing new. Welcome to the human family on this planet! Everyone wants others to believe they’re better than the other guy, that their family is somehow exceptional. God it’s nauseating.
So, here’s the new deal though. Bruce has scientific study upon scientific study showing that we are in the 2:98 ratio. Meaning, 2% of our DNA is from our family and 98% of our DNA is from our environment. What we hear, learn, see, speak, do, pick up like a sponge and imprint on and continue to morph ourselves on is mostly what makes us who we are. Your DNA keeps changing after birth and throughout your life. DNA is not static; it’s active! Your birth genes are practically squat. All they did was give you a blueprint for your body, but they don’t control your body. That’s the first breakthrough. YOWSA!! Right?
The 2nd big piece of news is that again, tons of studies have shown that your subconscious mind, as a baby, and even pre-conception, conception, pre-natal, and early post-natal are completely formed by your mother and father. Holy crap Batman we are SCREWED! Right? No. You still have a conscious mind and free will, if you use it and activate it. What your mother thought, felt, watched, said, experienced, ate, the people she hung around, imprinted your subconscious mind that you have no control over and cannot change. I thought I was going to fall off of my chair when I read that. The best thing you can do with this is have a good power sharing relationship between your conscious self (your will) and your subconscious mind (your programming).
Now, before we all panic, do you really know your facts here? What year were you born? Now go back 12 months (or so) and FIND OUT, if you don’t already know, what your mother was doing, thinking, feeling, and experienced a few months before you were conceived, and then when you were in utero. That is, if you can. This is big information for you because the way it works is, when you as a personality are not consciously picking your life today, willing the way you want things to go, making decisions, etc., you mind relaxes into vigilant subconscious mode, which you are not in the least aware of, controlled by…your parents. Holy crap!! This is frightening to me. When you wonder why you do something that you did not choose…look at your parents. You imprinted on it like a sponge in utero! It’s not your fault and you can’t change it.
I was born in 1963. My mother’s conscious mind, while I was in utero was in the 1950’s world. That is accurate. My house today tends to be retro, I’m traditional, love baking, home-making, cooking, gardening, eating, Leave it To Beaver nauseating stuff feels natural to me. I can’t help it! My conscious, birth personality is the opposite, thank god. I’m a free spirit gypsy, end of the line hippie, artist, dreamer, holistic, musician. Ah…that’s better. June Cleaver with hippie flowers and peace sign tatooed on her back is more like it. I will be going toward that light from now on.
So, if you want to understand yourself better, take your birth year and go backwards into your mother’s time, her way of thinking, and what mindset she was in when you were in her and you will find some BIG answers. Secondary to her is your father and then all the others in the home and others around them.