Healers heal themselves, they don’t heal others. We can share our work with others though so they can be about taking care of themselves also. Healers are authentic, living examples of how we can step out of our subconscious imprinting from parents, family, and provincial upbringing to create our conscious mind and live a truly free life of our choosing. We also know how to access the information in our unconscious mind through the dream state. The unconscious mind transcends the intellect, brings forward intuition and allows it to MANIFEST in physical! The information in the dream state, where there is no thinking, is available to everyone.
I don’t think anyone knows they exist. Yet that’s the only type of man I’ve ever partnered with and in addition, they are super intelligent. Talk about freaks and geeks. They are right up my alley and this planet is very stressful and nye on impossible for these men.
This has hit my consciousness because my good friend is building an empathogenic center in Costa Rica. Empathogens are;
- Psilocybin mushrooms
- MDMA (Ecstasy)
Some only consider MDMA and drugs similar to it to be empathogens but he listed all of these. Why is it mostly men that need empathogens? Because women are naturally or societally sanctioned to feel their feelings? Women don’t need them. I certainly don’t. But we know for a fact that men and women both have feelings. It’s just that women are encouraged to express them and men aren’t. In addition, some women are extremely mean and even abusive to sensitive men. This is a taboo subject and many men won’t speak up. But I do know that women can be just as cruel as men.
No man I’ve ever been with has used these drugs and neither have I. The men I’ve been with have only used the legal, awful stuff; cigarettes and alcohol and consequently died from both of those. Those two are worse for you than any of the ones above. Another friend was basically raised to use weed constantly and in his twenties, he’s already impotent. People say pot can’t hurt you but men who become estrogen dominant because of cannabis and lose their testosterone levels are definitely hurt if they lose their sex drive.
Artistic men express their feelings through music, acting, or art and more. Mystic, healer and sensitive men do. My son does and he is struggling to find a mentor as his elder with which to find affinity. His father, who was a savant musician died three years ago so he no longer has him. He hears music in his mind constantly; complicated harmonies which need orchestration. He needs to make a decision about whether to learn to orchestrate or not and whether or not to accept the type of brain he has. The therapists want to call him schizoaffective but I believe he’s just a channel and needs to get it out. Is he really going to take pills or could he use the natural substances listed above? The jury is still out on it. He might not need it since he is already empathic. Duplicating it would not be good for his brain. There is no substitute for a conscious, informed choice in these circumstances.
Have you ever known anyone who has used these natural hallucinogens? Please leave a comment if you have.
If you’re not looking for a heterosexual partnership, then none of this will matter to you. I am looking for that. This is the second time it’s happened to me and now I’ve learned to spot the cues. Please note, this is not a judgment in any way, shape or form of bisexual men. However, I feel they should be upfront about being bisexual if they are active before they ask you to have sex with them. This last fellow was not honest, at all, presents as straight in public and may be in the closet. In fact, he’s faked out quite a few women to take advantage of them.
The cues are:
- They’ve never been married and have no children even in their 50’s.
- They admit they’ve been serious with 2-3 women in their life.
- They admit they do not want a relationship. In other words, they are promiscuous or at least polyamorous.
- They admit having unresolved childhood abuse issues.
- They call multiple women sweetie, honey, throw around the kissing emoji’s on social media like they’re candy, and are very goopy publicly with straight women. No straight guy is like that with women. No way no how. It’s gay.
- He is very good looking and does all the superficial landscaping and tanning of his body to lure women in like Fabio. LOL
- He likes money and to be perceived as alpha compared to straight men
- Most of his followers are women
- Most of his activity is on social media, not in person because he knows you’ll be able to scope him out too easily and learn the truth.
What do you think? Have you known men like this? Am I onto something or am I off? No hate mail, please.
You may be alone or single and in need of male attention which makes you vulnerable. After all, straight guys are not known for being very expressive, romantic, or sweet; not like gay men! Some women like or need that more than others which makes you an easy touch for a good looking bi-sexual man who will use and throw you.
You’ve been warned. Being a straight woman is no picnic these days because straight men are in the throes of social change. As you know from reading my blogs, I endorse self-care and not needing a man to adore you. The synchronicities start to line up and it’s very likely you’ll attract a soul mate or your Twin Flame as you center yourself in self-love. That’s where I’m finally sitting. Being lusty about men has gotten me into a heap of trouble. I’ve decided it’s not worth it anymore.
Sometimes, when you know another person who is more conscious, better at loving and taking care of themselves, has achieved independence or interdependence and has the money they need, you think that by trying to align as an equal you’ll gain an advantage for yourself. After all, they must have plenty to spare since they’re so abundant?
No. You’re in a vampiric mindset. Instead, be grateful that you have a teacher and listen to what they have to say. Someone who is more together than you is due your respect, not your usage. They’re not a guru or due homage; just respect. Don’t try to use them as though they are your friend or you will have more karma on your head. If they are awake, they’ll be able to tell what you’re doing and not allow it. Use your intuition.
Everyone makes different choices and comes to the planet for different lessons. In essence, we are mostly students and teachers for one another but once in a while, you find someone at your same level of awakening who can be your friend; someone with whom you can share your heartbreak and fears who you can trust won’t stab you in the back while you’re down. That’s what lightworkers have to watch out for. Even other lightworkers will do it not understanding that they haven’t taken full responsibility for their bad choices nor apologized to people they should apologize to because of their ego. We all still have some ego but it should wane as we mature.
Many people carry unconscious, “I’m a victim” energy, especially from their families that they haven’t overstepped. In that case, the usage of others is so normal that they don’t think a thing about it. Their energy is gimme, gimme, gimme and their motivation for giving something to you is to get something in return that they need. They don’t care about you. They assume you know how to give yourself everything you need and don’t need others. That’s never the case. In fact, it is believed in spiritual circles that even God needs us for the company. That may be the motivation for creating worlds. Everyone has needs.
We are most vulnerable with family members who wrongly make the assumption that just because you share DNA, not necessarily RNA, you’ll freely give them your ideas and energy to use for themselves. Don’t do it. Family members are notorious for using each other instead of taking care of themselves. Our whole culture supports the dysfunctional cycle and many are not aware that they are still in it. One look at their health picture/body will tell you the truth.
Sharing is important but be discerning about with whom you share yourself, your ideas, and your feelings. Sometimes the person you think you can trust the most is the one you should trust the least. I’m learning from Twin Flame right now as an equal but that’s been ongoing for three years. We continually learn from one another. It’s all good.
The desire for privacy is vastly different than wanting to keep secrets. Intelligent people can feel whether you’re authentic or not. If you keep secrets, it’s a lie and manipulative. Spinning an image is politics and greed.
Privacy is for mystics and artists who need silence to hear their muses and manifest truth that comes out of their feelings and body. Privacy is needed to channel the intuition and bring forth Love.
This one floored me when I saw it. What do you think?
The first question I asked myself was “Why is this true?” The quote is attributed to Graham Greene. There are several to be found online and I’m not sure which one he is but those listed are all artists of some type.
I personally agree that we cannot love without intuition because intuition has its source in the unconscious mind, the Id, sex, chaos, passion, wild emotion, dreams and so forth. When we really love someone it’s a powerful draw, magnetic, a longing. In my case, it’s possible destiny. Sometimes the person shows up in our dreams. This is a psychic event as in psyche and not simply lust. I have experienced this. Have you? I want to know if you have. Tell me about it.
There is no rational reason why you are so drawn to this person. But many times there are synchronicities. I’ve blogged on here about my twin flame which was highly surrounded in synchronicity and still is. We’re still in touch, talked a lot last week, and he is being a little warm but nothing major. And another man is in my psychic space that I haven’t fleshed out yet. We haven’t met but I’d like to meet him. I’m not in love with him though as I am with my Twin Flame. Both of them have been in my dreams and are not just issues of lust so I know they are hooked to my psyche.
The Id, which is below the subconscious ego is also basically the lower body, below the navel. From a man’s perspective, of course, you cannot love without intuition because, for them, they cannot love without sex. That begs the question, “Is sex the seat of a man’s intuition?” Holy crap!!!! I never thought of that but it makes sense. Let me know if you think that’s the case. Women will be floored if that’s true. I need the men to let me know if sex is intuitive for you. I better stop there. As a woman, sex is not intuitive for me. The seat of my intuition is chakras 6, 5, and 4 (third eye, throat, and heart)
I hope I hear from you.
“We join spokes together in a wheel,
but it is the center hole
that makes the wagon move.
We shape clay into a pot,
but it is the emptiness inside
that holds whatever we want.
We hammer wood for a house,
but it is the inner space
that makes it livable.
We WORK with being,
but non-being is what we USE.
I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them. Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am. There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.
But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal. The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting. Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with. Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.
How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going. It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.
It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it. Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.
I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not? The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it. I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild. It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.
It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface, there is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore. Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.
Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild. Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.
But I can’t seem to find my way over
Wandering I am lost
As I travel along the white cliffs of Dover
And it’s only my will that keeps me alive
I’ve been licked, washed up for years
And I merely survive because of my pride
It’s such a drag to be on your own
My woman left me and she didn’t say why
Well I guess, I have to try